"You have a red envelope that has not been received for more than 24 hours and has been fully refunded"
I returned my boyfriend's transfer again.
In the past few years together, I have never accepted my boyfriend's transfers.
We also had quarrels over this incident, and even almost broke up several times, but I just couldn't overcome the hurdle in my heart.
may be influenced by the original family, and the inferiority complex has become deeply rooted, and he is even more sensitive when facing money.
always feels that if you accept someone’s money, you will owe something. You always think about returning the gift to make up for it, otherwise you will be uneasy and make people hate themselves and cannot protect that little pitiful self-esteem.
Plus my parents’ education since childhood is to be rewarded without any reward. Faced with my boyfriend’s gift, I don’t know what I can return.
So this mentality drove me to refuse to accept his transfers and red envelopes.
is not just a transfer. Usually when we go out to play, eat, watch movies, or go shopping, I always want to rush to pay with him and can't bear to spend his money.
If he treats me to dinner this time, I will definitely find a way to treat him once.
Sometimes he will buy a ticket in advance to take me to watch a movie.
After receiving his gift on holidays, I will prepare a gift of the same value to him.
often see related videos on TikTok saying "If you don't spend money, you don't love you". I will also think about whether my doing this will make him think too much, thinking that if I don't spend his money, I don't love him. My best friend says that I am a typical love brain, and it's really helpless, but I am such a strange girl. I feel like I'm going to another extreme.
I am afraid that because of inequality in money, it reflects the inequality of personality.
Because once you seem to be rich and realistic in front of your boyfriend, you cannot be justified.
I don’t want a substance-contaminated love.
After all, I had no intention of making money.
I like Ruyi’s attitude towards life very much. Even though she is in a quagmire, she cannot lose her affection. Just as the great patriotic poet Qu Yuan said: "Everyone is drunk and I am awake alone."
But it still caused his discomfort. His kindness was rejected again and again, so naturally he felt unhappy.
He suppressed his anger and kept asking me:
"Why should I refuse? Isn't it normal for you to send you a red envelope as a boyfriend?"
"Everything needs AA! Do you think this is like a relationship?"
"This kind of love is really boring."
I don't know how to explain it to him.
Best friend talks to me "Actually, you don't need to be so careful. It is normal for couples to talk about money. You don't need to calculate every account clearly."
"Then how do you and your boyfriend deal with the money problem?" I'm very puzzled
"We, of course, whoever has money should spend more, and we will happily accept the gifts we give each other, and we will not care about who spends more and who spend less.
When talking about her and him, my best friend was filled with a happy smile
Looking at the screenshot of the red envelope posted in the circle of friends posted by my best friend, milk tea ordered by my boyfriend, gifts given by each one exudes sweet love
Suddenly I feel like this love Love is also quite desirable.
We have long passed the age of being full of affection. Perhaps only realistic is consistent with the current rhythm of life.
has nothing to do with vanity, it only concerns affection.
Maybe these things themselves are not that complicated, but I misinterpreted his meaning.
boyfriend's red envelopes and gifts are their ways to express their love. It is also a small sense of ritual in love.
Just like he kept saying to me, "I hope I can feel what you need, and sending you red envelopes and buying gifts to make you feel happy, I will feel that we are needed and attracted to each other. ”
Love that goes in both directions will be more meaningful.
Use his money to carefully plan a trip that he can walk on, buy what he likes but cannot bear to buy, and give each other a little surprise and romance.
After all, we exist in a real world, and there is real money behind every romance.
"Love is just an additive to life. The food, rice, oil and salt in life requires the irrigation of love."
Actually, I know that many girls are helpless when it comes to transferring their boyfriends and are embarrassed to accept it.
But what I want to say is that within the normal consumption capacity of couples, you should collect it if you should.
You receive gifts and red envelopes to get sweet love, and he sends gifts and red envelopes to get existence and worship.
The best of both worlds.
Some netizens said: "I am a person with a very inferiority in relationships, but I am very grateful to my boyfriend. He slowly pulled me out and waited patiently for me to follow his pace, but I still dare not ask for it boldly. I always feel that those are not mine."
Everyone has their own way of getting along. As long as this way makes it more comfortable to get along with each other, it doesn't matter whether you ask for it or not
Finally, I hope everyone has their own happiness! Don't hurt each other's affection because of money.
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