Nine out of ten life is not satisfactory,
Whether in life or in the workplace,
will inevitably encounter some difficulties, and we have to ask for help.
We have no hard relationship. We only know how difficult it is when asking someone to do things.
whispering in a low voice may not necessarily have a good face.
doesn't understand a few skills in asking for help. When I really encounter someone asking for help,
stepped on the mine at a critical moment, not only did it fail, but it also hurt the harmony.
So how can we ask others for help more effectively?
It is enough to remember these four points:
1. Only by finding the right person can you make the right force
If you want to get things done, you must first find the right two people - those who help you and those who can speak for you.
Only he can do this matter, and the one he is in charge of is the first right person.
You must not only find out about this person in advance, but also understand his superiors and subordinates' relationship. Only after you understand
, will you know who can speak for you? It will be much easier to do business by
.
There is an intern in our company. I just graduated and found out that I couldn’t get my graduation certificate.
No matter how much I care about it, I went to the Academic Affairs Office who was in charge of this matter and slept there all day. The problem of
has not been solved and is scolded to get in the way.
If I hadn't met the person in charge before I got off work, I would probably not have obtained my graduation certificate.
It was him who had helped the person in charge to do things, and the person in charge knew him and then he had a love for him.
If he had inquired clearly from the beginning and directly asked the person in charge to help him solve the problem, wouldn’t there be so many things?
So, finding the right person and making the right force is the most important.
2. The more anxious you are, the more you should keep calm
Many times you ask for help in a humble manner, but
The other party often doesn’t take you seriously.
Some people are just impatient, so they are more likely to be anxious and do things without brains.
For example, kneel down in front of others in public.
's posture is very low and his attitude is sincere enough.
doesn't care about whether he respects or is dignified or not.
But at this time the other party only feels that he is more embarrassed than you, and
is easy to misunderstand that you are putting pressure on him.
such a big effort only played a counter-effect in the end.
Even if the matter is resolved this time, the other party will not contact you again next time.
So the more anxious you are, the more you should keep your breath and don’t do anything just by slapping your head.
is humble, to put it bluntly, just playing the emotional card.
The skill of playing the emotional card is to move it with emotion and soft grind hard, and
instead of being humble and humble without hesitation.
Play the emotional card well, it is difficult, and it is not difficult.
mainly means being able to be shameless and not afraid of embarrassment.
holds the determination to never give up until the goal is achieved.
expresses feelings in a roundabout way and does not do things that put pressure on others in the name of feelings.
can reflect the role of the word love and cultivate feelings.
Wang Jianlin once said that no bank was willing to lend him a loan at the beginning.
For that loan, he "raided and intercepted" the supplier for nearly a month, and
finally solved the crisis.
Wang Jianlin, who had no contacts at the time, was able to achieve his current achievements, and
itself is also indispensable for this kind of toughness and soft and hard bubbles.
3. The more difficult it is to find, the more you have to ask for others to do things for Akaga
. The most difficult thing is to repay the debt of favor, which has no end.
The other party always feels that you owe him and will never pay it back.
This kind of thing happened around me. A long time ago, a neighbor's family member was seriously ill and could not afford to pay.
has no choice but to borrow usury from a friend who is experiencing abroad.
A few years later, the money has not been paid off, and the friend suddenly has an accident, and it is a murder case.
In the end, my neighbor was forced to take the blame for his friend and was imprisoned in it for more than ten years.
If it weren't for the country's severe punishment of criminal gangs in recent years, it would probably be difficult for him to come out now.
instead of leaving a big hole that will never be filled,
might as well give enough benefits in advance and turn asking for help into an exchange.
Only by exchanging interests and interests can the problem be fundamentally solved.
4. Only by knowing gratitude can you win over your connections
No matter whether this matter is done or not, you must express your gratitude to others for their efforts.
Others help you, it’s affection, not helping you, it’s duty.
Only when you are grateful and know how to be grateful will your life be smoother and more and more people are willing to help you.
On the road of life, you will always need help from others.
Don’t just treat asking for help as a one-time deal.
How did you ask someone to do things? Welcome to share in the comments.
Only by exchanging interests and interests can the problem be fundamentally solved.
4. Only by knowing gratitude can you win over your connections
No matter whether this matter is done or not, you must express your gratitude to others for their efforts.
Others help you, it’s affection, not helping you, it’s duty.
Only when you are grateful and know how to be grateful will your life be smoother and more and more people are willing to help you.
On the road of life, you will always need help from others.
Don’t just treat asking for help as a one-time deal.
How did you ask someone to do things? Welcome to share in the comments.
