"The Book of Rites" is also known as " Xiao Dai Liquor " and "The Book of Rites". It is said to be compiled by Dai Shengshu, a ritual scholar of the Western Han Dynasty. It is an important collection of rules and regulations in ancient China. The Book of Rites contains forty-nine articles, including "Qu Li" and " Tan Gong ", which are complex and involve everything from the royal system to the customs of the people. They are important reference materials for studying ancient Chinese social culture. Among them, the two articles "The Great Learning" and "The Doctrine of the Mean" were compiled into the "Four Books" in the Southern Song Dynasty, together with "The Analects of Confucius" and "Mencius", and became a must-read textbook for elementary school.
The Book of Rites has strict composition, eloquent text, echoes the front and back, and the language is neat and changeable. Since Zheng Xuan of the Western Han Dynasty wrote the "Notes" and the status of the Book of Rites has risen day by day. After the Song Dynasty, it has ranked first among the "Three Rites". Today, Zhixingjun selected 20 sentences of "The Book of Rites" and shared them with you friends.
1. A gentleman does not lose his compassion, does not lose his elegance, and does not lose his eloquence. Therefore, a gentleman is afraid of his appearance, fearfulness of his beauty, and trustworthy of his words.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Records"
[Explanation] A gentleman's behavior should be unconventional, his appearance should be solemn, and his words should be cautious. Therefore, a gentleman's appearance is enough to make people awe, his appearance is enough to make people feel majestic, and his words are enough to make people believe.
2. Etiquette does not talk nonsense, and does not refuse to pay. It is not easy to be polite without over the holidays, not to infringe on others, and not to be tempted.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] The essence of etiquette is not to please people casually, nor to talk non-existently. You must do not act beyond the rules, do not violate others, and do not pretend to be intimate with others.
3. Absolute cannot be long-lasting, desire cannot be followed, aspirations cannot be fulfilled, and happiness cannot be extreme.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] Arrogance cannot be grown, desires cannot be indulged, ambitions cannot be complacent, and enjoyment cannot reach the extreme.
4. Then you can react by yourself; then you can be troubled, then you can be self-improvement.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Learning of Rites"
[Explanation] Only by recognizing the shortcomings of one's own knowledge can one reflect on oneself; only by recognizing one's confusion about certain knowledge can one strive to be self-reliant.
5. Reciting etiquette and not coming is not polite; coming but not going is not polite. A person is polite and a person is at ease; an unpolite person is in danger. Therefore, it is said: Etiquette must be learned.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] Etiquette emphasizes mutual exchanges. If you talk about etiquette but don't get the other party's response, it is the other party's rudeness; if someone talks about etiquette to you but doesn't return it, it is your rudeness. Only by paying attention to etiquette can one be at peace with one's heart, otherwise one will suffer danger. Therefore, the knowledge of etiquette must be learned.
6. A polite person means inferiority and respect others. Even if you bear the peddler, you must have respect, let alone wealth and honor? If you know good politeness when you are rich and noble, you will not be arrogant or lustful; if you know good politeness when you are poor and humble, you will not be intimidated.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] etiquette emphasizes lowering one's own attitude and respecting others. Even the vendors carrying baskets must have self-esteem, let alone those nobles? If a rich and noble person is wise, he will not be arrogant or overly arrogant; if a poor and humble person is wise, he will be firm and not cowardly.
7. If you have your position and have no words, a gentleman will be ashamed of him; if you have your words and have no actions, a gentleman will be ashamed of him.
[Source] "Book of Rites·Miscellaneous Notes"
[Explanation] is in a certain position and does not have the opinions that should be provided in that position. If a gentleman is a gentleman, he should feel ashamed; if he has such words but no such behavior, he should feel ashamed.
8. Scholars have four mistakes, and those who teach must know it. When a person learns, he may lose more, he may lose less, he may lose less, he may lose more, and he may lose more easily, and he may lose less.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Learning of Rites"
[Explanation] People who learn to learn are prone to commit four kinds of mistakes, and teachers who teach must know.When people are studying, they may have the problem of greed for too much but not seeking to understand, or have the problem of getting less and getting enough, and they will be satisfied if they know something, or they may have the problem of not studying seriously if they think it is too easy, or they may have the problem of setting limits and not seeking progress.
9. Don’t be disrespectful, just like thinking, keep your word, and be at peace.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] If you want to be a polite person, don't do disrespectful things, behave dignifiedly and seriously, think about something, and speak quietly and calmly, so that you can comfort the people and become a role model.
10. It is like a husband sitting like a corpse, and standing like a corpse. Etiquette follows suitability and follow customs.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] Sit, sit upright; stand respectfully. When obeying etiquette, you should take temporary changes according to the time and place, and you should follow the local customs when you go to other countries.
11. The rituals are the ones who determine closeness and distantness, determine suspicion, distinguish between similarities and differences, and clarify right and wrong.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Qu Li"
[Explanation] etiquette is used to determine the closeness and distantness of interpersonal relationships, judge whether things are confused and similar, distinguish the similarities of objects, and clarify whether the ritual system is used correctly or not.
12. When you say something, you dare not forget your parents. Therefore, you do not speak out of your mouth, and do not speak out of your anger to your body, and do not humiliate your parents. You can be said to be filial.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Sacrifice"
[Explanation] When you speak, you dare not forget your parents, so you do not say vicious and hurtful words, and no one will say you in resentful and angry words, and then you can do not humiliate your body and not let your parents be shamed. Doing this can be said to be filial.
13. If you know that you are a son, you can be a father; if you are a minister, you can be a king; if you are a servant, you can be a king; if you are a servant, you can be a man, you can be a man.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Crown Prince Wen"
[Explanation] You can know that you can be a good son, and then you can be a good father; you can know that you can be a good minister, and then you can be a good monarch; you can understand how to do things for others, and then you can use him.
14. All officials and civilians must first discuss it, make it clear and distinguish it, then give it a title, and then give it a title.
[Source] "Book of Rites•King System"
[Explanation] Whenever a talent is selected, one must first examine his moral character and talent. After the examination is clear, he will be assigned to his job. After being competent, he will be evaluated and then given a corresponding salary.
15. Benevolence is the manifestation of the world, righteousness is the control of the world, and reward is the benefit of the world.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Records"
[Explanation] Benevolence is the example of the behavior of the world, righteousness is the principle of the behavior of the world, and knowing kindness is the way of mutual benefit and mutual benefit in the world.
16. Believe in your words first, and be upright in your actions.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Confucianism"
[Explanation] Speaking must first reflect integrity and behavior must be moderate and upright.
17. Respecting, giving, being honest and respecting is why gentlemen come into contact. A gentleman respects and gives in, and does not fight for justice and does not be slow. If you are not arrogant or fighting, you will be far from fighting and debate. If you do not fight and debate, you will not be in trouble. If you do not fight and debate, you will not be in trouble.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Meaning of Drinking in the Countryside"
[Explanation] Gentlemen use this to interact with each other. A gentleman will not fight if he can respect and give in, and a gentleman will not be negligent. If he does not neglect or fight, he will stay away from disputes and litigation. If he does not argue and litigation, there will be no disaster of riots.
18. Confucians have no treasures of gold and jade, but loyalty is treasure; they do not pray for land, and establish righteousness as land; they do not pray for more accumulation, and they do not pray for more literature as wealth.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Confucianism"
[Explanation] Confucians do not value gold and jade, but regard loyalty as their preciousness; do not seek land, but regard establishing morality as their land; do not seek to have more savings, but regard having more knowledge as their wealth.
19. It means that there is something and action has a standard. Therefore, if you live, you cannot take away your will, and if you die, you cannot take away your reputation.
[Source] "Book of Rites•Black Clothes"
[Explanation] Speaking realistically but having laws, so when you are alive, your ambition will not affect his good reputation after death.
20. A gentleman makes a promise to speak, while a villain speaks first.
[Source] "Book of Rites·Fang Ji"
[Explanation] People with virtue speak carefully, pay attention to doing practical things, and do what they say; people with low moral character speak lies, speak lies first, and cannot do what they say.
◎The reference book of this article is "The Book of Rites·The Book of Filial Piety (Central Chinese Studies Ceremony)" and "The Book of Rites Introduction". Please indicate the reprint.
