Everyone has their own favorite movies, TV shows and novels, and they follow the ups and downs of the drama.
Sometimes sad, sometimes laughing, sometimes cheerful, sometimes depressed. Have you ever thought about why it attracts you so much?
On the surface, you are watching other people's dramas, but in fact, these stories that touch you are exactly the interpretation of your own inner script.
That’s why I was so touched after seeing it.
American psychologist Eric Byrne proposed the concept of "life script".
He believes that the life script is the plan for one's life in childhood.
Everyone's childhood forms a "life script", which is like a person's life script, with a beginning, expansion, climax, end and coda.
If you don't know yourself well enough, you usually can't understand what this script is. You can only know it when it is expanded.
Childhood is a critical period for personality formation, and personality is the script of life planning; therefore, the experience of this stage of life determines the trend of the entire life.
In the early stages of a baby's life, a baby is extremely dependent on his parents and his heart is extremely fragile. His understanding of the world, others and himself must be completed through feedback from his parents or other important caregivers.
Such as: hungry, sleepy, peeing, diarrhea, etc. If parents can meet the needs in time, the baby will think that he is great, his parents are good, and the world is bright.
On the contrary, you will feel that you are bad, your parents are bad, and the world is dark.
Then the baby internalizes the initial feedback from his parents and forms the prototype of his own personality. As he grows older, he will use this prototype to collide with the world.
In the process of collision, people with strong awareness will understand through exploration and understanding how inner consciousness affects and determines external reality.
For those who are not sensitive enough, their fate can only continue to reincarnate according to the "script of life".
This life script is sometimes on the conscious level, which we can remember clearly;
but many times, it is on the subconscious level, which we cannot clearly perceive, but it secretly affects our life choices.
What is conscious can be controlled; but how to identify and grasp the subconscious life script?
Through the ABC model of rational emotive therapy by American psychologist Albert Ellis , we know that it is not the event itself that affects our emotional behavior, but our thoughts, opinions and values about the event.
Human nature seems obscure, but in fact everything is traceable.
So through the external reality, we can also speculate and understand the inner consciousness.
The stories everyone tells are actually about themselves. For example:
The famous novel "Norwegian Wood" by Haruki Murakami , a Japanese novelist, is based on his own real life. The personality of the novel's heroine Midori is the prototype of his wife's personality.
"King of Animation" Hayao Miyazaki The scene of the river god taking a bath in his masterpiece "Spirited Away" also comes from his impressive childhood experience of river dredging.
Almost all the familiar works of Stephen Chow continue the pattern: it is the story of a low-level little person who, through his unremitting efforts, finally "becomes a god".
The emotional logic in " Journey to the West " and "Journey to the West: Conquering the Demons" is that the male protagonist always has an evasive and humiliating attitude towards the female protagonist who loves him, until the female protagonist proves her true love with her own death, and finally replaces the male protagonist's grief and becomes a "god".
Stephen Chow in real life is also a portrayal of how he finally rose to the top of life through struggle. At the same time, his emotional life was also bumpy and lonely.
's works contain all kinds of inner feelings of his real life.
As a result, these art creators have reached a consensus that only things flowing from the depths of their subconscious minds can impress the audience more.
Therefore, as viewers, when we see movies, TV shows and novels that can trigger strong feelings in ourselves, we might as well be aware of when we have experienced the feeling at this moment in our growth, rather than just using it as a kind of entertainment.
and recalling the specific scene at that time in as much detail as possible is to allow you to return to that strong feeling and understand the thoughts generated by that feeling, that is, the subconscious mind.
When you understand your subconscious mind, you will also understand your "life script", and you can actively rewrite your life plan according to your own wishes.
Our growing life is a life of constantly experiencing various traumas, and we will learn to deal with trauma through awareness, exploration and understanding, and then gain spiritual growth.
Because everyone will leave wounds of varying sizes during their growth, there is no need to be too sensitive to "trauma". To paraphrase a poem by the poet Rumi: The wound is the place where light enters your heart.
Precisely because of the wounds, when encountering similar scenes, we can evoke the painful feelings of childhood, and then through our deliberate awareness and understanding, we can restore the light and warmth to the once dark pole in our hearts.
I hope that we can all identify the original "life script" in the torrent of life, so that we can live the way we want according to the new script in our hearts.
