Bags, mirrors and notebooks, how to get rid of depression?
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bag
Psychology professor Barbara Fredrickson, in the book "The Power of Positive Emotions", suggests that everyone put items that can produce positive emotions into a bag. When you are unhappy, Take it out and look at it, let the positive past help us get out of depression.
The operation is very simple. It should be noted that when putting items into the bag, you must carefully taste your emotions at the time.
For example, if you receive a small gift and plan to record it, then: How does this gift make you feel?
Why do you like this feeling?
What kind of positive experience did the gift give you?
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Like this, when there are more and more things in the bag, you will find that life is based on a positive atmosphere.
- Because the perspective of looking at things is different.
When a person focuses on things that cause him to have positive experiences and pays attention to collecting them every day, then he will deliberately search for them and work hard to filter them. It's like looking at everything in life through colored glasses, and things will naturally change.
- constantly replenishes the items in the bag. Every time I look back, I feel that the beauty in life is greater than the darkness.
People can easily fall into associations and give themselves hints.
Things that bring positive experiences constantly remind us how wonderful and beautiful the past has been - life is like a sunflower garden under the sun~ we are illuminated.
Correspondingly, we can also prepare "Calm Emotions Bag", "Successful Things Bag", "Happy Things Bag" and "Romantic Things Bag". What is put in is not necessarily specific objects, but can also be notes to record things. When re-reading Just as effective.
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mirror
Let’s talk about embodied cognition .
Psychologists have discovered that our mind can control our body to do actions, and at the same time, the actions and feelings of the body will in turn affect our mind.
In fact, our brains cannot clearly distinguish between physiology and psychology. The brain areas that manage physiology are usually also the brain areas that manage psychology.
Various experimental data also show that the body has a great impact on psychology, and even just changing a person's facial expression can change a person's emotions.
In the book "Embodied Cognition" by University of Chicago Professor of Psychology Sean Belloc, he introduced an experiment:
used medical beauty technology to calm down the wrinkles on the faces of patients with depression. As a result, their sadness The severity of negative emotions such as hopelessness and guilt was reduced by an average of 47%.
When people are unhappy, they often frown - wrinkles reflect inner feelings.
When a person cannot feel the wrinkles on his face, the brain does not receive further facial feedback. It will feel as if there is nothing unhappy, so the brain area that processes negative emotions is not so active.
Correspondingly, scientists have also found that basking in the sun, drinking hot drinks, and maintaining an open and powerful posture can have a positive impact on the heart.
So why don’t we take advantage of this?
Prepare a small mirror for your child. When your child is unhappy, remind him to smile in the mirror and maintain a confident posture, so that his brain can see himself in the mirror, receive positive feedback, and his mood will get better and better.
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Book
Prepare a book for your child. Before going to bed every night, take one minute to write down the three most joyful things of the day in the book.
These three things can be big or small, as long as they make the child happy. It doesn’t need to be very detailed, just one sentence will do.
For example, I was very happy to eat chicken drumsticks for lunch; my mother praised me; I finished my homework early.
will go to bed after writing and will not do anything else. Recording is the last thing you do before going to bed.
Just like this, if you stick to it for a week, you will find that your child is in high spirits every day.
Sleeping can help us consolidate our learning results. During sleep, the brain will continue to work and organize the information during the day.
What you learn during the day is almost forgotten by the time you go to bed. What you do before going to bed can be immediately consolidated during sleep, which is very effective.
Therefore, brain scientists recommend that people take advantage of this characteristic of sleep and study before going to bed. The same principle applies to letting children write happy things in a notebook before going to bed.
The brain will remember this feeling. Remember it every day, which is equivalent to repeating and confirming it. The brain will feel that we are surrounded by happy things every day, and then it will encourage us to wake up every day full of energy to meet this moment. Things that make us happy.
Summary:
Whether it is a bag, a mirror or a book for your child, give it to him solemnly to make him realize that it is important.
People in positive emotions will be full of energy, open-minded, and learn efficiently. At the same time, they will also have a positive impact on those around them.
Stay happy and let yourself get out of negativity. You are responsible for yourself and the people around you.
If you live in a group and know how to be responsible for yourself and others, your life will definitely get better and better.
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