In the morning, the sky was overcast and the window was gray. I had just made a cup of tea when I received a call from my old classmate Xue. Her hurried words were full of sadness: "Feng, I have been dreaming recently that I smashed the pots and pans at home and threw the pots an

In the morning, the sky was overcast and it was gray outside the window. I had just made a cup of tea when I received a call from my old classmate Xue. Her hurried words were full of sadness: "Feng, I have been dreaming recently that I smashed the pots and pans at home and threw the pots and pans all over the floor. Is something going to happen to my family?" Kitchens and pots often indicate the warmth of a home. Smashing the pots means that I no longer want this home. I asked: "Xue, don't worry, have you had any conflicts with your husband recently?" Xue came up one by one. It turned out that her husband had made the same mistake that thousands of men would make: having a mistress outside and staying out all night.

After listening to Xue's narration, I said: "Xue, you have to calm down about this. You have to think carefully about whether you can forgive your husband's cheating. If you can't forgive, then the long-term pain will be worse than the short-term pain. Let's get together and relax. If you can forgive, if a woman wants to capture a man's heart, she must first be self-reliant and self-reliant. Love, be independent, and let him know how important you are. People often have a "cheesy" side. The tighter you hold on, the less important he will feel, and the more he will think you are weak and easy to bully. You need to analyze and see if the main reason for his cheating is that you are not gentle enough and neglected him, or if it is you who are looking for excitement. some mistakes. If it is his fault, it is human nature to be flirtatious. When the stimulation becomes dull, he will know how important you are and will come back to you. In short, everyone has weaknesses. You must overcome your own weaknesses and be able to discover and exploit his weaknesses. Know yourself and the enemy, and you can fight a hundred battles without danger. This ancient saying is also suitable for modern family and marriage life. After listening to my words, Xue said excitedly: "Feng, thank you so much, I will know what I should do." "

I put down the phone and fell into deep thought. I felt sorry for myself and for Xue. At the same time, I thought: We all have strange dreams every day. It is interesting to explore the occurrence and prediction of dreams. In daily life, we often have this experience. When you face a competition, the tense scene of your exam many years ago will appear in your dream; when you are confused, you will dream of walking in the jungle and lost your way, unable to find the exit for a long time; when you are afraid, you will dream of poisonous snakes or demons attacking you, and when you wake up, you will be covered in cold sweat.

Dream is a spontaneous psychological activity that occurs during sleep and in a certain stage of consciousness. People often say that what you think about during the day is what you dream about at night. Wang Fu of the Eastern Han Dynasty believed: "When people are thinking, they dream of their arrival; when they are worried, they dream of what they will happen." He also said: "What you think about day and night is what you dream about at night." Xiong Bolong of the Ming Dynasty also believed, "As for dreams, they are more 'caused by thoughts and thoughts.'" When you think about it, you dream about it at night. "Contemporary thinker Wang Tingxiang also believes: "Dreams are thoughts, fate, and traces of feelings. "You have a strange or thrilling dream. The dream is often a manifestation of your situation in reality, and the plot in the dream is often a foreshadowing of what you most want or fear in reality.

People's desires are endless. When you buy a house, you will think about decoration. After you decorate, you will think about buying furniture and electrical appliances. After buying furniture and electrical appliances, you will think about the warmth of home and whether he (she) still loves you... Therefore, a person's growth has been spent in the alternation of gains and losses since childhood. Contradictions are always present and everywhere. The difference lies in big and small, explicit and recessive. These gains and losses, these contradictions, will fly freely in your brain when you are tired.

Finally, let me tell you a little secret. When you have a nightmare and wake up in fear, you must be calm and composed, and recite silently three times: nightmares turn into good dreams, and good dreams turn into pearls. Then carefully reflect on your situation, analyze the main contradictions you are currently facing and find countermeasures, so that all nightmares will turn into pearls.