shares 3 books on the theme of " positive psychology " and happiness in learning in one go.
What is happiness? How to obtain happiness? These three books tell us that happiness is related to positive thinking patterns, that there are methods to obtain happiness, and whether happiness or unhappiness depends on your view of the world.
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"Brain Code of Happiness"
Essence: Deal with the brain's inherent negative bias, let the brain operate actively, and gain a happy life.
" The Way of Happiness " The essence of
: Use positive psychology to gain happiness skills in study, work and intimate relationships.
" The Road to Happiness "
Essence: Happiness and misfortune do not depend on circumstances, but on differences in worldviews.
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"Brain Code of Happiness"
Essence: Deal with the brain's inherent negative bias, let the brain operate actively, and gain a happy life.
Part One, The Brain’s Negativity Bias.
During the course of evolution, the brain has evolved a deep-rooted negativity bias. Because our ancestors had to be born with worries to survive in a crisis-ridden environment, negative bias is "engraved into DNA."
The human brain has two basic operating modes: red mode and green mode.
red mode means danger, alert and stay away, and negativity bias is a typical red mode.
green mode means safety, stability and intimacy.
switches back and forth between red and green modes, and its external performance is sometimes positive and sometimes negative.
The longer your brain runs in green mode, the better for your health
Part 2: Let your brain work actively.
First, look back on positive experiences.
You can consciously and repeatedly review some more important and memorable positive experiences to reserve yourself the energy to switch to green mode.
Second, use flowers to weed weeds.
When flowers cover the courtyard, weeds will not be so annoying.
reinterprets the process of suffering and suffering, replacing "negative memory" with "positive interpretation", and the brain can turn from "red" to "green".
Third, share positive experiences.
Although positive experiences are short-lived, they can be amplified several times through sharing, just like happy emotions are contagious. "Alone Better Together".
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"The Method of Happiness"
Essence: Use positive psychology to gain happiness skills in study, work and intimate relationships.
Part one, gain happiness in learning.
first, drowning mode.
In fact, even the students of and Harvard University are mostly tired of studying. Many students are in a "drowning mode" in their learning.
"Drowning Mode" has two characteristics: a strong desire to be freed from pain; once freed, people often mistake the comfort for happiness, but will fall into anxiety within a few days because they are immediately involved in the next exam or In competition.
If this model does not change, he will spend his career in the same state.
Second, what can be done to change the above pattern?
In fact, learning is really not a painful thing. When the teacher's teaching arouses our interest, class becomes an enjoyment, and good grades are a by-product of everyone's happy learning.
If you find the above-mentioned "flow experience" state, learning will be happy.
Part 2, Finding Happiness at Work.
First, work is the most important activity in a person's life. If you cannot obtain happiness at work, your life experience will be very painful.
Second, how to obtain happiness at work?
First of all, we must admit that work is happiness. Challenges bring you a flow experience, especially when you're focused on the task.
Secondly, enthusiasm is the driving force of happiness. When employees feel that their performance belongs to them, they will be more enthusiastic about their work and gain more happiness.
Finally, find a sense of purpose. People's attitude towards work can be divided into three levels: task, career and sense of mission. If you find a sense of mission in your work, you will feel happy from the bottom of your heart.
Part 3, Finding Happiness in Intimate Relationships.
First, intimate relationships include love, family and friendship. Intimacy can "double the joy and halve the pain."
Second, a happy intimate relationship does not just exist, it needs to be managed by us. There are two principles for
's management:
does not measure love by external conditions, love needs to be judged by its essence; do not sacrifice blindly, sacrificing appearance is to obtain a better intimate relationship, but it often hinders one's own happiness.
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"The Road to Happiness"
Essence: Happiness and misfortune do not depend on circumstances, but on differences in worldviews.
Part one, for unfortunate reasons.
There are two major categories of causes of misfortune. One is the social system, which is difficult to change with personal power; the other is one's own psychological factors, which can be changed through hard work.
The psychological factors causing misfortune include competition, boredom and excitement, fatigue, jealousy, masochism, fear of public opinion, depression, etc.
first, competition.
There is nothing wrong with pursuing success. Success will bring satisfaction and happiness. But there is no need to overcompete and pay excessive prices. There are other things in life that make you happy besides competition.
Second, boredom and excitement.
Boredom and excitement come from boredom. One of the essences of this phenomenon is that human functions are not fully utilized.
Unhappiness is largely due to being too self-absorbed. If you want to be happy, you must work hard to become interested in the external world.
Third, fatigue.
Exhaustion is largely caused by worry.
solution:
Don't worry about things that cannot be changed; if you zoom in, you will find that the things you worry about are not worth mentioning in a larger perspective.
Fourth, jealousy.
You can't change the fact that others are better than you. If you want to stay away from jealousy, you must do the things in front of you steadily, enjoy the happiness of the moment, and avoid frequently comparing yourself with others.
Fifth, masochism.
Masochists always suspect that they have been treated unfairly, and naturally cannot be happy. The root of this mentality is over exaggerating one's own value.
Sixth, fear of public opinion.
If the fear of public opinion is strong, it will be difficult to achieve results and gain spiritual freedom. Happiness is not about following other people's interests and satisfying other people's wishes.
Seventh, melancholy.
Depression is caused by overthinking and being divorced from reality.
Truly wise people are happy. Melancholic people mistakenly attribute their unhappiness to emptiness. In fact, it is because their own desires are too easily satisfied.
Generally speaking, we are unhappy mostly because we are too self-absorbed. For example, excessive introspection, self-denial, arrogance, and being self-centered and unable to see the outside world.
Part 2, the reasons for happiness.
There are several reasons for happiness: interest, love, family, work, leisure time, hard work and sacrifice.
first, interest.
The secret of happiness is to expand your interests as much as possible; try to be friendly in your reactions to people and things.
Get out of self-indulgence and project your enthusiasm and energy outwards, and you will find happiness in the process of finding fun.
Second, love. The more love
gets, the less fearful it will be of the real world.
Loving and being loved will bring you satisfaction and happiness.
Third, family.
"Family is a warm harbor." The care and warmth of your family can relieve you of a lot of fatigue.
Fourth, work.
Work gives us something to do, and it is a happy thing to use our abilities. We feel more satisfied when work is completed and leaves us with something like a milestone.
