Blood is thicker than water. In the hearts of all mothers, daughter is the most precious gift given by God, and it is worth caring and loving for life and even life. In the eyes of all daughters, mother is the greatest and most worthy of respect and filial piety in the world. The love between mother and daughter is as pure as water and as precious as drills. Anyone who is in his life will find ways to make the love between mother and daughter exude a warm and brilliant nature.
However, not all mother-daughter love has a good result of a good ending. The mother-daughter love between Zhang Ailing (1920-1995) and her mother-daughter love is like a bad fate. There is no love between each other, only the hurt of not interacting with each other since the old age and death, which is very sad.
What are the grudges and grudges between Zhang Ailing and her mother? Let's find the answers from that history together.
Huang Yipeng's original name is Huang Suqiong . His ancestral home is Changsha, Hunan. He was born in a prominent family in Nanjing. His grandfather Huang Yisheng was the navy admiral of the seven provinces of the Qing Dynasty. Li Hongzhang After founding Huaijun , he went to Shanghai. Huang Yisheng was once Li Hongzhang's deputy.
1915, Huang Yipeng married Zhang Zhiyi, who was the same age as him (1896-1953), who is Zhang Ailing's father. Although Huang Yipeng is tangled with his feet, his mind is very open-minded and he highly respects the "May Fourth New Trend". Therefore, she was fortunate to be the first batch of students studying in Europe in China. She also learned oil painting by her master. She is very good friends with Xu Beihong , Jiang Biwei and others.
Zhang's family is also a prominent family in Shanghai. Zhang Zhiyi's grandfather was Li Hongzhang, an important official of the late Qing Dynasty, and his father was a famous official of the late Qing Dynasty, Zhang Peilun, and his father was a famous official of the late Qing Dynasty.
On the surface, the Huang family and the Zhang family are married, and Zhang Zhiyi and Huang Yipeng are completely a match. However, Huang Yipeng's background problem became an insolvable joke in Zhang Zhiyi's heart, which laid many hidden dangers on the unfortunate marriage between them and had a very important impact on the formation of Zhang Ailing's personality.
Huang Yipeng's father is Huang Zongyan . He has been married to his original wife for many years and has no children. At the age of 29, he married a concubine under the arrangement of his family. He went to Guangxi to take office after the concubine became pregnant. A few months later, Huang Zongyan unfortunately became infected with miasma . Before Huang Yipeng was born, he passed away. He was only 30 years old. A few years later, the concubine also died of illness, and Huang Yipeng became an orphan completely.
Because Huang Yipeng was born to a concubine, Zhang Zhiyi always looked down on her and often caused trouble for no reason. Similarly, Huang Yipeng looked down on Zhang Zhiyi. It is conceivable that two people who are not in love with each other form a family. Family life is often a mess.
Zhang Zhiyi has too many bad habits, and he has everything he needs to eat, drink, bet and smoke, and has also repeatedly proposed to Huang Yipeng to take a concubine. After all, Huang Yipeng is a new-style woman influenced by new ideas. She is unwilling tolerate these shortcomings of her husband. The conflict between the two became increasingly serious and did not change until Zhang Ailing was born.
Finally, in 1924, Huang Yifan could no longer bear her husband's bad habits and fled the Zhang family by leaving the house with nothing and giving up his noble blood. When Eileen Chang was 10 years old, the two agreed to divorce. Eileen Chang lived with her father, and Huang Yipeng later went to London, England to live.
Zhang Ailing lived in this family that lacked warmth and love since she was a child, and had no happy childhood, so she developed a selfish, indifferent and paranoid personality. Even in the book later, she said that these personalities were all thanks to her mother.
Since her parents divorced, the Zhang family often instilled in the ears of the young Zhang Ailing: is the mother Huang Yipeng abandoning the entire family despite the mother-daughter relationship, which led to her not getting the maternal love she deserved and not having a complete family.
Zhang Ailing has a deep memory of this sentence. Later, when her mother died, she did not forgive her mother. Her meanness and ruthlessness towards her were completely engraved in her bones.
Although Zhang Zhiyi received a new type of education, she is a person who "refers boys over girls" in his heart. In his eyes, Zhang Ailing will marry sooner or later, and her son Zhang Zijing (one year younger than Zhang Ailing) is the one who inherits the Zhang family's family. Therefore, Zhang Zhiyi favors his son thousands of times. If Zhang Ailing and her younger brother make the same mistake, she will always take the blame and be punished.
After gradually becoming sensible, Zhang Ailing's bad habit of not changing her repeatedly made her disgusted and inferior. Inferiority is because rumors about his father are often circulated in neighbors and even in schools, and Zhang Ailing has thus become the object of ridicule and satirical.
Finally one day at the age of 12, Eileen Chang could no longer bear her father's bad habits. She escaped from home and ran to her mother's apartment, almost begging her mother to take her in and live together.
Huang Yipeng said to Zhang Ailing: You should go back to your father. In the future, you can inherit many inheritances from the Zhang family and maintain "noble blood". I have nothing now. If you follow me, you will endure hardship.
This sentence was originally a mother's most sincere advice to her daughter, but Zhang Ailing did not understand her mother's good intentions and believed that her mother thought she was a burden.
father is unreliable and her mother doesn't want her. This is a big blow to Eileen Chang, who is not yet adult. She immediately decided to become famous as soon as possible and make her financially independent as soon as possible so that she will not look at anyone's eyes.
Zhang Ailing started writing in 1932. There are two main reasons why she embarked on the road of writing. One is that she has no friends and often feels lonely, but she has a lot to say. Writing can make you talk to yourself. Second, she wants to earn some royalties to subsidize her life.
In March 1943, Zhang Ailing published a 40,000-word novella " Agarwood Shavings·The First Incense ". This novel made her famous, and since then she was crowned "Shanghai Talented Girl" and soon joined the ranks of famous writers in the country.
One day in May 1944, Zhang Ailing, who was only 24 years old, said a very famous saying: should be famous as early as possible. If you come too late, you will not be so happy. The sentence is a natural expression of her true thoughts in her heart during this period.
After becoming famous, Zhang Ailing may be busy with writing and socializing, or she may be disappointed by her family. She has hardly contacted three relatives for more than 20 years and has lived completely for herself.
Until the autumn of 1957, Huang Yifan was seriously ill and felt that his life was coming soon. He wrote a letter to Zhang Ailing, who was far away in North America, hoping to meet her daughter for the last time and fulfill her wish.
Zhang Ailing made a jaw-dropping move, and she symbolically sent $100 to her mother.
Is this $100 humiliating the mother? Or should she fulfill her last filial piety? It has always been a mystery.
If combined with Zhang Ailing's living conditions at that time, the meaning of this action is likely to be the second. At that time, Zhang Ailing's life was very difficult. She spent all her savings in order to treat her husband Lai Ya. She could no longer afford to pay the extra travel expenses to see her mother off in the UK.
The helpless Huang Yifan felt relieved after receiving the $100 sent by his daughter Zhang Ailing. He thought that he had not fulfilled his mother's responsibility to his daughter. She could understand her daughter's treatment of her like this. The mother and daughter are in love with each other, and she doesn't blame her daughter.
Huang Yipeng sorted out all his inheritance and filled it with a large box, including gold, silver, jewelry, antiques, calligraphy and paintings, etc., and sent it to Zhang Ailing, who was far away in the United States, which was the last love of a child in his life.
This legacy is like a timely rain, allowing Eileen Chang to spend the most difficult years in the United States.
By sorting out the little things between Zhang Ailing and her mother, it can be seen that there is no grudge between the two, and Zhang’s mother Huang Yipeng can be called a good mother. Zhang Ailing had too deep a misunderstanding of her mother, so she always took it for granted that her mother was "bad".
