Some time ago, I disappeared from the social platform and fell into mental internal friction for a period of time.
A few friends quickly realized something was wrong and came to ask me what was wrong. I said it was okay. I was old and didn’t like to post news. The truth was that I almost felt depressed during that period.
I have been lying at home for several days, not going anywhere, no one can make an appointment, hundreds of groups, I don’t speak, and I have posted very few messages on my circle of friends.
Although I still eat and drink, I read books and exercise every day, but only I know that something seems to be wrong with me. Because when I get emotional, I feel a little uncomfortable in my stomach.
This situation lasted for 2 weeks. One day, I suddenly received a training invitation from China Light Industry Federation . Fu F invited me to train the students to get the senior professional certificate. I seemed to see the light again and immediately resurrected. Every day, I started to get busy like a chicken blood, and all kinds of social interactions were so active.
Only then can you really say goodbye to internal emotional friction. Sure enough, I am busy and can cure all diseases hahaha. After
, I thought about why people like me can also get internal friction, and what is affecting me.
Because I have never been caught in this situation, I rarely compare myself with others, nor will I deny myself so completely after comparison.
I sorted out and finally found the reason why it is easy to get into internal friction. Let's see if you are the same?
The reason for me to internally consume is because my friends around me are too crambling———
My friend A suddenly went to take the teacher certificate exam and joined a school. His salary was just tens of thousands in a small city. In recent years, she started a business, bought a house, and found a life partner. Now she switched to the industry and easily achieved her goal. I think in comparison, I am really a failure.
After all, we are the best friends, and we came from the same school. Why did I fail so much?
My friend B, who has learned several skills in a month, worked as a team leader, attended the graduation ceremony, and got a certificate that he had only obtained thousands of questions before he got the exam. She usually had to manage the company, manage the team, and accompany her children. She actually had time to meet so many people every day and establish various social relationships.
Awesome. I doubt life again, how did this be done?
My friend C, the main business is a trendy brand, and the side business is a Xiaohongshu company, has tens of thousands of fans. I have received various brands' cooperation, and seeing his circle of friends, there are still various activities, so exciting...
, why do I live seriously, and my daily life is not as rich as him.
My friend D, the side job exam, education and education improvement will never fall in love. It has been transformed in one year. Every day I look at her circle of friends, I feel like a king of books.
, why are they all girls? They are in a high-end version of life, I live like a standard version, ahhhh, what's scary is that I don't work hard, but that I can't reach someone else's toe after working hard.
I am almost depressed by external information every day.
To be honest, sometimes, I feel that living in an excellent circle is a kind of spiritual destruction for people who are not strong enough in their hearts hahaha.
We always like to compare ourselves with others, and then feel that everything we do is not good, and how good others think, just internal emotional friction has exhausted our all our strength.
I have been experiencing internal consumption for almost 2 weeks, and slowly recovered, and share with you the way I say goodbye to anxiety.
1. Top your shielding power to avoid the impact of the outside world on your dimensionality reduction
We live in a high-pressure environment, with outstanding talents emerging one after another. We see various reports every day and hear all kinds of news about people around us. We either have verified again or have promoted or found a good partner. Such news may be fine if we listen to it once or twice.
But when you open your circle of friends every day, such news will really cause anxiety. People like me who are mentally tolerant cannot avoid it.
If you are also in such an environment, appropriately blocking your circle of friends is a way. This information will not bring much benefit to life except to add pressure to us.
2. Extract others' advantages and find win-win points
What attitude should we face when seeing those people around us who are better than you?
Maybe our first reaction is to feel stress and anxiety. It seems that no matter how hard we try, we can't catch up with others, but after thinking in reverse, should we be glad that it is these people that encourage us to keep working hard?
The better they are, does it mean that we may be better in the future?
We want to be more helpful when doing things? If we want to learn, is it easy to find a good teacher?
Thinking about it like this will make you feel that this is a good thing and you will lose most of your anxiety. What we should think about is how to learn from your friends around you when they succeed in their studies and slowly surpass them in the future.
For example, if A took the teacher certificate , can I ask her how to take the test? How to become a school teacher? If it works for me, can I take one exam? What about expanding some school training resources in the future?
B has taken the family education certificate. Can I consult how to take the exam for this certificate? If you have any questions about this in the future, can you consult her?
C Xiaohongshu's side job has been made. As good friends, can we invite him and me to start a live broadcast and share Xiaohongshu's operation and monetization experience together? Will there be more cooperation points in the future? Aren’t our relationship closer?
D Can I get rid of singleness in love and balance my career growth? Can I ask her how to get rid of singleness and how to balance the two?
In short, there are too many places to learn. When I think about it, I become full of energy again. I feel that everyone’s growth is a good thing for me. On the one hand, there are more help around me, and on the other hand, my learning resources have become richer.
3. Extend the dimension of time and clarify your growth rhythm
I don’t know if you have encountered this situation. You were originally in good life, but once the people around you get up, they feel that their growth is nothing, so they completely deny their advantages and efforts and fall into long-term self-doubt.
In fact, this is a kind of zero-sum psychology at work. He regards other people's success as his own failure and his rhythm as his own frequency, so he falls into a black and white thinking of one rising and the other falling.
blindly treating other people's lives as your reference. In addition to making yourself more worried about gains and losses and hesitation, it is also equivalent to drawing a dungeon for yourself and confining your world to such a palm-sized place.
You should know that there is more than one track in this world. Others are better than you in this track, which does not mean that she is better than you in another dimension.
Others have grown very fast in the past or two years, which does not mean that she has always been so fast. You are running slowly for the time being, which does not mean that you have been so slow in your life. The contest in life can never be completed in one or two years.
Put the target farther, enlarge the pattern a little, and grow step by step according to your own pace. Sooner or later, you will usher in your own explosive period.
Don’t use your five years of hard work. Compared with the ten years of hard work of others, the time is different and the accumulation is different, how can the result be the same?
Don’t use your own life anymore. You can measure and compare according to other people’s scripts. You come to this world not to compete with others, but to live out your own light.
I am Su Le, and I have published "Full Guide to Self-Media Operation: Copywriting + Traffic Creation + Personal Brand + Advantage Positioning + Platform Operation" in Tsinghua University Press " The new book was launched in one week and ranked first in the J Dong bestseller list and Douyin similar books. It is currently also a designated textbook for universities. Printed in 3 months after publication. 200,000 fan writing bloggers on the entire network, specially invited sharing lecturers on platforms such as Jianshu, Fushu, Fan Deng Reading, Classical Teacher Team, Zhang Meng Mengjie New Book Community. Looking forward to your attention
