Author: Shiyiyan
01: Preface
What people fear most in their lives is to have an "unreliable" relative who will involve you.
In fact, everyone is very busy and there are many things that are too late to do.
If you really have too many troubles and don’t have the ability to solve them, don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
Many people choose to turn to their relatives and friends when they encounter difficulties, but there are some relatives who are close to each other. If they blindly help them solve their difficulties, they will only put themselves in an embarrassing situation.
It’s like some people like to be greedy for small gains. As long as they ask for help, it must be with a purpose.
people have experienced a lot, seen a lot, and seen through some things. At this age, there is nothing to be persistent in.
So, at this age, don’t worry about something anymore. Some people and things are no longer suitable for you, so don’t be entangled.
people are middle-aged, so don’t interact with each other for the following three types of relatives.
02: Relatives without principles, don’t come to visit
Some relatives, if you help him once, they think you should help him.
So, when you need help, they will come to you.
But if they don’t have principles, then you don’t help with this matter.
At that time, if you can't help one day, you may be said to be helping you worse.
So, in this case, don’t go and help them anymore.
In fact, this situation is also very common.
In fact, such a thing is also possible because of their own conflict of interests.
So, if someone asks you, you must see clearly whether the person has principles and whether he really wants to help him (her); if he has no principles and no bottom line, it is best not to interact with him (her).
03: Relatives who take advantage of the situation, break off their relationship
people are middle-aged, and some relatives are still good to you, so you must know how to be grateful.
But some relatives may be able to walk around each other when they use you, but once you encounter difficulties, they will no longer walk around with you.
For example: some relatives, you have helped them when they are in trouble; you will also help them when they are in trouble; but when you have something to do, they can always put down the wrong end. Relatives like
should not contact each other. Because, not only does he not appreciate your help, he slandered you.
friend Wang Hua has such a relative. Wang Hua was very poor before, but he had a rich and capable relative. Wang Hua is also grateful for this.
However, when Wang Hua really encountered difficulties and needed money to buy medicine, he realized it. This relative didn't treat him seriously at all.
The reason why he is close to him is just to find a sense of existence and superiority in himself. Moreover, he told everyone that Wang Hua was so unpromising, and he would not repay the money he borrowed.
As a human being, you must have a little conscience. If you look down on others from the beginning, don’t have any interaction with others. Don't do things that are both face-saving and secretly. People like
are really tiny!
04: Relatives who don’t take advantage of it, stay away from
There is a kind of relative who likes to take advantage of it, and taking advantage of it is their nature. They feel that they are very powerful, so they will show off to others everywhere, hoping that others can curry favor with him.
Some people just can’t stand others’ goodness. As long as others live worse than themselves, they will feel very unbalanced and always think about finding excuses to defend themselves.
Some people especially like to take advantage of small gains. They think there are many people who are fighting with them.
Some other relatives and friends will also ask their relatives and friends to help deal with it after some disputes or conflicts occur. This type of relative is typical of taking advantage of you, and they know that those people will not treat you too well.
There are some people who are willing to interact with such relatives, but such relatives require you to make a lot of effort.
When you make a little money outside, what achievements have you achieved, what status have you gained, or how much money have you earned, etc., they will say to you, "I have helped you with this." This is a good way to you.
However, there are some things that have great temptations to benefit. If you don’t pay a lot of money, you won’t help you.
So, at this time, you must reject such people.
05: Shi Yiyan Message
people have experienced a lot, seen through a lot, and seen a lot clearly. At this age, you should no longer be entangled with some things.
people reach middle age, it is the time when a person matures. Some things, some people, just break them if they can.
Just like these three types of relatives mentioned above, if you date such relatives, you will only suffer in the end.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to manage human feelings and worldly styles, which is a sign and manifestation of a person's maturity.
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