According to a British company survey : "People will tell about 88,000 lies in their life." Among them, the common one is "It's okay, I'm fine!"
Lies have long become a part of life, and lying is a necessary survival skill for people.
In fact, one-quarter of lies in interactions between people are to avoid telling the truth and hurting others. It is not all bad motivations.
There is no need to reject all lies, and there is no need to deny the person who lied to you. Behind their lies are the love and warmth that you don’t know.
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Parents' right and wrong, carrying selfless love
From childhood to adulthood, we are all asked by our parents to "not lie!"
Little do we know that we are deeply trapped in the "lie" of our parents when we are born.
When I was a child, I thought that "mom really loves to eat fish heads". It was not until I became the mother who "loves to eat fish heads" that I truly understood that what my mother loves the most was just watching the child eat fish in big mouthfuls.
Later, I left my home and was busy with work. The calls I received from my parents are always: "Don't be reluctant to spend money, don't worry about your family, you have to work hard."
Don't you know that they have been brewing this call for a long time, and they muster up the courage just to hear your voice.
Every holiday, they will say, "Let's relax during holidays, don't run home all the time."
In fact, there is deep expectation in this sentence. They have prepared the food you love and are just waiting for you to open the door.
"You go, we will be relaxed."
"We are in good health, don't worry."
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Once upon a time, we believed in what our parents said, but as time passed, they could only use lies to hide their loneliness and conceal their thoughts.
Parents’ right and wrong are selfless love for their children. They don’t want you to worry, let alone become a burden to you.
They will always report good news but not bad news, because everything they want to protect is only you.
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What others do to others is to make peace of mind
My friend Lin told a story that he will never forget for life.
At that time, he had just started working and went to a small-scale company in the south to negotiate cooperation with the director.
When eating, a small bowl of water was still coming with the seafood. Lin Xiang, who was thirsty, took it up and drank it all. Everyone looked at him in surprise.
At this time, Mr. Li of the partner picked up the bowl of water and drank it, saying repeatedly: "Tering thirst and thirst." After
, Lin realized that the bowl of water was actually the water used to wash his hands after eating seafood.
And no one has washed his hands with that meal.
Lin knew that it was because of the kindness of everyone present that he did not embarrass him in public and he was still able to eat with peace of mind.
Later, Lin was promoted all the way, but Mr. Li's company has been on his cooperation list. With Lin's help, Mr. Li's company is getting bigger and bigger.
Many times, a sentence or a small action seems to conceal the truth, but in fact it leaves enough decency for others.
I have heard this saying: "True kindness is to do good deeds without raising the banner of kindness; it is to be beautiful and the moon is not deceived in the dark room; it is to accumulate virtue without seeing others, and kindness is like a clear stream."
You have reduced the burden on others in the understatement, and maintained the self-esteem of others in the way of others. It seems to be light and in the wind, but in fact it protects another soul.
No matter how many years have passed, he still remembers that you once put yourself in your shoes and helped him.
Not deliberately showing off because of your sense of superiority is a kind lie, and it is also a kind of cultivation.
Taking into account the self-esteem of others is to give face to the other party and make your life wider and wider.
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Deliberate concealment of lovers is to work together to join hands with the white hair
" Strange Talk ", Luo Zhenyu said to his wife: "You are my first love."
Although his wife didn't believe it, she was still very happy.
The lies between lovers are often considered from the other party's perspective, not wanting to arouse the other party's suspicion, and not wanting to make the other party lose their sense of security.
Just like, a man and a woman in love often asks one side: "Who is better than me and my ex? To be honest, I won't be angry."
If the other side believes it true and answers that the ex is good, the consequences will be unimaginable.
Because love is selfish, no one can hold the mind of "the ex is really better than me", especially the words "he is better than you" from his lover.
On the contrary, his deliberate concealment is not really about lying to you, but just don’t want those past things to affect each other’s love.
Sometimes, the lies in love are just because they care about your feelings, and more about you as a person.
The man who told you to go home late for a meeting was actually in the car downstairs. He was not unwilling to go home, but was digesting his work worries alone, just to push the door open and give you a big smile.
There is also a good man who rushed to the hot search some time ago. He was obviously in a car accident, but when answering his wife's call, he signaled the traffic police not to speak out, just to prevent the pregnant wife from worrying.
Deliberate concealment of a lover, although intentionally, is actually love. He gave his all to be together with you.
Writer Mi Lucy Sanna once said: "Sometimes, lies are beautiful, and her name is a lie of kindness."
Some people need your comfort, while others only need your pretending to be ignorant.
He doesn't want to say it, and you don't have to ask. It's rare to be confused, which is the best way to get along with people.
Shakespeare said: "In life, a kind lie can add color to life."
Behind the beautiful lie is warmth and understanding.
Good to the person who lied to you, the kind lies they told will accompany you through the trough and welcome the warm spring.
