I am 72 years old this year, have a deposit of 300,000 yuan, and have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, but I live a miserable life in my old age...
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My name is Zhang Pinggui, everyone calls me Lao Zhangtou, 72 years old this year, my wife is two years younger than me, our old couple has two sons and two daughters.
When I was young, I worked in a grain and oil factory and was considered a middle-level backbone. Therefore, after retiring at the age of 60, I could still receive a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan.
If you put this money in the countryside, it is actually enough for my wife and I to spend on weekdays.
And, over the years, I have saved 300,000 yuan, so my wife and I are not afraid that no one will care about us when we get old.
Just this 300,000 yuan deposit, plus a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, who doesn’t envy it?
But a few things that have happened recently are because I don’t know how to be low-key, which makes me worry more and more every day.
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"Hey, dad, can you lend me some money? Your grandson's milk powder money has been gone again recently. You also know that your son-in-law is not good, and I really have no choice." Listening to my daughter crying on the phone, I called the money without hesitation.
"Dad, can you borrow 150,000 from your place? My wife and I almost have money to buy a school district house." My daughter had just finished the phone call, and then her son called again.
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is like this. Since I didn’t know how to be low-key, my son and daughter knew that I had a deposit of 300,000 yuan and a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, I always tried every means to borrow some money from me.
Over time, the savings I saved on my husband and I were gone, and the only thing we could have left was the 4,000 yuan pension I received on time every month.
However, in addition to providing for my wife and I’m a regular expense, this pension must also be kept for medical treatment and elderly care.
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Later, my children came to borrow money from me again, and I didn't lend it to me on the grounds that I had no money.
For this reason, my children thought I had money and deliberately did not lend it to them, but in fact I also had trouble.
The storm of children borrowing money has just passed, and when relatives approached, they called to borrow money again.
"Hey, Uncle Zhang, I called you because I wanted to borrow some money from you..."
Listening to my relatives asking me to borrow money on the phone, but I have no savings now, so I can only refuse politely.
result, and they offended each of them because of this. They didn't like me and said I was stingy.
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Although my wife and I still have a pension of several thousand yuan a month, our health is now beginning to decline, and we have to spend a lot of money every month to see a doctor.
A while ago, my wife suddenly had cerebral infarction and attacks, which required a lot of money. I didn’t have that much savings on me, so I had no choice but to call my son and daughter.
"Dad, I'm not enough money, only 10,000 yuan, you can take it first."
"Dad, I don't have that much money now, why don't you ask my relatives and borrow some more."
Sons and daughters all start to pretend to be poor when they talk about money.
There was no way, so I could only ask my relatives and borrowed some more money before I could get the money to treat my wife.
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And since both of us were getting worse, our children have returned home less and less.
at most, it is just to call and greet occasionally. Even on the phone, I don’t feel much care.
"Hey, son, when will you and your sister come back? Your mother and I haven't seen our grandson and granddaughter for a long time."
"Dad, let's go back in a while. When will we take a vacation? Let's go back."
Every time I ask them, these are the words. Since my wife and I have no savings and are in good health, we have not only children, but also fewer relatives who usually have good contacts.
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That's it, my wife and I live a tight life with the 4,000 yuan pension every month.
After all, in addition to saving some retirement, this money also has monthly living expenses. The main thing is that the recovery after the incident occurs to my wife, all of which require expenses.
So, there is no way, I can’t count on my children, so I will save money.
It has been a long time since I bought new clothes. Recently, my wife's clothes were all given to us by my son and daughter.
is almost impossible to go to restaurants. Every meal is cooked at home, and I have grown a lot of vegetables in my own vegetable fields. At least in the countryside, I don’t have to worry about eating and drinking. It’s just that I didn’t have to eat or drink like before. I did not eat whatever I wanted and buy whatever I wanted.
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Now when you go out to buy something, you have to look at the price. If it is not cheap, you will definitely not buy it.
When I met an old friend who asked me to have a party, I would find excuses not to go there. The excuses were all the reasons why my wife refused because of inconvenient legs and feet.
Although I smiled and refused their invitation, only I knew in my heart that I was actually very uncomfortable.
Think about the days when I had hundreds of thousands of deposits, plus a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, who doesn’t envy me? Even if I don’t contact others on my own initiative, others will contact you on my own initiative.
The children are all very filial and often call to ask about their well-being, or they will bring their grandchildren and granddaughters back to see me and my wife every now and then.
speaks kindly and politely. Thinking about it at that time, I really lived with dignity and confidence. Alas, unlike now, I ended up miserably in my old age...
I really regret it, I regret not being low-key, I regret not controlling my own mouth, and I regret giving out all my savings.
@Emotional Story on the Pen Tip :
Grandpa Zhang, after listening to your story, I feel very heavy. Originally, you have a deposit of 300,000 yuan when you are old and have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. Logically speaking, your old age is happier than most elderly people.
However, because of your kindness for a while, you gave all your savings to your children and lent them to your relatives, which led to your life and your aunt not as good as before.
I hope not only Grandpa Zhang, but also everyone can learn from it. We can help our children and relatives appropriately, but we cannot give all of it. After all, it is all the pension money we have saved through hard work.
Just like Grandpa Zhang, you gave out the money you saved with great difficulty. If you want to come back, it will not be easy. You are old now, and it is really inconvenient not to leave some pension money around you!
also hopes that Grandpa Zhang’s children will be more considerate of their parents after seeing it. They will go home to see them more often. After all, when people get older, their lives are not as good as before.
Grandpa Zhang, don’t be discouraged, after all, you still have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. Find a way to get back all the money you lent out first, and you can live a good life in the future.
In fact, we must all understand the true meaning of the saying "There is something to rely on in the old age and the support of the old age". The sentence
is not only a famous saying, but also represents the traditional virtue contained in it. I hope we can pass on this traditional virtue all the time.
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