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Mr. Yang Jiang said: No matter what the relationship is, if the love is exhausted, the fate will come to an end.
She made me feel that I would rather have high-quality alone time than maintain low-quality friendships. It is a relief to politely exit and let go.
Qingqing and I have been playing together since we were in junior high school, and we have been playing together for more than 10 years now.
may have grown up, matured and become more realistic. I have found that she has changed a lot in the past few years.
We were inseparable when we were in junior high school, and then we were admitted to high school, and then to university. After the notice came out, we all reported to school as scheduled. Although we were in different schools, the school started at the same time in the same direction. We were discussing when to leave. She told us that she didn't want to go. We were all puzzled at the time.
The college entrance examination is a war. It has been earned by studying hard for more than 10 years. After finally getting the notice, why did you give up? Some people work hard enough to get it.
On the first National Day when we entered university, we received a wedding invitation from her.
In order for us to go back to attend her wedding, she told us the real reason. She said it was because her boyfriend said he couldn't let her go and he didn't want to live in a different place with her. She was also entangled in every possible way, so she decided not to go to school. She felt that girls would eventually get married after studying. Marrying early and marrying late were all marriages, so she said she didn't want to waste those years of youth anymore.
At that time, we really didn’t understand. We were born in such a good era and had such good conditions. Why didn’t we study for a few more years and follow the same path as our parents?
I admit that her husband was very kind to her when we were in love, and he was the one we all envied. However, with her decision, we still felt that she was a bit love-minded, and her father was so angry that he didn't even talk to her properly until she got married.
Her husband ran a car repair shop on the street. After they met by chance, the boy began to pursue her crazily, and they couldn't resist the temptation and they got together.
are also very sweet when we are together, and the boy is very considerate. In our high school, the ordinary class has to enter the classroom at 7:00, and the top class has to enter the classroom at 6:50 earlier. Then the male idol gets up at 5 o'clock every morning to give her breakfast, and this delivery lasts for two years.
On weekends, boys will take her around on motorcycles and take her to eat delicious food. Maybe this is a cool thing, and girls are really easily fascinated.
After seeing this, do you think she will be happy after getting married?
In fact, we all think that she should be happy after marriage. Although we disagreed with her giving up her studies and choosing marriage at the time, as a friend we still wished her well.
What I always tell myself the most is: Don’t control your thoughts on others. Others are not you and do not necessarily have to live according to your way.
Less than a year after we got married, she complained to me that she was living a very depressed life, regretted not going to school, and envied us being on the university campus.
She said that her husband's attitude changed after he got married, and that his mother-in-law also had a lot of special things to do. The husband always had the same ideas as his mother. To put it bluntly, he was a mama's boy.
He said that he found out he was pregnant after the wedding. At that time, his family, including himself, didn't know.
A neighbor's grandmother told her mother-in-law that your daughter-in-law's face is sallow, and she looks a bit like you are happy.
Her mother-in-law asked her if she had menstruation during her menstrual period? Only then did I realize that it had indeed been more than a month since I came.
Then her husband and mother-in-law took her to the hospital for a check-up, and it was found that she was indeed more than two months pregnant.
The whole family was very happy and took good care of her, but her mother-in-law refused to let her go to the hospital for too many examinations, saying that the machines and equipment for prenatal check-ups in the hospital contained radiation and were not good for the child.
She foolishly followed her mother-in-law's advice and did not go to the hospital for a prenatal check-up. Later, she went to the hospital for a check-up because of abdominal pain. After B ultrasound she was told that she had been bleeding for more than a month and that she had to have her uterine evacuation immediately otherwise she would be in danger.
Because of the child's departure, she and her mother-in-law became completely rigid. Her mother-in-law complained that she could not even take care of the child. She complained that her mother-in-law had a corrupt mind and refused to allow her to go to the prenatal check-up.
In order to have a child, my mother-in-law went to the countryside to find folk remedies and traditional Chinese medicine for her to eat. She said she couldn't stand her mother-in-law's behavior, and she always cried when she called us.
After having no children, she took on all the housework alone.
She complained because her eldest brother didn't flush his bowels in the toilet one time, and her mother-in-law told her that we were all a family, so what would happen if you flushed him?
When the eldest uncle brought his girlfriend back, she took care of everything. After cooking, she had to make them eat.
She felt particularly aggrieved because sometimes she would always wash her eldest brother's clothes and his partner's clothes.
Because she was very weak after the miscarriage, she had not gone to work. One day, her mother-in-law came back from get off work and saw that she had not cooked yet. Then she saw her husband and her eldest brother playing games on the sofa, so she asked them if they had eaten. Both sons said in unison that they had not eaten yet.
His mother-in-law came into the room and reprimanded him: "What are you doing at home every day? How can you let my two precious sons go hungry? If I am at home, I will cook for them on time. If you go to work, I will be at home and not let them eat. "No food."
Since she has been taking the remedies given by her mother-in-law, her period has become erratic and irregular. Her mother-in-law also complains about her poor health. Sometimes she complains to her husband, and her husband even vents her anger on her mother-in-law.
couldn't bear it anymore. In the second year after marriage, he dragged his suitcase and left, but he didn't make it.
Because her husband came home to pick up things in the middle of work, and found that he was not at home, and his clothes were not there either. She thought that he must have run away, so she notified his mother and brother to go to the station to get stuck, and then she really left them stuck and followed them home in despair.
Her mother-in-law also told her, you are married in a county, where else do you want to go? Do you still want to embarrass your parents?
She said that her mother-in-law had touched her weak point this time, so she stopped struggling and slowly accepted it all.
Later, she found a job in the kitchen of a hotel. She was very strictly controlled and had to pick up and drop off people in the morning and evening. She looked very happy, but in fact, only she knew it in her heart.
Once I met a male classmate in a hotel. I had a good time in the past and we chatted for a few words. Her husband happened to see her when he went to pick her up and said to her: "You smile so sweetly at others, don't go home tonight."
After seeing her husband angry, she immediately walked home by herself. When she got home, it was already 10 o'clock in the evening. The husband knocked on the door and refused to open the door, nor did she let her family members open the door.
There was nothing she could do, so she went to find a hotel nearby to spend the night. The next day, her husband found fault with her early in the morning, saying that only unscrupulous women would sleep in hotels.
She said that she had endured all these things and would stay away from them one day when she could travel far away to work. Also, she had been catching her husband's mistakes and would get divorced if he was caught.
From then on, her feelings for her husband were very weak. Then in the third year, her husband noticed it and asked her if she wanted to leave. If she wanted to leave, he was willing to let her go.
She said she hesitated. She said that when he really wanted to let her go, she remembered how good he was and was reluctant to let her go.
So she survived for several more years. In the past few years, she had many wars with her mother-in-law, but she was no longer the submissive girl. She was always at odds with her mother-in-law.
Later we got married one after another. She always liked to ask us how we were doing after marriage. Does your mother-in-law get along well with us?
We told her that it was good, and then she would say: "Don't believe those good things, they will change later."
Life always has some ups and downs, and then we would talk to each other, although we did not have the same experience as her.
Whenever I talk about the disagreements with my mother-in-law, she will say: "Let me tell you, my mother-in-law is not good at all. The world is as black as crows.""
Sometimes when she talks about something on her mind and mentions something between two people, she will say: "I've expected it a long time ago, men don't have a good thing, but don't take it too seriously. "
Sometimes it sounds very angry. She used to spit out all her bitterness, and we all tried to guide her carefully.
She was also a bit disdainful of other people's kindness. She said, don't be stupid and think that you are living a happy life. There is no such thing as happiness in this age. , It’s not like my parents’ era.
Maybe she is right, but were my parents happy in that era? There were many tragedies , right?
And , that’s because the happiness index of people nowadays is very low. Human desires are at work, and you want too much, but you don’t know that you will always be happy when you have enough!
Friends can’t figure it out. Thinking about those years when she couldn’t survive it, we were the ones accompanying her and encouraging her, but now she is always pointing fingers at others.
There is a friend who has not spoken to her for two years. She feels that Qingqing does not wish others well when she is not doing well, and goes to other people's territory to give advice.
While we were talking, she kept pouring cold water on her without a word of encouragement. It all feels like a mockery.
She was very depressed when she first got married. Because her husband's family was very strict and she didn't have much money, she even borrowed dozens of yuan for her phone bill from us. We lent it to her without saying a word and were considerate of her.
Now that her life is better, she always shows off her finances. This behavior has been tried and tested by many friends.
Sometimes a friend will deliberately show off his savings in front of her when he can't stand it. She turns around and says privately that they love to show off.
Because she kept showing off that her husband had a car, and then a friend called her out while driving by, and she said she was showing off and looking down on others.
has never had children due to her health. Then we all got married later than she did and had children one after another. She would sometimes tell them that she was more comfortable. She could do whatever she wanted when one person had enough to eat and the whole family was not hungry. Now when we are asked to go out, it is either because the children refuse or it is troublesome to take the children out.
This year, the sixth year after her marriage, she gave birth to a baby as she wished in October.
She said that her mother-in-law was particularly considerate of her this time, and then we said that it is good to be considerate. It will be easier if someone helps you raise a child. It is really tiring and hard to raise a child alone.
She said she would rather take it by herself than ask her to take it, so that she could be alone.
Her child is now three months old. A few days ago, she told me that you all said that raising children is very tiring. Why do I feel okay? This child is an angel baby. Maybe he came to me to repay my kindness and he is not making trouble. Is it because your children are not very well-behaved? I don't understand you very much. I'm here to collect debt from you, right? I almost want to have a second child right away.
I said that when our children were as old as yours, we were very relaxed. Such older children would not make much fuss. They ate, slept, ate, cried, and slept after eating.
She said that I thought it was okay to have a baby. I gave birth smoothly. Did you suffer from two kinds of sins?
I said that everyone’s physique is different, natural childbirth is not high-end, It is also important to carefully consider the mother's physical condition and the doctor's advice, rather than just making random comments.
She was embarrassed and changed the subject.
He loves to spread the word about something, he is the typical person who talks about Li Si to Zhang San and Zhang San to Li Si.
also likes to listen to other people's gossip. As miserable as she was before, we would never go out and say anything. We just knew it ourselves, and then gave her ideas, encouraged her and enlightened her.
When she didn't have children before, she said she envied all of us for becoming mothers, and we comforted her that everything would be fine, that she was still young and would always have children.
I didn’t expect that I have a child now. If I compare my own child to other people’s children, and compare her two-month-old baby with the well-behaved one-two-year-old, three-four-year-old child, I will be speechless.
A few days ago, I took a video of assembling the clothes dryer . It said that the assembly took almost two hours. In the past, it was all done by my husband, and he didn’t want me to do it.
Then he made a few comments below: "In what age do you know how to check your mobile phone? I am also pregnant and have a baby, but I am more avant-garde and I still search my mobile phone."
"You all said that your memory becomes bad after giving birth. I also gave birth, and I didn't feel that my memory was bad! It's not like what you said. Hair loss."
Then I just replied: "I have no time to make videos on my phone. Your child is only two or three months old, and my child is already running around. Who do you think can survive for a long time? And if you didn't do it before, it doesn't mean you won't. It's because the child's father won't let me do this. Why are you upset here?"
Maybe some people will forget all the suffering they suffered before when they finally get the reward.
Maybe you are unwilling to give in, but no matter how unwilling you are, you don’t need to be mean to your close friends. You must know that others will be jealous and disgusted. You don’t need to judge whether other people’s marriages are happy or not.
gradually understood that some so-called friends drift away as time goes by, and no one except parents wants you to be happier than her!
Friendships are all about mutual attraction, but she no longer attracts me. From now on, I just want to be okay on the surface and don’t want to have a deep friendship.
Have you ever experienced mental exhaustion in friendship? Should an in-fighting friendship end?
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