The following is a conversation between my wife and I. It is written in my profile that I work in the construction industry and spend very little time with my children. My wife is basically in charge of my children’s education. My daughter-in-law loves to read parenting books. Wh

The following is a conversation between my wife and I. It is written in my profile that I work in the construction industry and spend very little time with my children. My wife is basically in charge of my children’s education. My daughter-in-law loves to read parenting books. When she sees some chicken soup about how dad should deal with it, she likes to send it to me so that I can learn from it. In fact, it can be regarded as an indirect criticism. I don’t know if you have a wife of the same style.

digressed, back to the topic. My son is 8 years old this year and is in the second grade of elementary school. The incident happened when his little girl at the same table invited him to dinner. The little girl’s father works in Guangzhou. It’s not summer vacation anymore. Her mother must take her to see her father and play by the way. Children like to show off, so they said they wanted to stay in a sea-view room. My son is actually very sensible, because I stayed at home for two months this year due to the epidemic. My son could understand that the family's finances were a little tight, but he really wanted to go out and play, so he cried aggrievedly.

As soon as I heard this, my first reaction was to stop my son’s comparison mentality. In a fit of anger, he said to his wife: If you encourage his mentality, I'll see if you can bear it in the future. This sentence aroused strong dissatisfaction from the daughter-in-law, which almost started to explode (see screenshot for details). After

calmed down, he wondered if he was too sensitive. In fact, his wife had taught him well (see screenshot).

I recall that I also experienced such low self-esteem and unhappiness when I was a child. When children are together, you have this, I don’t, or I have both, just to compete with each other, to compare each other’s strength, so this kind of mentality is also normal. It is important to realize and start to guide your children correctly so that they understand that comparison is okay, but there is much more important than money.

For example, guide your children like this. Although mom and dad don’t have that much money, mom and dad love you more than anyone else. Others have money but don’t have time to accompany them, so they buy them a lot of things. Mom and dad can also afford those things, but Mom and dad should keep this money and use it to give you the best love.

Comparison is not scary, let the children understand what is more important. Compared with soul, kindness, and inner connotation, these are things that money cannot buy.