Pussy personality refers to a personality that blindly pleases others and ignores one's own feelings.
will habitually cater to others in a relationship, do not know how to refuse, and do not have their own principles. A personality like
can easily make oneself wrong, but it cannot gain the kindness of others.
will also become the object of bullying and one of the most easily cheated personality.
Jiaxin had previously come into contact with an original wife with a flattering personality.
She was discovering that her husband had cheated on him for more than a year and had been humble for more than a year.
With the encouragement of a friend, she came to Jiaxin for help. Her friend said she had psychological problems.
If she can't get out of her psychological dilemma, she will never be able to solve her extramarital affair, and she will never be able to be happy.
Jiaxin also chatted with this original wife in detail for a few days. She is indeed a typical flattering personality.
After getting married, I have been constantly wronged and cater to her husband for the sake of her husband.
For example, if it is a very small thing, what to eat at night, she doesn’t eat spicy food, nor does she like heavy oil.
But her husband is not spicy and likes to eat fried food. Every time she cooks, she will cook according to what her husband likes.
At the beginning, she did two things that her husband liked, and two things that she liked more.
Her husband complained once, saying that the vegetables were not delicious and he couldn't eat them at all. After eating two dishes and found it boring to do anything, she started to make all four of her husband liked them.
This is just an example in life. Her flattering words and deeds fill her marriage.
Will the flattering personality be happy in a relationship?
It’s not up to her, but to see what kind of man she meets.
If you are a person with a conscience and knows to be grateful, you may be very good to her.
You can see the rewards when you give and you will be cherished, and you will be very happy.
But most flattering personalities cannot meet such men.
Often their situation is that they are trying hard to please others, but others will not be grateful at all.
instead noticed their personality and began to use this personality.
keeps taking advantage of them, even doing some behaviors that hurt them, and even blame them for
Just like the original wife of a pleasing personality mentioned earlier, this is the case.
Her husband was also good to her at first, but later he got used to it, so he started to pick on everything.
Every time she is picky, she will not refute it, and will only please her husband even more.
and even her husband cheated on her later, and she still had to blame her. After
was discovered, the man who cheated on him did not admit his mistake, but instead said that his cheating was the fault of his original wife.
The original wife fell into deep self-doubt for a long time because of the accusation of cheating on the man.
She felt that everything was her fault, and kept apologizing and constantly wanted to satisfy the cheating man by changing herself.
Because as long as the man cheats is satisfied, he will break off relationships with the mistress and return to his family.
The reality is that a cheating man will never be dissatisfied, no matter how the original wife changes.
You change it, and he will be able to quickly pick out more bad things from the original partner.
The original wife began to get worse. It was her friend who felt it and pulled her to do psychological counseling.
What should I do if I encounter an extramarital affair in this situation?
On the one hand, the original wife changes the deformed relationship by changing herself.
Why does a man cheat on his original wife while still having trouble with him?
Because the cheating man doesn't want to divorce, he wants the original wife to stay by his side.
Because living with a person with a flattering personality, cheating on men is the one who benefits.
may even bring more benefits to him than being with the mistress, so he can't bear to part with his original wife.
However, the original wife's personality is also the main reason why the original wife is cheated on.
Because the man cheated, he felt that the original wife had no choice but to deal with him. Even if he cheated, the original wife would think it was her fault.
will even cater to cheating men more in order to save them from cheating men.
So if you don’t change your flattering personality, it is impossible for a cheating man to return.
Personality is born and has a lot to do with the acquired growth environment.
A family that prefers boys over girls is the easiest way to make a woman become a pleasing personality. It is difficult to completely change
, but the original partner is definitely difficult, so you won’t change it.
Add to the suggestions little by little, interfere with your own behavior and slowly change your thinking.
Even if the change is slow, you must insist on changing.
Jiaxin believes that changing the flattering personality is even more important than separation of the mistress.
On the other hand, he changed his cheating man and re-entered a healthy relationship.
The people around the original wife will have a great impact on whether the original wife can slowly change her flattering personality.
It is obvious that a man who cheats on him is not a good person, and it can even be said that he is not a good person.
He actually saw the original wife very clearly and knew what kind of personality the original wife had.
He did not cherish it, but instead took advantage of the defects in his original wife's personality to satisfy his own selfish desires. Men like
are not only selfish, but also bad, because they will take the initiative to hurt others.
So Jiaxin does not recommend that the original wife continue to be with such a man.
Because he will suppress his original wife for his own enjoyment and belittle her.
has always made the original matchmaker in constant self-doubt and it is impossible for him to change himself.
If you want to change, you must also have an environment that can be changed. So leaving in time is the best strategy.
Slowly change yourself and then re-enter a healthy relationship, so that you can truly gain happiness.
Finally, Jiaxin wanted to say that many original wives were cheated on have a lot to do with some of their own flaws.
In addition to this kind of original wife with a flattering personality, there are also love brain and dependent personality , which are all prone to extramarital affairs.
Compared to you when you solve extramarital affair, the original wife should focus more on yourself.
You don’t change the flaws, even if you solve the problem of mistresses, the man will continue to cheat.
Even if you change a relationship, it is still easy for that man to find a mistress.
Your happiness cannot be dependent on whether you can find a good man, but on yourself.
If you have an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow Jiaxin and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Jiaxin, a marriage maintenance teacher who focuses on the separation of third parties.
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