", do you know ". Among them, the scene that impressed me deeply was the divorce scene of Sun Xiucai.
Because in reality, I have seen a man exactly like Sun Xiucai. Normally he talks about benevolence, justice and morality, but at the moment of divorce, he is polite and stern, emphasizing the selfishness and greed in human nature. It's chilling.
Fortunately, Shulan still has her family to support her. There is a grandmother who gets hotter and hotter as she gets older, a father and mother who are protective of their calves, and sisters who share the same hatred. If not, Shulan's fate would probably be even more miserable than that of Yingchun in Grand View Garden .
Shulan was originally a lively and high-spirited girl. She originally wanted to bring glory to the family when she married into the Sun family, but she unexpectedly encountered a cunning mother-in-law and a despicable husband.
Several years of marriage were ruined, and Shulan's fresh vitality was worn away, turning her into a pitiful woman with a haggard face and a cowardly demeanor. She grovels in front of her mother-in-law and swallows her anger in front of her husband.
You can still tell that this is the eldest lady who is getting married with a lot of land, shops, gold and silver as a dowry, and a beautiful life!
Speaking of which, if her mother's family hadn't coveted fame, Shulan would not have suffered such a serious crime. If her parents hadn't taken decisive action, Shulan would not have been able to escape from the fire pit.
A single thought of greed will brew bitter fruits, but fortunately, the loss can be stopped in time. But in reality, how many women are stuck in bad relationships and would rather deceive themselves than take that step bravely?
01 Wrong marriage
Sun Zhigao became a talent at a young age and was admitted as a scholar at the age of 12. The originally poor family was immediately gilded by fate, as if all success and fame would be at their fingertips.
My grandma, who has endured all kinds of hardships, is always rude to everyone. When she meets someone who has not passed the exam, she shows off her fame; when she meets someone who has passed the exam, she shows off her youth. Even for the highly respected Mrs. Sheng, she had to compare her age with Sheng Changbai.
Sun’s mother behaved like a nouveau riche, but she was not showing off money, because the Sun family really had no money to show off. Because of this, the mother and son looked very ugly when they were grabbing wealth.
Sun Zhigao married Shulan because of the Sheng family's strong financial background. Shulan's generous dowry greatly benefited the Sun family's mother and son. They not only enjoyed the wealth she brought, but also enjoyed the spiritual pleasure of being superior to others.
The name of a "scholar" and an unfulfilled future are enough to make this ignorant mother and son feel proud. In their eyes, no matter how rich Sheng Shulan is, marrying into a scholar's family is a high achievement.
Treating a cowardly and docile merchant's daughter, eating her, drinking her, humiliating her, has become a routine practice for the Sun family mother and son.
Even in front of her in-laws, grandma didn't know how to restrain herself at all. She ordered and scolded her daughter-in-law as if she were treating a rough girl. Like mother like son. Sun Zhigao showed no mercy to Shulan. After half a year of marriage, he started either looking for a wife or taking concubines.
Later, Sun Xiucai, who thought he had a bright future, hooked up with a romantic woman with ulterior motives, and forced Shulan to "accept" her on the grounds that she was pregnant with Liujia.
is intolerable. Although the Sheng family was confused for a while and put their daughter in a den of tigers and wolves because of their greed for fame, Sheng Wei and his wife were still parents who loved their daughter. What's more, there is an old grandmother who has gone through many vicissitudes of life and narrowly escaped death in her marriage. How can she watch her granddaughter being tortured and humiliated to death.
The eldest lady has made up her mind and vows to break away from the Sun family. You know, in that era, the pressure of public opinion and life difficulties faced by a woman who wanted to divorce were by no means comparable to today. The eldest lady's love for her granddaughter is really the greatest blessing among Shulan's misfortunes.
The Sheng family has made up its mind, but the Sun family's mother and son are not aware of it and are still acting domineeringly on their own. They often trampled Shulan under their feet, so much so that they misunderstood that she would never dare to resist in her life, and that the Sheng family could only let it go and turn a blind eye.
really fits that sentence: if God wants it to die, it will make it crazy.
Grandma didn't even think about her son's virtue. After becoming a scholar at the age of 12, he never gained any fame. On weekdays, you are stuck with friends, eating, drinking, having fun, sleeping in flowers and sleeping in willows. Where is there any hope for the future? Compared with Sheng Changbai's self-discipline, restraint, and diligence, Sun Zhigao is just a smug scumbag who doesn't know how to advance or retreat.
02 Three Sins
The scene between Shulan and Li is a famous scene in "Know or Not". Relevant people all appeared on stage, and performed the good and evil of human nature, greed and generosity, wisdom and stupidity.
The old lady skillfully used the tactics of "moving with emotion, enlightening with reason, luring with benefit, and forcing with power" to force the Sun family mother and son into the corner step by step, forcing them to sign the divorce agreement. protocol. The eldest lady's moves were wonderful and ruthless, which is really admirable. It's worth writing about this scene another day.
Facing such a wise old lady, Grandma was as stupid as a clown.
When someone from the Sheng family came to invite them to discuss the matter, the evil mother-in-law was still dreaming of a compromise between her in-laws and her family. When they arrived at the large conference room, they were still very arrogant. They specially chose a seat in the front row to show the infinite nobility and arrogance of the old Sun family.
Sun Xiucai's wishful thinking further demonstrated this man's despicability and untrustworthiness.
According to Sun Zhigao's plan, Sheng Shulan made Fireworks Girl her first choice. In this way, they can spend Shulan's money to raise their own children, and then put the despised Shulan in their grandma's house to be tortured. Wouldn't it be nice?
Sun Zhigao’s second step is to settle for the next best thing. Since Shulan won't obey, fine, I'll give you a letter of divorce. You deserved to be kicked out of the house because you didn't give birth to a child for the old Sun family. but! The dowry must be left behind! Anyone brought to our home must always have the surname Sun.
Sun Xiucai’s third move was forced to be used after the first two moves failed to succeed. Forced by the situation, I agreed to divorce, but those greedy farm shops and those white dowry money... I have to keep at least half!
Throughout the process, although Sun Zhigao retreated step by step, he still did not forget to severely humiliate his wife.
He "told" his ex-wife condescendingly that an unworthy and unworthy woman like you has neither moral character nor beauty. I hope you will reflect on it carefully in the future. If you are lucky, you can find a husband who is a farmer and a butcher who kills pigs. That’s it.
is really deceiving.
Sun Xiucai’s three-step approach answers the three sins. Article 1: Be greedy and want more. The second one is extremely selfish and disregards Shulan’s fate. Article 3: Spineless and shameless.
In all his calculations, where did he place his wife? The virtuous and gentle Shulan has only one path left: being bullied, deprived and abandoned.
After encountering such an unbearable man, he still hesitated. Should he keep this despicable villain to spend the New Year?
03 Must be brave
There is a reason why Sun Zhigao dares to bully people like this.
The old lady once asked her granddaughter:
Are you willing to raise that prostitute's child so that she can have a husband?
Shulan cried miserably, but her answer was: I don’t know, I don’t know.
has been bullied and humiliated to this point, but Shulan still has no intention of making a decision. We often say "stop losses in time", but when things really come to pass, it is still a difficult task to be able to make decisions and be ruthless.
Compared with the terrible current situation, the horror of the unknown is even more difficult to face. Not only can warm water boil frogs to death, but even if they are scalded and bruised, there are still people who cannot step out of the black pot that is gradually boiling.
said this without any intention of ridicule. Because human beings are full of fear when facing the unknown, which is also a code written into genes. You have to push yourself hard with reason. And once you take the hardest first step, you will find that the future is no more scary than the terrible current situation.
Luo Xiang often said that bravery is one of the most precious qualities of human beings.
When you are stuck in a bad relationship, facing it with courage is the most important psychological construction to get out of the quagmire.
At the beginning of the article, I said that I had seen the face of people like Sun Xiucai in reality. It was a few years ago that the sister of a colleague of mine encountered an affair with her husband. Decades of marriage were ruined.
When she was getting divorced, her ex-husband was so sever and deeply hurt her. During that time, she was in a state of distraught and haggard.
Let me tell you only one detail about that chilling divorce.
When dividing property, her ex-husband was so extravagant that he even tore a bucket of toilet paper in half, but when it came to paying child support, he repeatedly cheated and finally went to court. And this man obviously had a good income, and he was very happy traveling around the mountains and rivers with his new wife...
This marriage change made this sister suffer from depression for a long time. Fortunately, her career and children helped her slowly heal the scars.
After learning from the pain, she said with emotion that nothing can reveal a person's humanity better than divorce. All disguises will reveal the cruel truth at that moment.
She was also lucky that she was forced to stop her losses. Otherwise, I am afraid that my whole life will be involved, which would be really frustrating.
Reality is always more pungent than drama. People like Sun Xiucai are by no means rare in reality. If you meet someone unfortunately, please use all your courage, turn around, leave, and start a new life. Don't struggle and suffer for such a person, he doesn't deserve it.
