About ex-boyfriend
When I was 23 years old, I had a boyfriend who loved me very much. His name was Liu Jun. He took good care of me and thought about me everywhere. We have been together for four years and reached the age of talking about marriage. One day, I told my parents to take my boyfriend home for dinner, and my parents were very happy.
The next day, my parents prepared the meal early and cleaned up the house. When my boyfriend came, he bought some fruits, cigarettes and alcohol. When his parents saw that he was handsome and tall, they were quite satisfied and warmly greeted him for dinner.
During meals, you have to inquire about work and family. When you hear that your boyfriend is a single-parent family and you have to raise your younger brother with a low mentality and your family is relatively poor, you can feel that your parents look wrong, and you can see that your parents are not very satisfied with your boyfriend's family.
After my boyfriend left, my mother held my hand and said earnestly: "As a veteran, I want to tell you that love cannot be eaten as a meal. His family is too poor. He will not only take care of his own family, but also his younger brother with low intelligence in the future. I don't want you to marry and suffer. Poor couples are sad. Your father and I don't agree with your marriage."
I naturally won't listen to my parents. In my eyes, my boyfriend is a person who is motivated and responsible, and he is very kind to me. Although the conditions are not good now, I believe that he will succeed one day and will work hard to make money to change his current life. I told my parents that I must marry him. My parents disagree and threatened that if I marry them, they will not have my daughter.
Hearing this, I ran out crying and went to find my boyfriend. Unexpectedly, my boyfriend avoided me and told me not to look for him again in the future. He had no feelings for me and didn't want to see me again. Before I could ask clearly what was going on, my boyfriend disappeared into my world.
In those years, I have been living in doubt and sadness, from a sought-after young girl to an older single woman. My parents found several blind dates with good conditions for me, but they were all ruined by me. None of them looked at me. My parents saw that I was depressed every day and became thinner day by day. They said sadly: "Are we really doing something wrong? Girl, I'm sorry, at the beginning, we told Liu Jun that you thought he was too poor and brought a mentally retarded brother to the point of not disturbing you again. Alas, otherwise you would have gotten married long ago."
When I heard the reason why Liu Jun left, I cried like a tearful person, but what's the use? What I missed was that I missed it, and no matter how sad I was, I couldn't go back to the past.
About my husband
Later I was single until I was 29 years old. My parents greyed my hair for the reason that I had not gotten married and kept arranging blind dates for me. Seeing my parents getting older, I couldn't bear it and thought that anyone would get married. When I was dating my current husband, although his family was not good, he was honest and honest. After half a year, I decided to marry him.
Although I got married, my husband and I had no feelings for each other at the beginning, and we didn’t have much common language. We basically couldn’t say a few words a day. Fortunately, my husband was kind and treated me well. Our child was born in the third year of marriage.
Originally, my husband and I were working at home, but with the arrival of our children, we had to buy milk powder and diapers. The elderly were in poor health and needed money everywhere. This income was not enough to cover the expenses, so my husband decided to go to the city to work.
Originally I wanted to go with my husband, but my husband said that my parents are old and have poor health, their legs and feet are inconvenient, and the children are still young. Both the elderly and the children need to take care of them. It is not enough to have a young family, so I asked me to stay and take care of this family, which also gave up the idea of going to work in the city.
Before leaving, my husband gave me some money and said that he would remove the daily expenses and ask me to buy some delicious food for myself and buy a few beautiful clothes. My husband said that I have married him for so many years and let me suffer with him. When he earns money, he will definitely let me and my children live a good life. To be honest, I was very moved.
Although I didn’t have any feelings for my husband at the beginning, as he became better and better with me, I developed different feelings for him, developed a sense of dependence, and became concerned.
After my husband went to the city to work, he sent money back from time to time, which was more than farming at home, and his family's life began to improve slowly. The only bad thing is that my husband can only go home once a year or two years. Every time I can only tell him on the phone how much I miss him. My husband also understands what I mean, and he promised me that he would go home early.
This kind of life has lasted for more than ten years. I am used to the days when my husband is not around, but my husband's work is getting busier and busier. He was too busy to talk to me for a long time. Sometimes he only made a few minutes to call, and before he could say a few words, my husband said he was busy first. I was very disappointed if I had too many times like this.
After the child goes to boarding school, I am often alone in addition to taking care of the elderly at home. To be honest, I am very lonely. Sometimes the quarrels between neighbors, parents-in-law’s in-laws’ discomfort, and the fatigue of taking care of children make me very wronged. I wanted to call my husband to complain, but my husband always said he was busy and he was not available, so I was really sad.
Reunion
It's really been a long time since I saw my husband, so I decided to take a taxi to the city to find him. Because my husband didn't get off work so early, I just walked around the city by myself.
"Yang Juan?"
Hearing someone calling me, he turned around and saw a familiar face.
"It's really you. I am Liu Jun. You won't remember it, right?"
I smiled awkwardly. How could I not remember it? It's just that such a reunion didn't know what to say for a while. After a few greetings with him, I said I was leaving. Liu Jun left my phone number and asked if he wanted to drive me. Looking at the car that was well maintained, I just wanted to leave there as soon as possible.
Back to the house my husband rented, my husband had already prepared the meal, and everything I cooked was all about what I like, so he asked me to wash my hands and eat quickly, but I was still confused about today's encounter. Looking at me who was absent-minded, my husband asked me if I had something happened, and I was a little panicked and said no.
After returning home the next day, a verification of adding friends came to WeChat. I clicked the avatar and saw a familiar face. Isn’t this Liu Jun? I was surprised at first, but later, for some reason, I actually agreed to add friends.
He asked me if I was doing well recently. I felt as if someone had valued it. He told him all my unhappiness and grievances. He listened to me very seriously and understood my mood very well. He was very relaxed in chatting with him. He not only comforted me, but also provided me with solutions. It was easy to chat with him, and he felt familiar and unfamiliar.
At first, he just typed and chatted, but later he couldn't help but call me a voice call. I didn't want to answer it at first. After all, the past is over. I am already a married woman, but I don't know what I thought, but I answered it. His voice was still so familiar, more magnetic than before.
Since then, Liu Jun will call me every day. Sometimes the call lasts for more than an hour, and I forgot to cook. When my mother-in-law saw it, she asked me who I was talking to and laughed so happily. I stammered and said that I was just a friend, and I was afraid that my mother-in-law would find out about my abnormality.
During the chat, I learned that Liu Jun had divorced three years ago and is now living alone in the city. He said that after breaking up with me, he vowed that he would do something and not want to be looked down upon by others. Hard work pays off. He succeeded. He opened a company, became the company boss, bought a house in the city, married the daughter of a rich man, and gave birth to a fat boy.
Seeing that he is so successful now, looking at my current life, I am very envious and jealous.
extramarital affair
After we met Liu Jun again, we contacted each other almost every day. Sometimes when we talked about something delicious, Liu Jun would buy it and send it to me. I was curious about how he had my address. He said that he came when I got married, and saw me from a distance. After listening to it, I felt an indescribable feeling, as if there was a stone blocking my heart.
I had no nerve to accept the things sent by Liu Jun, and said that I would return them to him, but he said that he would give them to me as long as I like to eat.Later, in addition to the food, he also bought me gifts, including lipstick, skin care products, necklaces... I was actually very touched. He has never given me any gifts for so many years with my husband.
In more than three months of ambiguity, I admit that I have fallen. One day, Liu Jun suddenly said that he still liked me. He had never forgotten me and hoped that I could be with him. He said that his financial conditions were good and he had the ability to live a good life. After that, he gave me a gold necklace. But reason told me that I couldn't do this, so I refused.
It’s a coincidence that my husband sent a gold bracelet back and said that he had made some money recently and had never given me anything. He bought me a bracelet and said that he had suffered for so many years. He was particularly grateful for my efforts to his family. He will work hard to make money to improve his family’s life. Looking at the gold bracelet and looking at what I do these days, I feel very sorry for my husband.
So since that day, I deliberately reduced my contact with Liu Jun, but Liu Jun still did not give up. He kept sending me messages, calling me, and telling me over and over again that he was sincere to me and that he really liked me, so I decided to tell Liu Jun not to send me messages again.
The next day, Liu Jun did not pester me anymore, but just sent me a message: He just didn't want to leave any regrets and would not disturb me anymore. Seeing the news of his farewell, my heart suddenly missed. I remember how regretful I was after being forced to separate. I don’t know which nerve was wrong and actually called Liu Jun.
We talked a lot that night, and Liu Jun suggested that we go to see the sea, because I had always wanted to see the sea but couldn't go there. I struggled for a long time. I agreed, so I told my parents-in-law and husband that I hadn't seen for a long time to go to a friend's house for two days.
The next day I came to the beach with Liu Jun. The sea was really beautiful. Liu Jun bought me a beautiful white dress and said that I must be beautiful when I put it on. After I changed it, Liu Jun was stunned. He took out a bouquet of flowers to give it to me, and then took my hand and walked to the beach.
I was so nervous that I was sweating, but Liu Jun still held her hands and refused to let go. I went to the restaurant to eat steak that I had never eaten before. I was very happy. During the meal, my husband called the video call. I was so scared that I didn’t answer and told me that I was playing with my friends, so it was not convenient to answer.
Maybe my husband felt something abnormal, so he called me a video call every once in a while. Finally, he found a more suitable location. I returned my husband to the past and then felt relieved.
After dinner, I returned to my residence and saw the bed covered with roses and the gifts carefully prepared by Liu Jun. I admitted that I was moved and could not resist Liu Jun's romance. Something that shouldn't have happened that day, and Liu Jun and I developed into lovers. When I got home the next day, I regretted it very much. How could I, a married woman, do such shameless things?
The truth of love
After being with Liu Jun, I often went to the city to find him. He cared about me very much and was willing to spend money on me. Gradually, the balance in my heart began to tilt.
Liu Jun wants to have me completely, so he hopes that I can divorce my husband. In fact, I am still very conflicted inside. I am afraid that Liu Jun is not sincere, and I feel sorry for my husband.
One day I went to the city to find Liu Jun and was shopping with him. Suddenly I saw a familiar figure, thinking that it was impossible for my husband to be at work. I took a look at him and it was really my husband.
I immediately let go of Liu Jun's hand and wanted to go up and explain something to my husband. My husband looked at me disappointedly, with tears in his eyes and said angrily: "Yang Juan, how can you do such shameless things? I work hard and work two jobs. I just want to give you a better life, but you are dating other men here? You are really shameless."
After saying that, my husband turned around and left. I originally wanted to follow me, but Liu Jun grabbed me and said: "Isn't it better if he knows? In this way, you don't have to worry about it, and we can be together." For a moment, I didn't know what to say.
Things have happened, and I have nothing to defend myself. Life with Liu Jun is indeed happier. So I went back and filed a divorce with my husband. My husband accepted it calmly, and said nothing, and quietly lowered his head. Looking at him like this, I felt very guilty.
Although my husband and I have not completed the divorce procedures, I have moved out of my home and lived with Liu Jun. Although everyone is scolding me, I don’t care. I think having love can bring happiness.
It was quite good to live together at the beginning. Liu Jun was very gentle to me. Liu Jun was also doing most of the work at home. He would bring flowers to me after get off work. But gradually, Liu Jun's temper became stronger and stronger, and he would scold me at all times. It was really different from the gentleness he had been in the past. He no longer cared about me, didn't care about my feelings, and he was like a different person.
I don’t know what happened to him, but thinking that maybe Liu Jun was just under pressure and was in a bad mood, so I didn’t ask much, but he became more and more overworked and started to stay at night. I couldn’t bear it anymore and said angrily: “Liu Jun, what are you doing? Do you don’t love me anymore?”
Liu Jun sneered and said: “I don’t love you. When I met you again, the scene of you thinking that I was poor and not worthy of you appeared in front of me again. Do you know how painful I had in those years? I just want to take revenge on you.”
I immediately collapsed on the ground after hearing this, and I hadn’t reacted to what happened yet. I wanted to explain what happened back then, but who would believe it now? How could he hurt me like this if he really loves me? Only after I came back to my senses did I realize that I had ruined my life with my own hands.
Can the broken mirror be reunited?
After moving out of Liu Jun, I became a homeless person with no place to go, like a mouse crossing the street and everyone shouted and beat me.
Just when I didn't know what to do, my husband sent me a message asking me to go home, saying that for the sake of the growth of my child, he could forgive me for what I had done and could not blame me.
I was desperate and chose to go home. No one at home mentioned this again, but everything changed. My husband lost his gentleness to me and his eyes were full of disgust. My parents-in-law didn't give me a good face, and the children no longer approached me. I am an outsider and a sinner in this family.
Extramarital affair is really untouchable. Don’t be tempted for a moment and give up your bottom line. People who are unfaithful to their family are destined to be lonely for a lifetime.
I know I did something wrong. I thought about divorce, but if I divorce and I don’t have a job, I don’t know what life will be like. Can I support myself? But it’s very painful to live without divorce. What should I do?
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