And if there is a particularly strong hostess in the family, what kind of pattern will it be?
Return to the "matriarchal society", where the hostess of the family is in charge of everything. All major and minor matters at home must be decided by the mistress, and she must take care of everything herself, from head to toe. Men are like vassals and decorations. They may be responsible for trivial matters at home such as "buying food and cooking", leaving the "power of life and death" in the hands of their wives. Women can scold men harshly and give orders to men at any time; women in the family are the loudest, and men are always the ones who obey orders and obey orders. There are also various restrictions and rules for the grown-up children, and they have to listen to "my mother" in everything. "My mother" is above everything else.
Why are there such strong women? There are only three reasons:
. First, his personality is relatively strong. Perhaps the growth experience and life history, including the human nature of bullying and fearing the strong, have created this kind of mentality and strong momentum of competing to win and being stronger than others without suffering a loss.
Second, it develops from strengths to strength. After entering a marriage, you may encounter many things and feel that your ability to deal with things is better, but your husband is completely inferior to you. Over time, your strengths in dealing with things become the strength that can dominate everything.
Third, we have to be strong. The husband himself is relatively weak by nature. He is in a dilemma and is hesitant about everything. This forces the woman to be independent and self-reliant. She is forced to take over the "print" of the family and become the "head of the family."
As a man, do you want the woman you find to be strong?
First, a man who is already very strong will definitely not want to find another strong woman. As the saying goes, there is no room for two tigers in one mountain. In the future, in daily head-to-head confrontations and strong confrontations, no one will give in to anyone else.
Secondly, any normal man probably doesn’t want to find a strong woman who comes back and yells at you when things happen, and dictates to you about everything; when she bosses you around, you still have to protect her and say “empress calm down”. It is tolerable, but what is intolerable?
Thirdly, there are a few cases that you might not mind too much, such as "mama's boy", "socially afraid man", and the kind where the two businesses are often not online, maybe they can complement each other? It's just that even a strong woman can't look down on such a man.
In terms of pros and cons, there should be pros and cons for a woman to be too strong. The so-called advantages include, for example, if a man is too cowardly, a strong woman can support the family better; for another example, a strong woman is more careful than a woman, and a strong woman is more vigorous and resolute. If a family is led by such a woman, it is not a bad idea, and she may be quite prosperous. The so-called disadvantages are that it is common for her to disrespect her husband, and it is common for her to take too much control of her children. Another example is that she has the final say in everything, which is quite authoritarian.
In fact, if you analyze it carefully, a woman who is too strong will do more harm than good to a family, and will eventually go the other way. For example, if a husband has no dignity or status in his family, and one day there is another woman outside, and if he is given even some dignity and tenderness, he will inevitably turn to the dark side and turn to the bright side. Children under such a family model are either "mama's babies" and must obey their mother in everything; or they are extremely rebellious and have no affection for their mother at all.
In fact, as a woman, why bother to work so hard? Your continued strength over time destroys a man's original "martial arts" and transforms a "big man" into a worthless "little man"; and your "big woman" style also destroys the cuteness and tenderness of the original "little woman" and breaks the balance and warmth that a family should have.
So, Uncle Ka’s point of view: It is not advisable for women to be too strong. Women are too strong to marry.
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