On May 7, a tragic murder occurred in , Yanling County, Hunan. A 21-year-old man chased and killed a 16-year-old girl, like crazy, completely ignoring others' dissuasion. After receiving the call, the police quickly arrested the suspect Liu, but the victim Chao died after the rescue was ineffective.
According to local insiders, this matter is suspected to be a cause of love.
. The reason for the bloody incident was premature love. Some netizens said that the suspect fell in love with a high school girl early, and the high school girl later disagreed, so the suspect brutally killed the high school girl.
[Early Love] has always been a sensitive topic, and parents are always worried when they talk about it. With the continuous development of the times and the improvement of material levels, the physiological growth of adolescents tends to be precocious, which leads to premature love for many children who have just entered adolescence. They look forward to beautiful love very much, but because their minds are not yet mature, they cannot handle the problems encountered in their relationship rationally, and often use extreme methods to solve them, which ultimately affects their studies and even falls into a life crisis.
or above cases are not individual cases, but occur in adolescence children. There are many criminal cases, suicides, and pregnancy incidents of school students caused by emotional disputes.
. Can these arouse parents’ thinking? Should we keep silent about children's gender education or simulate them, or should we guide children to understand the correct view of love and sexual knowledge with a positive attitude?
Professor Li Meijin tells you how to establish a correct view of love for your children.
- Professor Li Meijin said in the "Round Table" program: In the middle school stage of children, parents should talk to their children about this topic: If they are girls, they should talk to their mothers. If they are boys, they must be fathers. So what should we talk about? Just like chatting with a girl, mothers can chat with their children, how did they like their father at the beginning, and what is the most important thing for men? What are the shortcomings of dad? What are the advantages? And the father told the boy, what is the most important thing for a woman? How did you like my mother?
- Let children learn to recognize this man and woman at this stage of junior high school, and understand which qualities are the most important.
- Nowadays, many families do not have such education. When children fall in love, they all understand from literary students. Many literature is ridiculous. It brings many children to a height that is not consistent with the facts.
- What Chinese families lack most is love education. Instead of blindly opposing it ineffectively, it is better to tell them at appropriate times, "Children, you can fall in love, I don't object, but you must have principles and bottom line!
- Moreover, such principles and bottom line can accompany your children throughout their lives.
Is it necessary to educate children with gender? What kind of way to teach them What is the most appropriate education?
Most parents are actually very reluctant to educate their children in sex. They may be difficult to speak, or they may be worried about it, and they are worried that they are all simple and they don’t know. Then when you mention this problem, you tell them what sex is going on, and then they try it.
In fact, no matter whether you mention it or not, the Internet, media, or bad websites will inevitably make children exposed to these things. The children are in the physical growth stage This will cause a strong curiosity. Just imagine that imitating without any knowledge and having no common sense is the most terrible thing, so it is imperative to educate children on gender.
- The best teacher for gender education for children is parents. Boys are educated by fathers. After boys enter puberty, their physical and psychological changes will occur greatly, and they will be confused about sex. Dads should care more about boys' growth and patiently answer their confusion. You can tell boys about men's personality traits, tell them some men's experiences and emotions, and educate children on sexual knowledge, personality and morality in a timely manner. Dads and children should communicate positively about this topic.Don’t be afraid of sex. You should let boys face sexual topics correctly, let them understand sexual knowledge, and avoid misinterpretations. Dads should also educate their children to take responsibility and responsibilities for men, respect and love girls, and the opposite sex should be in love and polite.
- Mothers will be more cumbersome in their daughters. With the first tide, girls' physical and mental changes will undergo some drastic changes. Mothers should promptly educate their children about sexual knowledge. Sexual knowledge is to satisfy children's curiosity and eliminate their misunderstandings about sexual knowledge. At the same time, they should emphasize the seriousness and responsibility of sexual behavior. Girls in the middle and late stages of adolescence should also let them know about self-protection measures. Premarital sexual behavior must be contraceptive. For girls, the first thing is to educate shame and upbringing, teaching her to love and respect herself, so that she can understand that only self-love can be cherished and self-respect will be respected.
Many parents may feel that it is difficult to talk about gender issues in educating their children. In fact, they will not. If you really care about your children's growth, as long as you establish a good communication method with your children and enter your children's hearts, everything you talk about will be natural. For example, I often discuss the view of love with my daughter who is in high school. Not long ago, I talked to her about premarital sex and taking protective measures. Many people may not understand my approach, and have the kind of indulgence of children to make mistakes. But compared to these, I am more afraid that my daughter will be like the female college student of Peking University who was controlled by her boyfriend's mentally and committed suicide. It is an unshirkable responsibility for a mother to let her have the ability to protect and judge and avoid being hurt.
With the development of society, the environment for children to grow up is very different from ours. In the new era and new ideas, our educational concepts must also change accordingly in order to keep up with the pace of children's growth.
As both parents, do you agree to educate your children on gender? What do you have on this?
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