I remember Song Siming's wife in "Snail House" once said that men are all the same. When they are young, they need women to be their stepping stones, when they are middle-aged, they need women to be their boosters, and in their old age, they need women to be their crutches.

I remember Song Siming 's wife in " Dwelling " once said that men are all the same. When they are young, they need women to be their stepping stones, in middle age they need women to be their boosters, and in their old age they need women to be their crutches.

In life, in order to find a wife who is willing to spend the rest of his life with him, many elderly single men will disguise themselves. Not only do they make themselves "affectionate men", but they also instill their shrewd calculations into women bit by bit, so that women will willingly pay for him, but they feel it is an honor. There is a saying in "Love Needs to Learn" by

: In an intimate relationship, we are not afraid of giving or changing for the other person. What we are afraid of is that our efforts are not seen and we do not get the rewards we deserve.

The same goes for many elderly women who live together. They are not afraid to pay for the men who accompany them, but they are disappointed that their efforts are regarded as due by the other party. They even think that the women themselves are stupid. When things don’t happen, it’s better for you and me. If something happens, those selfish men will run away faster than anyone else. In the

community, 56-year-old single Aunt Qin said: It was only the second day after I tested positive for COVID-19 that I saw the true face of my partner.

Confidant: 56-year-old Aunt Qin

I am Aunt Qin. I am 56 years old this year and have been retired for 6 years. Now I have a monthly retirement salary of 3,100 yuan. I live in a two-bedroom elevator room. My only daughter is married far away and has already given birth to a baby.

My ex-husband and I divorced for these three reasons: 1. My parents-in-law were afraid of having a divorce, so they encouraged my ex-husband to divorce while pretending to be a good person in my ears, making me think it was only my ex-husband’s fault; 2. My ex-husband, with the connivance of my parents-in-law, openly flirted with others and even brought them home; 3. The three eldest aunts each played the role of "false virgins", which made me quit.

When I divorced my ex-husband, I was only 36 years old, and my daughter was only 9 years old. In order to completely cut off contact with my ex-husband, I only asked for 30,000 yuan in alimony from him, which I would pay in one lump sum and never have any contact with her again.

After the divorce, I was living alone with my daughter, working hard at work, and being repeatedly urged by my parents to remarry. Maybe it's because the first marriage was so painful that I don't trust men who say sweet words.

So, I told my parents directly that I would wait until my daughter grows up to consider my own personal issues.

When I retired at the age of 50, my daughter got married. I thought I could help my daughter when she gave birth to a baby. Unexpectedly, my in-laws had to do everything, so I had to find another job for myself, hoping to earn more pension money and reduce the burden on my daughter.

I posted an advertisement for a part-time job in the community and took three jobs. In one month, it was higher than my retirement salary. I was very happy with what I was doing. Later, when the epidemic hit, children began to take online classes at home, and the community was often silent. Gradually, only two fixed elderly families needed me to cook meals and clean up.

However, this also makes me feel that my life is very fulfilling. In addition to working part-time for these two companies, I also followed courses on the Internet to learn silhouettes, shot videos, edited my day's work and posted it on the Internet. I also wrote a short essay online to talk about my inner feelings and gratitude for life.

When I was 55 years old, I met Brother Qin, who was 12 years older than me. At that time, he came home from the hospital due to an illness and needed to find a live-in nanny, but it was difficult to find one for a while. He thought of the hourly job advertisement I posted in the community group.

Brother Qin called me. Can I work as a part-time worker at his house for a long time? After a good discussion, I went to Sister Ma's place to do housework and lunch in the morning, then went directly to Brother Qin's house to cook and clean up. In the afternoon, I went directly to Brother Zhao's house to work for another two hours. Then, I stayed with Brother Qin all night and cooked dinner for him until after nine o'clock, when I packed up and went home.

once saw this passage on the Internet: “Most of the pain in the world comes from lack of money. As long as it can be solved with money, it is not a problem at all."

After I worked in Brother Qin's house for half a year, Brother Qin told me that he had already fallen in love with me and hoped to partner with me for the rest of his life. He said that while he was partnering with me, he would not delay me from continuing to work as a part-time worker. He would deduct all our living expenses together, and also give me 2,000 yuan in pocket money every month (thinking about it now, it is not as much as part-time workers).

I thought I had found someone to rely on for the rest of my life, so I treated Brother Qin with extra care and attention. Whether it was three meals, a change of clothes during the four seasons, or every little thing in daily life, I felt that I did everything right.

And Brother Qin always gave me enough money. In addition to the usual red envelopes, the monthly pocket money of 2,000 yuan was always on time. He also pays for daily living expenses, so I never have to worry about it.

What happened happened after most people became infected, and I also found myself feeling dizzy, nauseous, and even had a low-grade fever. I first told two employers that I might have been infected, and then I told Brother Qin about it.

I thought that Brother Qin would stay with me like a normal couple, cooking me some porridge, bringing me a cup of hot water, or maybe saying a few words of concern.

Who knows, when I woke up the next day, someone had returned to their home with their luggage. They left me a message on WeChat saying that my body’s immunity was low and I couldn’t withstand such a virus , and asked me to take care of myself. When I fully recovered, we would Live life together.

I was feeling uncomfortable for a whole week before slowly getting better. But I didn’t have a cough. I just had severe “yellow phlegm” and my heart still hurt from time to time. I think that even if he is afraid that he will be infected, at least he should send greetings on WeChat every day, or video check the situation. To put it bluntly, at least he should know my life and death, right?

Brother Qin may be afraid that the virus will be transmitted between WeChat, so he disappeared from my WeChat the next day, and waited until a week later to send me a WeChat message to ask me if I was okay? Can you make some small wontons for him and ask the property management staff to help give them to him? He still doesn’t dare to come and get them.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it, or if he’s just selfish. Anyway, I have seen this person clearly. How can people who don't care about others spend the rest of their lives together? It's better to be safe on our own.

I deleted Brother Qin’s WeChat. I will live alone for the rest of my life. I expect others to give me happiness in my old age, but I often get disappointment in the end. Therefore, I will never partner with anyone again and continue to work part-time. Isn’t it good to make money? Why bother giving with all your heart, but there is no normal response?

Author: Huagui Zenxin

Pay attention to my words and enter your soul. You have stories, I have tea, and we can chat for the rest of our lives together.

The pictures in the article come from the Internet.