"Two grasses are the same as one, and people's hearts are not as good as grasses." In the past, two people who had finally come together should join together to keep warm and pursue a better future. I only realized after getting married that life is not only beautiful, but also c

" Two grasses are the same as one, and people's hearts are not as good as grass. " In the past, two people who had finally come together should join together to keep warm and pursue a better future. I only realized after getting married that life is not only beautiful, but also countless mottled.

No matter who you are with, once you are easily delivered, you are the one who is being controlled. Don’t think that your affection can be exchanged for the other person’s sincerity, and don’t think that your efforts can be exchanged for the other person’s consideration. In marriage, once a party often has these "three kinds of psychology", no matter how much effort you make, it will be in vain.

. Getting married is an "old husband and wife"

Why are two people obviously in love and can get along well before getting married? They don't feel tired all day together, but after getting married, they feel extremely tormented to stay for an hour longer.

The real reason is not that couples no longer love each other, but that they neglect and ignore each other. Zhao Ying had been in love with her husband for three years before entering the marriage hall. The two were naturally a lover, but they frequently quarreled after marriage. When they quarreled, the husband often said something: "We have known each other for so many years. Do you need to care so much about the old couple?"

Every time Zhao Ying heard her husband say this, she became more and more angry, but her husband disagreed. She just felt that she had told the truth. She had known each other for more than eight years. The seven-year itch of has passed . What else is there to be quarrel, let alone these trivial matters are irrelevant.

Last Tuesday was the 8th anniversary of Zhao Ying and her husband. After all, she has not lived a very wealthy life for so many years. Even her mother came to help take care of her during confinement. Zhao Ying always felt that she had suffered a lot of grievances in his family and was not valued. She worked hard to give birth to a son and a daughter for his family. Now she has a car and a house, but she found that her husband is not as concerned about him as before, and she can even forget her wedding anniversary.

In Zhao Ying's heart, it has always been a hurdle that cannot be overcome. After all, this is a witness day for love and staying together. After holding it in for a week, the emotion broke out because her husband agreed to accompany her to the movies on the weekend and broke his promise. The two had a big fight, and Zhao Ying kept talking, telling all the grievances and unhappiness before and after the marriage.

The husband didn't say much, but sat on the sofa without saying a word. After Zhao Ying finished speaking, he silently returned to the room and closed the door. The two of them had been in the cold war with for three or four days because of this incident. Their days were getting better and better after the marriage, but their relationship frequently had problems. In the final analysis, the two people had different requirements for marriage.

Women always feel that when you are poor, I can accompany you to endure hardships. Even if there is no gift on holiday, there is a happy word. After life gets better, there is no thoughtful word, and then the woman’s heart will naturally be unbalanced; and men feel that it is nothing if they don’t express it before, but now they don’t express it. After all, life is much better, and it doesn’t matter whether these empty things are needed.

Little do you know that it is precisely because of the "old husband and wife" mentality that the other party feels that you are neglecting or not caring about him, and that it is ignored, so the relationship between the two people will become more and more rigid after marriage.

. Always want to win the other party

When couples get along, is most afraid that both of them will not give in. They always think about right or wrong, and fight for winning or losing. After all, this is the "desire for conquest" of human nature at work. Zhao Ying is a very strong woman. After marriage, she demands perfection in everything. Even if her husband puts her shoes in the wrong place, she has to criticize her for a long time. She always feels that everything she does is right.

also likes to make rules at home, and completely move the company's management plan to the home. When you get along at home, you are naturally not as good as a company. Home is obviously a very warm place. If you manage it as a company, you will naturally not get the warmth and happiness you should have.

Every time someone comes to my hometown, I have to follow Zhao Ying’s arrangements for everything, and if my husband refutes, the two of them will turn red.But after all, as a man, I also hope to not be suppressed in everything, especially in front of my family, I also need a certain amount of face. Just like before, when my husband's aunt and uncle came to visit his house, whether to go out to eat or eat at home, both of them had to fight for this issue.

Zhao Ying felt that eating in a restaurant was more decent and there was no need to make a mess at home, while her husband felt that the family came from all the way to come to the house to have fun. It seemed very good to take it out for food, and the two argued endlessly.

In family matters, two people have to compete for winning or losing, and they also have to compete for right or wrong in educating their children. After the two get married, they keep quarreling because of various things and disagreements, and they all want to prove that they are right.

3. Always accuse the other party

What makes people feel even more heartbreaking than fighting for wins and losses, whether it is right or wrong, is that they keep accusing the other party . It is said that love can only be felt through encouragement and affirmation, and it will only consume each other's feelings in accusation. It seems that it is not false at all.

Zhao Ying saw that her husband's shoes were too dirty, so she couldn't help but say that he was not hygienic. Seeing that his alarm clock rang in the morning and didn't get up, she would say that he was as undisciplined as his mother.

Once, when her husband was cooking in the kitchen, he accidentally broke a stack of bowls. Zhao Ying listened to the sound and saw that the bottom was dirty and messy, the bowl was broken, and pointed his finger at his husband's nose, as if he was blaming a 5-year-old child, and he said a lot.

Later, she drove her husband out of the kitchen and cleaned up the mess alone. While eating, she was still questioning him: "You said why did you grow up so old and you can be so stupid even when cooking." The husband could only go out with one ear, and the child later interrupted Zhao Ying's accusation.

Two people have been married for more than five years, and their relationship has become increasingly weak. The relationship between husband and wife is inseparable from these "three psychology." First, they feel that there is no need to care about greeting each other in everything, second, they want to find their own value in marriage and prove that they are not inferior to each other, and third, they can't help but blame each other.

After a long time, the gaps and opinions will become deeper and deeper, marriage will become dull, and each other will become dispensable. At one time, I even thought it would be good to live with each other.

Two people live together, and there will inevitably be some bumps and bumps. Women should be clear that there are differences between marriage and love. Men should know that life is very different from reality. Both parties should recognize themselves and manage their emotions. One knows how to cherish and the other knows how to be grateful. Only when life lasts for a long time can it last.