Young people have three hardships
Insomnia, going to work and getting up
Young people are all hard-earned early
When we have the most perseverance in the day
Maybe it's the morning
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For example, when we woke up, we found that Alarm clock still rings
We will grit our teeth and insist on sleeping for this minute
Never waste any second!
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For example, set five or six alarm clocks, once every five minutes
Your old man on the upper floor was awakened by a quarrel
And you are still sleeping soundly
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Difficulty to get up is one of the manifestations of procrastination and insufficient self-control.
Many people believe that this habitual procrastination is because of laziness and lack of self-discipline. In fact, lazy and delay have no direct relationship.
- In the concept of lazy people, the settings of options are divided into "do" and "not do".
- In the concept of procrastination patients, there is only one setting to choose: "do"! If you do it later, of course you have to get up, but before getting up, you can take a nap.
Most people do not understand procrastination, nor do they understand the reasons for their procrastination, and have been deeply trapped, but they cannot solve it.
Procrastination is a result, not a cause
needs to be clear, "procrastination" is not a "mental and mental illness". Whether from the internationally common Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Diseases (DSM-V) or China's Diagnostic Manual of Mental Diseases, procrastination is not in the list of disease nouns.
But from the perspective of psychodynamics, severe or frequent procrastination behavior of can be regarded as a symptom, and there must be deeper psychological meaning or complex psychological motivation behind it.
Really need not be met
If the alarm clock sounds, the feeling of lying on the bed is as an intermediate value.
When we feel that after we get up, the feeling that we have done or what we have to go through is lower than this intermediate value , then we will choose to procrastinate.
For example, we know that getting up means going to work, but these are not happy for most people, so we will delay getting up;
or feel that things after getting up are boring! Even too cold weather makes us think that the feeling after getting up will drop below the middle value, which will also make it difficult to get up.
. When you feel that is greater than this intermediate value , it will not happen that difficulty getting up.
For example, it is time to make an appointment with your friends to launch a new game with them at 7 o'clock in the morning.
Getting up is actually the time when we are avoiding the arrival of pain or delaying the arrival of pain.
In layman's terms, it means:
- First, hate this thing, or feel that what you do is meaningless;
- Second, it seems that you have to do it.
This situation is actually very common in psychological counseling, that is, "pseudo-autologous" people.
For them, work is to fulfill the requirements of their bosses and colleagues for them, going to school is to meet the expectations of their parents, and making money is to cater to the society's evaluation of a person;
All the things they do are for others, and to meet the requirements of the outside world, they themselves cannot experience any happiness and meaning.
What method should I use to help myself?
Many people have made a lot of wake up plans for themselves in order to get rid of their procrastination.
When to go to bed, read books, and don’t play with your phone before going to bed...
But these themselves are conflicting, because implementing these plans requires good willpower. If
has good control, does the problem of procrastination still exist?
This is an "paradox".
Through the Internet, we know many ways to resist procrastination, but why are they still delayed by procrastination?
Because what we lack is not a method, what we lack is only our understanding.
In addition to "pseudo-autologous" , there are many subconscious ideological burdens behind procrastination, such as lacks confidence, lacks motivation, does not plan for self-development, etc.
If there are psychological problems such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem , it will also induce procrastination.
These problems are difficult to discover and change with personal "work".
So after procrastination, changing your daily routine and establishing good habits is one aspect;
On the other hand, psychological treatment is also needed to change your cognitive concepts through psychological treatment, establish positive emotions, act immediately, get rid of procrastination, etc.
Professional psychological counselors can also help you clear up negative emotions and fill in the negative shadows from your growth experience.
Of course, if you find that the method you formulate is good, but still lack motivation in the process of using actions, then it is obviously more important to find professional psychological help. The treatment of procrastination mainly starts with daily life and combines psychological methods to help individuals get rid of procrastination. Generally, no medication or surgical treatment is required.
and procrastination has a good prognosis . It can generally be cured after treatment, but under certain inducing factors, the probability of recurrence of procrastination is still high, and special attention should be paid in daily life.
