Women are always more responsible than men?
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I would like to ask, if marriage is not a responsibility, children are always a responsibility, right? If marriage can be left because of no love, but the children cannot do it? Why do most of the children’s responsibilities be placed on women? Men can work as they like, and women have to worry about picking up and dropping up their three children at work; men can love to go home as soon as they go home, and women are rushing to go home to deal with their hungry children.
Moreover, women have to worry that being angry will make men farther and farther away, and that distorted figure will make men unable to withstand the temptations of the outside world. Wouldn't the pressure on women like this be too great? How should women deal with themselves like this? No matter who wins the battle between the two sides, the first thing that loses is the child.
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There are many responsibilities in marriage. If you really want to take responsibility, don’t tie all responsibilities together. It is best to be responsible for one item independently, otherwise it is easy to be unable to bear any responsibility because you are unwilling to accept it.
Many marriages are left after leaving, and the responsibilities of the children are implemented. On the contrary, many people who do not divorce for the sake of their children, because they have been kept under the pressure of parents' disagreement for a long time, their spirits cannot be purified, and their material things are also slapped in because of disputes. To put it bluntly, whether you should be responsible or not has anything to do with your mentality or not.
Many people who do not divorce for their children are because they choose to have a family to be good for their children, not really for their children’s good.
If you really want to be good for your child, you will long ago smell the uneasiness of your child under the cold parental relationship.
Why are women’s responsibilities so great? It is because women have too much persistence. When they fall in love, they can't help but do everything for the other person. They have to do it from the beginning. They want to rely on men to give all sense of security. They cannot be without children's persistence, and they are unwilling to accept their persistence... Too much persistence becomes what you call responsibility. Responsibility is taken by oneself, not given by others.
After entering marriage, you are afraid of everything. These fears are not something that others threaten you, but you are afraid of only those who determine the standard. Do you think that keeping your weight can keep your marriage? How many conditions do you think a man’s mistress has better than his wife? What you are afraid of is your concern, and it is outdated.
Don’t worry about what men think. If there is no marriage, the responsibility is the least, just take care of yourself. Do you believe it? When you say the above three sentences in front of your husband and do it sincerely, your husband will only love you more attentively.
Because nervous people will not be charming, and your persistence is also reminding the person you love: "You don't have to be nice to me anymore, I can't drive away."
[Book title: Book of Letting go]
[Author profile: Xu Changde ]
If there is no introduction, maybe there are many possibilities for your and my encounter. The more you know, the more you know, especially those who are together because of love. Unlimited understanding is not necessary. Only by occasionally empathy can you go deep into the heart.
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