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Mr. 0 was a classmate who transferred to his class in his second year of high school. He would be with him not because he liked him, but because he didn't know how to refuse. In the eyes of classmates, we are simply impossible to combine. I am a good-guai card student, and he is a headache for the teacher. But we became a pair for no reason.
During the school period, as long as there is a little dissatisfaction, he either beats the teacher or the classmates. I dare not have any disputes with him at all. I secretly look forward to graduation. I thought I would stop meeting and be separated after graduation. I was not good at it and had sex with him before I graduated. In my opinion, a girl can only give her husband the first time... In this way, when he was discharged from the army, we got married for no reason.
Our relationship is not better because of this. I still endure his bipolar disorder and violent tendencies...
Two years later, we have children. I focused on my child, but he regarded her as a rival in love and never treated her kindly. I spent my child’s adolescence and rebellious periods with me. Now that the child has grown up, I no longer need me so much. I faced the relationship between us again and realized that time has not made him gentle, nor has it brought us closer to
, and we seem to be farther away.
He knew I wanted to get a divorce, and knew I couldn't let go of my child. As long as I broke up with him, he would either self-harm or hurt others, and he would make me feel guilty. His mental bombardment is torture every day for me because he knows that I always want to divorce him.
I used to be very shy and introverted. Thanks to him, I am now strong and independent. In this relationship, I spent two-thirds of the time thinking about how to break up with him... It’s not that I didn’t work hard to improve the relationship between the two, but our values are too different and the foundation of love is too weak.
Now, the child is old enough to protect himself. And I am looking forward to
alone’s freedom, what should I do?
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Freedom, no one can give you, because freedom is a state of mind, not a vast sky after leaving a cage.
Although you only used the length of one letter to talk about your grudges and troubled husband, you still used inexplicable efforts and walked such a long journey. Although the process was miserable, it also unexpectedly sculpted your strength and no longer behaved.
Life lessons may be taken in reverse, see what you want to teach you when you are injured, and think about what fate is to test you. There are contradictory emotions in every grudge. You think you don’t love him, but the point is not whether you love him or not, but that you have a feeling in the long-term relationship of not loving him. His mean words that seemed to put you to death were really meant that he knew very well that he had done everything he had to do to you, and now he could only use intimidation to keep you.
But you wake up, the child is grown up, you long for freedom!
To realize this wish, the first step is not to think about whether your husband wants to let you go. Freedom does not need to be given to him, freedom requires a sure blueprint.
What freedom do you want? What is the free life you wanted to live in the first year? Should I change to a strange city every year, or should I just stay away from my husband? How much does such a plan cost? Who should I find for this journey?
Think carefully, don’t think about anything like before, just by destiny.
Be sure to let him see you pack your luggage and leave home, let him see the Yellow River, and let him know your determination. This man is so silly because he has been indulged in all kinds of violence against you for a long time, and now he has become a clown who only roars at his family. This is his ridiculousness and your help.
Freedom is your promise to you and has nothing to do with him; and you don’t need to sympathize with his childish tricks. After all, sympathy is not true love, and it will turn into another hurt over time.
force him to be independent, maybe it was the awakening you should have long been.
[Book Title: Book of Travel]
[Author Profile: Xu Changde]
If there is no introduction, maybe there are many possibilities for your and my encounter.The more you know, the more you know, especially those who are together because of love. Unlimited understanding is not necessary. Only by occasionally empathy can you go deep into the heart.
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