With the opening of the second and third-child policies, many families have begun to consider adding children to their families. First, the family is prosperous, and second, the children have more companions. If something happens to the future, there is one more person to discuss. Is
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When the problem of "second child" is placed in front of male and female mothers, you will find that the attitude is very opposite. If the baby girl's mother is eager to try, then the boy's mother's attitude will show off directly:
Indeed, the boy is energetic and naughty and active. Compared to raising a daughter, mothers should be more energetic:
The boy is struggling around, and the new clothes he just put on his body are dirty in the blink of an eye;
The boy always fantasizes about himself He is the leader who dominates the world, the room full of planes, tanks, , Ultraman... Entering the "kingdom" of children, mothers have almost no place to step on their feet;
Boy has endless energy. If you take him out, you will definitely stare at him with ten pairs of eyes...
raising a boy is not only a physical job; raising a boy requires fighting wits and courage.
How to raise a boy? Mom is relaxed, and the child is happy? Mothers who have boys at home must know the following education!
. The indispensable "father education"
On the road of boys' growth, father is a very important person. Therefore, father education is an indispensable education for boys in their lives.
html Before the age of 16, the mother became the first caregiver of a boy because of her unique tenderness. The boy and her mother might get closer together. However, after the age of 6, if you observe carefully, you will find that there are huge changes in the boy.
The good baby in the mother's eyes gradually rose to his "brute force". They danced with swords and guns, and said "hohohahaha" in their mouths, and always interpreted themselves into a heroic little warrior!
In fact, , from this time, entered a sensitive period when a boy wanted to imitate and become a man. Mom needs to be backwards, while dad needs to move forward.
This is because the boy began to pay attention to his father's every move, his father's strong body, his father's vitality state, and his father's decisive handling of things... they all make the boy admire him.
"Wow, Dad, you are so awesome!"
"I want to play with Dad!"
"I want to be the same as Dad!"
"I also want to be the same as Dad!"
Don't doubt the boy's praise for his father, it's really from their heartfelt words.
The father education that boys cannot lack can not only allow mothers to be properly liberated and get a moment of peace from their busy parenting life, but also allows boys and fathers to provide boys with the conditions that a man needs to observe and learn.
It is crucial to make a father a role model for boys; father education has a profound impact on boys throughout their lives.
. "Rules Education" that cannot be compromised
There is an old saying in China: There is no rules, and it cannot be square.
1 There is a boy in the family. Moms are well aware of the great potential and destructive power of boys: they are full of energy and often lose their composure while playing. They throw all the things that parents should pay attention to when it comes to their lives. A boy who has no sense of taboo will either accidentally destroy the object, or accidentally hurt himself, or hurt his children.
cannot restrict boys' activities, but they are worried that the boy will cause trouble. What should I do?
Parents must do a good job of "rules education" and cannot compromise.
First of all, parents should understand that boys’ “disobedient” is due to physiological reasons. On the one hand, Because boys' brain development level is later than girls, their brains do not pay much attention to language. Boys do not understand their parents' verbal instructions clearly and are relatively inefficient. On the other hand, Due to the influence of testosterone in boys, boys have greater emotional fluctuations, are irritable and irritable, and on the surface it seems that they are not easy to discipline than girls.
Secondly, Parents should pay attention to the distinction between boys when educating rules: "Rules Education" ≠ "Stick Education".
In life, many parents adhere to the concept of "if your child is not good, just beat him" and believe that becoming obedient under the "fist of his parents" is the effect of "rule education". But in fact, this is a one-sided understanding.
Effective rule education is to establish good parent-child communication, and to make a clear boundary for the boy through parents to make the children understand that crossing the boundary will bring corresponding punishments. The boy reaches a consensus with the parents, so that the boy can use this consciousness to guide his behavior and learn to control himself.
Again, If the boy does not abide by the rules, then parents must firmly execute the punishment as agreed. No matter how the boy cries and makes trouble, parents can make concessions, allowing the child to recognize the "boundary line" from the bottom of his heart, thereby cultivating the boy to become an excellent child with good behavioral habits.
3. "Anti-strike education" that must be paid attention to
"A child is loved by six adults". Today's children have lived in a happy embrace since childhood. They open their mouths when they eat and stretch out their hands when they encounter something. When they say "Mom and Dad", there will be adults rushing forward without stopping.
Therefore, once a boy encounters difficulties, failures and setbacks, he is prone to crying, fragile and retreat without adults helping him. But at the same time, the boys shoulder heavy responsibilities. In the future, they need to start a family and become the pillars of the family.
It is necessary to provide boys with good anti-frustration education since childhood. Parents must pay attention to it from a young age. Only when boys get constant experience in their growth and constantly withstand pressure and setbacks can they be more capable of grasping their lives and transforming into a real man.
It is worth noting that when boys receive anti-frustration education, is not Parents deliberately create problems to make children difficult, and is not When children encounter difficulties, parents leave them alone. What parents need to do is to guide and encourage their children to maintain a positive and optimistic heart when facing difficulties in adversity and solve problems. How to do
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Don’t spoil, encourage more. In life, parents do not spoil their children too much and take care of everything. When a boy encounters difficulties, they should encourage him to use his own abilities to solve problems. Children become more and more courageous as they setbacks. Through hardships, they can develop strong psychological tolerance and problem-solving ability. This is the best anti-frustration education.
Of course, parents should also pay attention to their children's emotional changes. If the child is frustrated and feels depressed and cannot adjust himself for a long time, parents should do a good job of comforting and reshape the boy's confidence. Guide boys to always have an optimistic and strong attitude to face life.
4. "Humor Education" that cannot be ignored
Don't ignore the power brought by humor education! Proper humor education can resolve the crisis of parent-child conflicts and invisibly.
As the child grows up, parents will find that boys have more and more opinions. With the growth of adolescence, the generation gap between parents and children will become deeper and deeper.
When a boy is tired of his parents' preaching education and is also tired of the deterrence of harsh education, then it is time to use "humor education".
I remembered something particularly funny. It is said that there is a boy who is obsessed with toys. Every time he passes by a store, he has to buy one or two toys. This time, the boy passed by the toy store with his father. He fell in love with the toy gun in the window, so he asked his father to buy it in every way.
Let’s talk about the end of the story first. Dad did not buy it for the boy, and the boy did not cry, but took his father’s hand and left very happily. How did this wise father do you?
This father uses a trick of "humor education". He thought about it and discussed with his son:
When the son heard this, he was right, so he stopped insisting and followed his father home readily.
This is the role of humor education. Children are naturally lively. The "humor education" that is just right can adapt to children, and with the effect of "moistening things silently", resolve a parent-child conflict that is about to break out, while achieving the effect of profound education.
Of course, doing a good job of humor education requires parents to have humorous cells. Parents themselves are funny people and can become good role models for their children. Children can happily accept humor education through their eyes and eyes. When you have the opportunity, tell your children a humorous story, which can cultivate their sense of humor in a subtle way.
Humor can not only add a joy to life, but also cultivate children's positive and optimistic attitude. At the same time, exercise children's witty ability and become an important social potential for boys in the future. You should know that a humorous person will definitely become the focus of the crowd and empower himself.
Every child is unique. Parents should use different educational methods to educate their children and grow up with them together in order to cultivate excellent boys.
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