Children who cannot "play" well often cannot learn well; please let the children play during exercise so that they can have health, responsibility and persistence.
——Sa Jie
Author: Warmth
When I came back from a trip two days ago, I brought some small gifts to my niece. The day she sent her to her, she collapsed on the sofa and said nothing.
I asked her:
"Doudou, why are you so tired?"
She looked bitter:
"It's not my mother yet. I think I'm not bad at the final exam. I signed up for me three tutoring classes, and the summer vacation is fast It's over, I haven't had any fun." After saying that, I showed me her plan.
When I looked, the full schedule was not blank.
So I turned around and asked her mother:
"What are you doing to force your child so tight? You should leave her some time to play."
She curled her mouth and said:
"The results are so bad, how can you still If you dare to let her play and let her continue to be free, you won’t be able to pass the high school exam.”
It can be seen that she is very anxious.
Many parents are like this in their hearts. When they see that their children have poor grades, they immediately want him to make up for it. When they talk about playing, they become more and more terrified and think that "the plaything is lost."
Little do you know that children who can’t play are more terrifying than children who can’t learn.
Psychologist David Aiken said:
The golden triangle leading to happiness in life is love, hard work and play.
Playing not only occupies an important time in children's childhood, it also hides the great wisdom of life.
Do not allow children to play, it means depriving them of their lives.
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Children who can play will be more likely to succeed in the future
Regarding the matter of "playing", There is a classic experiment in Developmental Psychology:
They divided the 90 children in kindergarten into three groups. The first group of children can choose four kinds of common items such as a stack of tissues, a screwdriver, a wooden board, a pile of paper clips, etc. to play freely; The second group of children, researchers asked them to imitate the staff and use them according to daily methods. These items; The third group of children could not see the items, and they sat at the table to draw randomly the pictures they wanted to draw. Ten minutes later, the researchers asked the children to tell us how to use one of the items.
The result shows that
The children who play freely say that they use it three times the way they use it in a regular and creative way than the other two groups of children.
"Play" is the most important growth weapon for children in their lives.
Children will unconsciously enter a state of learning while playing. At this time, they will not suppress their needs and creativity, and can flexibly use their brains to maximize their thinking and creativity.
Costa Rica Children's pedagogy and psychologist Gavre Madrid once pointed out in the National:
Exercise and play are the best "tools" for children to learn to observe, recognize, understand, speak and act, and can promote : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : : Children's brain intelligence development .
Many parents don’t want their children to play because they are afraid of delaying their children’s studies.
In fact, compared with children who have been forced to study, those who can run around in the rice fields, graffiti on the walls, and use games to suppress them, their thinking will be broader and their heads will be more flexible.
famous cartoonist Cai Zhizhong When he was a child, he was very playful and especially liked graffiti.
One day, he secretly came to his father's study, picked up his father's brush and drew many strange shapes on the wall, and painted a snow-white wall with black.
When my father came back, he saw his masterpiece and did not blame him. Instead, he bought him a small blackboard for him to draw it to his heart's content. The blackboard
later became a small world for him to express his emotions.
Later, he slowly developed graffiti into a hobby, and became a professional cartoonist at the age of 15, creating more than 100 works.
Children are natural pattern seekers. They mainly learn knowledge and accumulate experience through games.
If children are allowed in this regard, their nature will be released faster and "give bricks and tiles" to future success.
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The greatest cruelty in education is to prevent children from "playing"
Psychiatrist Stewart Brown spent 42 years interviewing 6 000 people learned about their childhood life.
Results show:
If you cannot play freely in childhood, the child may not be happy when he grows up; And these children will appear lonely in their personalities when they grow up; , dull, even sensitive, irritable, and irritable.
Children will have such results and often cannot be separated from their families.
Many parents restrict their children from playing on the grounds of concentrating on studying, for fear that their children will fall behind when they relax.
There is a report in "Children and Adolescent Medical Literature" that
Children's free time to play has been reduced by 25% in just 15 years. Many parents sacrifice their time to play for them in order to raise their children and arrange them Many extracurricular activities deprive children of their time to play.
In this way, the child is in a high pressure state for a long time, and the overloaded brain will be in a state of fatigue, which will make the child more likely to have psychological problems.
There is a question on Zhihu : What should a person who only learns but can’t play?
An anonymous netizen said:
When I was a child, my parents would not take him out to play often. They would only tell him, "Your task now is to study, and when you grow up, you will have time to play."
So until the second year of high school, he was a person who only knew how to learn except learning.
After entering the second year of high school, the pressure of learning has increased, resulting in emotional obstacles, and many times people are particularly collapsed.
didn't care at that time.
The pressure increased repeatedly when the third year of high school, causing the whole nerve to be tense. On the eve of the college entrance examination, I fell into depression and even failed the college entrance examination.
had no choice but to enter a third-rate university, but his mentality was still unable to adjust, and he even wanted to commit suicide as soon as he got home.
Depriving children of "playing" means pushing the children into the entrance of high pressure. The biggest reason why children like
have psychological problems is that they play too little, which leads to sensory system disorders. In addition, the pressure given by parents makes the children unable to release them, and mental breakdown will lead to more and more psychological problems.
Children who are not good at "playing" often cannot learn well.
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Let children "learn to play" is the highest learning ability
The top scholar Yutong took the highest score in Shijiazhuang in 2017.
is a playful girl in the eyes of outsiders.
The reason why she plays is because her hard work has caused her to have a bottleneck period in her studies.
In order to change this state, in addition to learning, she also plays cosply and mobile games.
Through playing, she was relaxed in her studies, which made her more energetic in her studies and more efficient in her studies.
In the eyes of ordinary parents, "playing" is a waste of time, but children who really know how to play will regard it as the ability to acquire knowledge, not only mediate emotions, but also learn everything while playing.
There is a proverb that says: only learns but doesn’t play, smart children will become stupid.
Every child desires free time to play. If the child can enjoy the fun while allowing his brain to learn, the child's future will definitely be icing on the cake.
As the saying goes, The more you play, the more promising the child is.
Let the child "learn to play" and will become his lifelong "wealth".
However, this does not mean that children can play casually.
Only when parents understand the wisdom of "playing" will its value be magnified.
1) Improve children's "gaming power"
American education expert Dr. Masi said:
"What makes children stand out is not to read in advance, but to play, Games, games. "
Games can make children devote themselves and stimulate While the brain will stimulate children's creativity.
However, this does not mean that we should encourage our children to play games, but games set by parents for their children, which can help children improve their wisdom while playing.
Psychologist Smilansky once conducted research on young children and games, saying that:
Infancy, functional games can be performed, such as pushing balls, chasing balls, etc., which can exercise children's muscles; Over 2 years old, you can build games, like Build building blocks and drawing to let children experience the pleasure of creation in the game; 3 years old and over, you can play pretend games, play house, role-playing, etc., so that children can stimulate their imagination through imitation; 6 years old and over, you can play regular games , for example, chess and card games, let children understand the role of rules in the game and improve their logical thinking.
We should not make children's lives monotonous, stereotyped and boring, as this will only make children as passionate as completing tasks. The interaction of the game
is the best learning ability for children. If parents can participate, it can stimulate their children's interest.
2) From the exercise, keep children happy
Brain scientist Professor Hong Lan pointed out:
The three magic weapons for early enlightenment of children's education are: Sports, reading and gaming.
We want our children to learn in happiness, so that they must first keep their body and mind happy.
If the child's body is activated, his thinking will become broader.
A father from Changsha set a task for his son: "I haven't had enough fun for two hours every day and I'm not allowed to do my homework."
Throughout the summer vacation, my father took his children to travel through various sports activities, including rowing , skiing, tree climbing and survival in the wild.
Every time a boy goes out to exercise, he is full of happiness and positive energy.
At the same time, the boy did not delay his study because of too much time to "play", and his grades have always been among the best.
Playing is not only for the child to play, but also for her to feel it.
Regular travel, mountain climbing, outings, and energy-consuming exercises not only broaden their horizons, but also improves the child's ability, confidence and character, and will become his motivation to move forward.
Play during exercise to give children health, responsibility and persistence.
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Jack Ma once said in a speech:
If we continue to remember, memorize and calculate our children, These things are forced to be carved by children, so they are not allowed to play or experience, and they are not allowed to try piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. I think it means that you will not be able to find a job here after the New Year because you can't compete for this era.
"Play" is not just entertainment, it is also the foundation of knowledge between heaven and earth.
Children understand the world, explore the future through "playing", and master their own sense and principles.
Children who "can play" can better understand: what they like and want in the future, turn direction into motivation, and play to a new height in life.
Therefore, don’t suppress your children’s desire to play, but encourage them to explore while playing.
allows children to "play" and let them find the direction of life in wisdom.
