If you are in a state of depression or anxiety, I would like to invite you to read the following short story:
In order to test which of his three disciples was the smartest, a Zen master gave each of them ten pieces of writing. Money, let them use the money to buy things and find ways to fill a huge room.
The first disciple thought about it for a long time and thought to himself: "What is the largest and cheapest thing on the market? Finally he ran to the market and bought a lot of cotton. But after buying it back, the cotton could only be A little more than half of the room was filled.
The second disciple also repeatedly searched for the largest and cheapest goods on the market. Finally, he chose the cheapest straw, but the straw worth ten cents could only fill three-thirds of the room. 2.
It was the turn of the last disciple. When the last disciple came back, he had nothing in his hands. When everyone was full of doubts, he asked the Zen master and the other two disciples to go into the room, and then opened the window and the room. The door was closed tightly, and the room suddenly became much darker. Then the disciple took out the things he bought from his arms, which turned out to be matches and candles. Every corner of the room was filled with light, so he won the competition.
The book "Emotional Self-Healing" mentioned that we often ignore many things, and we will pursue many things more eagerly. We are so satisfied with material enjoyment and power that we forget the things that make us most at ease and happy. Just like the room in the story, what can illuminate our hearts is the warmth and true feelings, and It is not material and power.
So, how can we keep ourselves calm and reduce the troubles of negative emotions? We can do these two things:
1. Make ourselves feel at ease
Wang Yangming said: "Sages have neither good nor evil. It's just that there is no good deeds, no evil deeds, and no anger. "
In the view of Wang Mingyang , the absence of good and evil is a manifestation of static conditions, and the presence of good and evil is a manifestation of qi. When we are in the world, we must maintain a quiet and pure heart and not pursue too much. Only in this way can we face difficulties and temptations calmly and keep ourselves in a calm state.
We can think about what is bothering us? Is life not as good as we expected? Or is our child not as smart as we imagined? Are we not good enough? We seem to be always running forward, but maybe our path has deviated without knowing it. We have forgotten that our original expectation for our children was to hope that they would be healthy and happy, and we have neglected the most important thing for ourselves. Important family ties and love, when depression and anxiety come, we can think about it, what do we need? Return to the original intention and let go of unnecessary things.
2. Recognize that you are just an ordinary person
Sometimes. We are always very critical of ourselves. If we make mistakes at work, we will blame ourselves. If we have conflicts with our children, we will also feel guilty. When we see that our parents are very old but still busy for us, we will think that we have become theirs. Burdened, have you ever felt that at these times we do not regard ourselves as ordinary people, but ask ourselves to become saints, the kind of people who never make mistakes and always bring positive energy to others?
But in fact, we are all just ordinary people. We all make mistakes, take detours, and feel powerless wrapped up in negative emotions. Be tolerant to yourself and tell yourself that we are just ordinary people, but we still work hard to live. This is something we should be proud of, isn’t it?
The Buddha said: One thought of foolishness is the end of Prajna, and one thought of wisdom is the birth of Prajna. When we feel that we are in a desperate situation, sometimes changing the way we think may be rebirth for us.
Finally, I would like to share two books with friends who are suffering from depression, "Emotional Self-Help" and "You Are Your Own Psychologist". How to adjust and improve depression by yourself. I suggest that depressed friends must read these two books. .
