November 19, 1931, was a "black day" that made Lu Xiaoman heartbroken. On this day, her husband Xu Zhimo's plane crashed near Dangjiazhuang, Jinan. There was heavy fog that day, and the plane unfortunately hit Kaishan and burst into flames.

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November 19, 1931, was a "black day" that made her heartache. On this day, the plane on which her husband Xu Zhimo crashed near Dangjiazhuang, Jinan.

There was heavy fog that day, and the plane unfortunately hit Kaishan and burst into flames. Xu Zhimo's clothes caught fire, his skin was burned, and a big hole was opened in his forehead. He died in a miserable state.

Xu Zhimo fell and died. When his ex-wife Zhang Youyi learned the news, she was devastated and asked her younger brother to take Xu Zhimo's only son to collect the body; Lin Hui, a confidante who was close to Xu Zhimo, learned the bad news and was heartbroken.

As Xu Zhimo’s wife, Lu Xiaoman’s grief can be imagined. She fell to the ground crying, in pain, wishing she could follow her husband away. At Xu Zhimo's memorial service, she wrote an elegiac couplet:

"How many past lives have turned into nightmares, five years of joy and sorrow, farewell in a hurry, the way of heaven is ridiculed, and I want to die but my mother is old; don't speak to anyone with hatred, I am full of sorrow. After the illness, Miaomiao left his soul, and the world will soon be restored. The editor of the posthumous essays responded to the emperor's heart. "

Hu Shi rushed over as soon as possible to help with the funeral arrangements. Seeing the haggard Lu Xiaoman, Hu Shi felt sympathy and wanted to give her some help. However, what is unexpected is that Lu Xiaoman soon lived with a man named Weng Ruiwu.

Xu Zhimo’s friends during his lifetime were very dissatisfied with Lu Xiaoman and “cannot embarrass him underground.” Everyone discussed and recommended Hu Shi as a representative to talk to Lu Xiaoman.

Hu Shi came to Lu Xiaoman's residence and sat there for a long time before he persuaded her: Weng Ruiwu is a wanderer who has a wife and children. Why are you doing this? Lu Xiaoman responded calmly: "As long as he treats me well, I don't care about his status."

Hu Shi was silent, and then persuaded her: "Are you going to live like this for the rest of your life?" Lu Xiaoman smiled miserably, she was a powerless woman, If you have to eat and live, what else can you do?

Hu Shi said: "As long as you leave Weng Ruiwu and sever ties with him, I will take care of everything for you." Lu Xiaoman just shook his head and smiled. Finally, Hu Shi left sadly.

Half a month later, Hu Shi wrote another letter to her, in which he put forward three conditions: First, he asked her to give up her habit of smoking; second, she was asked to cut off contact with Weng Ruiwu; third, , asking her to go to Nanjing quickly and let Hu Shi arrange her new life.

However, Lu Xiaoman didn’t even reply to the letter.

Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo once loved each other so much that they were in love with each other, which was earth-shattering. Now Xu Zhimo is dead, leaving her alone in this bleak world, helpless, and still enduring many misunderstandings from the world.

Xu Zhimo rushed back to Beijing in a hurry because he had an agreement with Lin Huiyin in advance to listen to her academic lecture. But in the final analysis, people think that Lu Xiaoman killed Xu Zhimo. The reason is that Lu Xiaoman spends money lavishly, and Xu Zhimo chooses to fly regardless of the danger in order to save money.

However, who can tell whether it will be a blessing or a blessing at the same time? After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman wrote in the article "Crying Mo" in memory of him: "I really don't understand what kind of cause and effect you and I have in the Buddhist scriptures. We are both destined to be together and why we are separated halfway. Does this also have a certain degree? Is it determined? "

Why do we love each other but still separate in the end?

"I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of ​​people. I am lucky to get her, but it is my fate to not get her. That's all." Perhaps what worries Xu Zhimo is not that she can't get it; He clearly got it, but found that it was not that good.

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In 1922, Lu Xiaoman's parents betrothed her to Wang Geng, a descendant of an official family. Wang Geng was admitted to Tsinghua University and entered the United States Military Academy at West Point for further study. After returning to China, he served in the military with a bright future.

Shortly after they met, Lu Xiaoman had a "flash marriage" with Wang Geng. That year, Lu Xiaoman was 19 years old. In the eyes of others, this marriage of a "talented man and a beautiful woman" should be happy and sweet. But Wang Geng is an honest guy and very boring, and their married life is not happy.

In 1924, Wang Geng became the chief of the Harbin Police Department and was away from Beijing for a long time. Suffering from not having time to spend with his beloved wife, he introduced his friend Xu Zhimo to his wife to play with her.

Lin Huiyin, whom Xu Zhimo loved at that time, and Liang Sicheng went to study in the United States, leaving him alone and in panic. Therefore, Xu Zhimo turned all his feelings for Lin Huiyin to Lu Xiaoman.

With her husband not around, the appearance of poet Xu Zhimo gave the lonely Lu Xiaoman great comfort. The two like-minded people often play together, go to the theatre, play cards and dance. Lu Xiaoman was in her prime and unbearably lonely, while Xu Zhimo was gentle and affectionate, and he liked her, so the two fell in love and couldn't extricate themselves.

Xu Zhimo often writes poems to Lu Xiaoman, and his admiration is beyond words. Lu Xiaoman also responded to him: "Mo! The first person to see through all the lies and fake smiles is my sincerity and understand my pain... Ever since I met you, I have the determination to change my life."

Friend's Wife Don't bully Wang Geng. He trusted Xu Zhimo, but Xu Zhimo failed him.

Xu Zhimo hooked up with married woman Lu Xiaoman, which caused a stir in Beijing, and the two of them were pushed to the forefront of public opinion. Yu Dafu commented: "The loyal and charming Lu Xiaoman and the enthusiastic and sincere Xu Zhimo, when they meet together, sparks will naturally burst out and burn into pieces."

It is said that literati are romantic, but Yu Dafu knows Xu Zhimo well. Although he was opposed by many people, Xu Zhimo was firm: "Love is a big matter, a matter of life and death - if it reaches the true state, then it is sacred and inviolable."

Wang Geng didn’t want to divorce Lu Xiaoman. The issue of face was on the one hand, but more importantly, he still loved Lu Xiaoman.

Xu Zhimo had no choice but to ask his friends for help, and "good brother" Hu Shi stepped forward to help him with the work of Lu Xiaoman's parents. The great painter Liu Haisu also helped out and held a "Hongmen Banquet" in Shanghai and invited Wang Geng.

After drinking for three rounds, Liu Haisu stood up and said: If marriage cannot be based on the harmonious relationship between two people, if their tastes are not congenial, it will definitely be a tragedy. A marriage without love is against morality.

Wang Geng scolded Liu Haisu for being unkind, but admitted that his words were reasonable. Wang Geng finally agreed to divorce Lu Xiaoman. After the banquet, he said to Lu Xiaoman: "I bless you and Zhimo, and hope you will be happy in the future." Two months later, Lu Xiaoman, who was pregnant, aborted the child and officially married Wang Geng. divorce.

On October 3, 1926, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo got married in Beihai Park. At the wedding ceremony, witness Liang Qichao 's wedding speech shocked people and made Xu Zhimo extremely embarrassed.

Liang Qichao admonished him as a teacher: "Xu Zhimo, you are impetuous in temperament, so you have no achievements in knowledge. You are not professional in emotions, so you get married and divorced. So you must repent in the future."

Xu Zhimo With Lu Xiaoman, lovers will eventually get married, but who can tell clearly that the vigorous relationship will not be a mirror image again?

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In November 1926, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman returned to their hometown in Xiashi, Haining, Zhejiang to live with their parents. However, the Xu family's parents were not satisfied with Lu Xiaoman's daughter-in-law, and they were unhappy with each other. In addition, the Xu family's parents recognized Zhang Youyi as their godson, and Zhang Youyi was Xu Zhimo's ex-wife, which made Lu Xiaoman very unhappy.

Not long after, the couple moved to Shanghai to escape the war. Lu Xiaoman took to the water like a fish in water and resumed the social life she was good at. She frequently visited ballrooms and theaters and hung out with young ladies from the upper class. During this period, Lu Xiaoman met Weng Ruiwu.

Weng Ruiwu is a child of an aristocratic family. He can not only sing, but also perform massage. Whenever Lu Xiaoman was tired from singing, he would give her a massage, and the relationship between the two became closer. A tabloid with good intentions published an article "Five Sisters Get Tired of Friends After Massaging", alluding to the relationship between the two.

Scandals were flying everywhere, and Xu Zhimo was so angry that he sued the newspaper for infringement of reputation rights. He also reminded Lu Xiaoman that " there must be a limit to the pity and care of friends, otherwise there will be a danger of unclear boundaries " with little effect. Xu Zhimo saves face and does not want to break up with his wife's "blue-faced confidante".

At the end of 1930, Xu Zhimo went to Peking University to teach. Lu Xiaoman did not want to leave the Shanghai Beach, so he had to travel back and forth. The person who often accompanied Lu Xiaoman was replaced by Weng Ruiwu.

Many friends advised Xu Zhimo to divorce, but he was the one who dragged her away from Wang Geng, and now she has her teeth knocked out and her blood swallowed. Xu Zhimo admitted to Shen Congwen that he would never take the step of divorce under any circumstances. Their amazing love only lasted a few years, how could he collapse on his own?

However, Lu Xiaoman was as limp as a puddle of mud. He played all day long and became addicted to opium. Xu Zhimo was very nurturing. Before his death, he was still talking about love and trying to help her up. Lu Xiaoman's situation remains the same and he goes his own way. One can imagine the turmoil, bitterness and gloom in his heart.

In addition to his emotional changes, Lu Xiaoman's extravagant spending also made him very distressed. Yu Dafu's wife Wang Yingxia recalled that Lu Xiaoman was very impressive and had a private car in and out, showing great pomp and circumstance. Wang Yingxia lamented that she "spends about 100 yuan on rent alone every month, which is enough for their poor family for more than half a month."

In order to meet the huge expenses at home, Xu Zhimo taught at several universities at the same time and was exhausted; in order to increase his income, he also wrote articles desperately, with a monthly income of nearly 1,000 yuan, which was still not enough for his wife's expenses. He stayed at Hu Shi's house in Beijing and sent money home every month, leaving only 30 yuan with him.

Even so, he still couldn't fill the holes and borrowed money from friends from time to time. He wrote pitifully to his wife, hoping that she could reduce her expenses to 400 yuan per month, but Lu Xiaoman remained unmoved. Xu Zhimo traveled north and south, and was so poor that he sold the train tickets he bought to save money. He was "too poor to move."

He managed to get a free ticket from a friend. Flying at that time was very dangerous, so his friend advised him. He explained, "I'm not willing to take the risk, but I just want to save money." She did not want to go to Beijing, which is why after Xu Zhimo passed away, many people thought that Lu Xiaoman killed him.

In November 1931, Lu Xiaoman had no money to maintain his pomp in Shanghai, so he sent a telegram to urge Xu Zhimo to return south. On November 13, Xu Zhimo returned to his home in Shanghai. Unexpectedly, the couple quarreled as soon as they met. According to Yu Dafu's recollection:

"At that time, Lu Xiaoman couldn't listen to the advice, lost his temper, and threw the pipe at Xu Zhimo's face. Xu Zhimo quickly dodged, but luckily missed, and the gold-rimmed glasses fell to the ground, and the glass broke. "

Lu Xiaoman's throw was fatal to the sensitive Xu Zhimo. It shattered the relationship between the two and the ideal romance that Xu Zhimo had always insisted on. In desperation, he rushed out the door.

However, what Lu Xiaoman did not expect was that Xu Zhimo would never come back after leaving.

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On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo fell to his death in a plane crash at the age of 35.

After Xu Zhimo passed away, Lu Xiaoman lost his livelihood and had no source of income. If you cannot be independent financially, you cannot be independent personally. Soon she lived with Weng Ruiwu, and her living expenses were all "supported" by Weng Ruiwu.

Xu Shenru learned of her daughter-in-law's ridiculous behavior and sent someone to send 300 yuan with a note: "Ruwengjun has been living with you and will stop next month." The Xu family broke off relations with her. When Weng Ruiwu learned about this, he moved his luggage to Lu Xiaoman's residence without ceremony.

Lu Xiaoman once explained her relationship with Weng Ruiwu:

"Weng and I had nothing to do with each other at first. Later, Zhimo died in an accident. I was extremely sad and my health was too bad. Because the old illness became worse and Weng's treatment became more frequent, he also As an old friend's advice, I have been living with my parents for a long time, so I committed myself."

After Xu Zhimo's death, she had many suitors, and some people tried to persuade her to remarry, but she was unwilling. A portrait of Xu Zhimo has always been hung in her bedroom and has never been taken down. Even though she is deeply in love, she is a female prostitute and has no power to tie a chicken. How can she survive in this troubled world?

Hu Shi and others persuaded her to break off the relationship with Weng Ruiwu, but Lu Xiaoman had a clear conscience: "Zhimo has seen everything I have done. Zhimo will understand me and will not blame me. Love is not true, it is not on the face or mouth, And in the heart.Somewhere in my sleep, I seemed to see and hear Zhimo's approval. "

Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu have lived together for 30 years. Although she said that "there is no love, only feelings", in the second half of her life, her appearance gradually deteriorated, she lingered on the bed, and she was troubled and sick. Weng Ruiwu did not dislike her at all. Except for her salary.

Su Xuelin met Lu Xiaoman and said that she was "poor and homeless, living on Ruiwu... Weng Ruiwu stood in front of her bed and asked about tea frequently. Water is like the seed of infatuation." .

Zhang Fanghui recalled: "When I met Ms. Lu Xiaoman, she was only in her early 50s, but she was thin and old, with shriveled cheeks and only one or two teeth left in her mouth. The contrast with the image of Lu Xiaoman in my mind is really huge. "

Beauty is old and her beauty fades with old age, so Weng Ruiwu treated her with great affection. In 1960, Weng Ruiwu was seriously ill, lying in bed and unable to speak. Someone came to see him. Lu Xiaoman sat in a big wicker chair, unusually calm, There was no sign of grief. Soon after, Weng Ruiwu passed away. With no support and no children, Lu Xiaoman did not feel depressed. Instead, she picked up her painting with the help of her friends and earned some income from her paintings. Canghan, quite ancient, very popular. She finally became the painter Lu Xiaoman in her later years.

She once apologized in "Crying Mo" for letting her husband waste his poetry and lose his literary spirit, and was laughed at by the world; Make a painful decision: "I will definitely become the kind of person you always wanted me to be. I am determined to be a human being, and I am determined to do something serious. "

She was a talented woman after all, and she really did it, but it was too late.

On April 3, 1965, Lu Xiaoman died of illness in Shanghai. Her last wish was to be buried with Xu Zhimo, but because of the obstruction of Xu Zhimo's son Unable to do so, he was eventually buried in the Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery in Suzhou.

Lu Xiaoman's death was very sad. When he died, only his friend Wang Yiling wrote the only elegiac couplet: "The heart is only sincere, and the legacy will last forever; the pen is so noble." , a lifetime of half-tired smoke. " This elegiac couplet can be said to have fulfilled her life.

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