In ancient times, people's thinking was relatively backward. The ancients believed that men were the backbone of the family. When men reach school age, they are sent to school. Many men were sent to the examination room in their teens to gain fame through scientific examinations.

In ancient times, people's thinking was relatively backward . The ancients believed that men were the backbone of the family. When men reach school age, they are sent to school. Many men were sent to the examination room when they were teenagers, and passed the scientific examination to obtain fame. Compared with men, women's status is relatively low.

In ancient times, " a woman's lack of talent is a virtue" . Women cannot study like men. They can only learn female virtues at home and stay at home without being exposed. In public places, they can only stay at home obediently. After reaching the marriage age , they cannot choose their own marriage partner, and can only marry a man at will through the introduction of a matchmaker.

Many men and women can look at each other from a distance at the temple fair before getting married a few days ago. The glance at each other at the temple fair is extremely important. People waiting for their wedding leave often use the first time they see each other at the temple fair. Judge at a glance whether the other person is suitable for marriage . In ancient times, there has been a saying about the marriage of men and women: "If a man is concave and a woman is concave, she will be lonely if she is not widowed." Do you know what kind of culture is contained in this proverb?

1. "If a man is concave and a woman is convex, she will be alone if she is not widowed."

After hearing this proverb from the elderly, most modern people easily imagine that the "male is concave and the female is convex" as the figures of men and women. In fact, in the eyes of the ancients, "men are concave and women are convex" does not describe the figures of men and women, but a person's personality, appearance and character. In ancient times, it was most taboo for men to hunch over, bow their heads, and show no gentlemanly air.

If a man and a woman see a man who looks like a villain and has no gentlemanly attitude at the temple fair before they get married, it means that they will not be happy if they marry such a man in the future. In ancient times, men were regarded as the gods. If a family wanted to have wealth , it could only place its hopes on men. If a man behaves hunched over at a temple fair, nodding and bowing to the people around him, and has no opinion of his own and only knows how to please, then such a man is said to be cowardly.

If you marry such a man, most women will not have happiness in the future. Therefore, the "male concave" mentioned by the ancients does not refer to the figure, but to his relatively weak character who cannot withstand the wind and rain. Only when a woman marries such a man will she be bullied by others. The man cannot protect his wife and children, and it is difficult for the wife to be happy.

If a woman meets such a man, even if she is gentle and pays attention to the three obediences and four virtues, she will not have a good married life . Similarly, the "female protrusion" mentioned in the proverb does not refer to the figure, but to the character and temperament of a woman. You can guess a woman's personality from her appearance, personality, style, and eyes.

If a woman does not have a ladylike demeanor and has a violent personality, it means that the woman will not be happy in her marriage after marrying a man. In ancient times, it was advocated that "men should lead the outside world and women should lead the inside". After getting married, women should stay at home to support their husbands and raise children, and should not be too arrogant. If a woman still runs away after getting married, has a careless personality, has a bad temper, and gets into conflicts over the smallest things, this will undoubtedly bring some unlucky things to the family.

As a woman, her character should be gentle and elegant , and she should know how to take care of her family. If when a man and a woman are looking for a partner, one of the couples has the above characteristics, then their marriage and family will not be happy. If you want to have a good married life, both men and women must work hard at the same time.

Men must be courageous , knowledgeable, and know how to take matters into their own hands, instead of nodding and bending to others. Women, on the other hand, must know how to be restrained, how to take care of their husbands and children, not be too flamboyant, and not to cause trouble for the family. When two people like this are combined, married life will get better and better.

2. Can modern people follow this saying when getting married?

The 21st century is a world where men and women are equal. Logically speaking, whether a man’s character and a woman’s character meet the standards mentioned in the proverb, the marriage of men and women may not be the same. not happy. But when two people get married, if their personalities are not suitable, there will still be some conflicts in the family. Although in the 21st century, men are still the mainstay of the family, there is a certain difference in physical strength between men and women. In a new family, many things still have to be run by men.

Therefore, in the 21st century, it is also feasible to follow the ancient saying "If a man is concave and a woman is convex, if she is not widowed, she will be lonely" when choosing a marriage partner. We living in the 21st century no longer obey our parents' orders, matchmaker's words . We can choose the person we want to be with for a lifetime through our own interests and hobbies, but when choosing a marriage partner, there is a certain truth in following the ancient saying that "men are concave and women are conceited, and those who are not widowed will be lonely."

Summary:

Some of the common sayings spoken by the ancients are not completely unreasonable . Many of the common sayings spoken by the ancients have stood the test of practice and have been passed down to this day. These common sayings that some elderly people in the family occasionally come out of their mouths sound relatively smooth and can teach future generations a lot of truth. As Chinese people, we have to admire the wisdom of the ancients. The reasonable sayings they said should also be passed down by us.