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Teacher or leader clicks you to speak, your heart beat faster, your hands tremble, and your speech stutters;
Bus is about to arrive at the station, but you are embarrassed to call the driver uncle to open the door, so you can only sit by the station;
Classmates or colleagues ask you to do things, you want to refuse, but you don’t know how to speak, and you have no choice but to accept it.
is it you?
In fact, these are manifestations of relatively weak personality. I don’t know how to refuse, lack of opinion, lack of self-confidence, social fear, excessive flattery...
Once upon a time, I was such a girl.
I am very inferior. No matter who I interact with, I am careful and observe my expressions. A casual look or tone of others is enough to make me sleepless for several days.
My change started in college. When I was a freshman, I fell in love with a very outstanding person and found something I loved very much.
Because I wanted to get close to the person I liked, I forced myself to make the first place from the bottom of the grade in two or three months. After that, I remained the first place for four years and was admitted to Nanjing University .
In the past few years of college, I have gradually become confident and my heart is stronger.
I have a life goal, learned to refuse, learned to be alone, and learned not to please.
Only then did I realize that weak personality can be corrected.
If you are as weak as me, you might as well read this article carefully, then take action, and truly change yourself [heart]
01. Accept yourself
The first step to change is actually to accept yourself.
used to hate myself and my personality. Therefore, I also refuse to think about the causes of personality and refuse to be exposed to this knowledge.
This is actually an escape. Escape does not solve the problem.
The formation of personality is very complicated. We are not the culprit, so we don’t have to blame ourselves or hate ourselves.
From now on, accept yourself and love yourself well.
often says to yourself: "I know I am a girl with a soft personality, but I should not blame myself. I can change and make myself stronger."
Only when you accept yourself from the bottom of your heart and face yourself calmly can you further change yourself.
02. Read more good books
When you are afraid, anxious, and lose hope in life, you might as well pick up a book and read it quietly.
A good book not only makes you understand, but also gives you courage.
It is recommended to read more of the following 5 types of books.
① Psychology
Reading psychology books can help us understand ourselves, explore our hearts, and enhance self-confidence.
Recommended books: "The Courage of Being Hate", "Mr. Toad Go to See a Psychologist", "Inferiority and Transcendence", "Psychology and Life", "Introvert Advantages"
② Character Biography
Many celebrities lived an ordinary or even miserable life before becoming famous.
Read their biography and you can experience their lives, explore their paths to become powerful, and learn their good strategies for dealing with suffering.
Recommended books: "The Biography of Jobs", "The Journey of a Lifetime", "Becoming Povatt", "The Biography of Van Gogh", "Becoming"
③History class
Historical changes, changing the world.
Reading history can improve one's own pattern, see the vicissitudes of the world, relieve the dilemma of life, and face the trivialities in life calmly.
Recommended books: " The Temperature of History ", "History Never Goes Far", "Chinese Culture Course", "The Fifteenth Year of Wanli", "General History of China"
④ Growth dry goods
I personally like this type of books very much.
When I see others going from weak to strong, I will feel full of strength; when I see good self-discipline in growth, I will put it into practice. This type of book can directly guide our lives.
Recommended books: "Cognitive Awakening", "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", "Deliberate Practice", "Lifelong Learning", "Learning Master"
⑤ Communication Class
Interact with people, communication is essential.
We must learn to communicate with people without being humble and get rid of the habit of being pleased.
Recommended books: " Non-violent Communication ", "Intimate Relationship", "Art of Communication", "Influence", "Key Dialogue", "Improvised Speech"
03. Watch high-quality movies/documentary/TV programs
Sometimes, a good movie can make you suddenly enlightened, get out of the darkest moments, and find your life goals.
I especially like " at the bottom of the hot girl ", which tells the process of a girl from not learning to getting into college, which is very inspiring. Perhaps because I experienced a counterattack myself, I think this movie is particularly friendly.
Recommended movies: " When happiness comes knocking on the door ", "Bottom hot girl", " Shawshank redemption ", " Sea pianist ", "Embedler"
Recommended documentary: "Seven Years of Life", "Beautiful China", " Hexi Corridor ", "General History of China"
Recommended documentary: "Seven Years of Life", "Beautiful China", " Hexi Corridor ", "General History of China"
Recommended documentary: "Seven Years of Life", "Beautiful China", " Hexi Corridor ", "General History of China"
Recommended documentary: "Six Years of Life", "Beautiful China", " Hexi Corridor ", "General History of China"
Recommended documentary: "Self-years of life", "Beautiful China", " Hexi Corridor ", "General History of China"
Recommended TV programs: " Thirteen Invitation ", " Hello Life ", "My Bronze Age", "Heart-wrenching Offer", " Reader "
04. Do more exercise
This summer vacation, I danced at home and sweated profusely every day. At that time, I felt very happy and full of confidence in everything I did. We all know the benefits of
actually.
makes life healthier, bring a good mood, make the image better, the figure better, and the complexion better.
The most important thing is that exercise can give people strength and make you feel that you are no longer weak.
spend about 30 minutes a day to do a sport you like and give yourself a chance to become optimistic and strong.
05. Write a success diary
This is the practice proposed in " Puppy Money ": Write down 5 small things that make you feel successful every day.
I started writing a success diary since my senior year: get up early successfully, stick to exercise, receive royalties... Any small success can be written.
Since then, I will take the initiative to discover my strengths, affirm myself, and encourage myself. After a while, I realized that I was not bad at all.
If you feel that your day is a failure, you might as well write a success diary and regain confidence from the small successes of every day.
06. Change the social circle
If you have such people around you, please stay away as soon as possible.
show off yourself and suppress others; keep denying you and losing your temper at you; sighing every day, sighing with hopelessness in life... People like
are full of negative energy. By joining such people, you will also be infected with negative energy and gradually lose confidence in yourself and hope for life. The impact of the social circle on us is subtle and huge.
So stay away from such people as soon as possible.
Go to be friends with those sunny and positive people, and make yourself a sunny person.
07. Have your own hobbies
Have a hobby that allows you to find yourself back.
Just when I came to Nanda , I was depressed all day long. Because the gap between me and my classmates was too big, I couldn’t understand it in class and was very frustrated. After nearly a month of confusion, I felt that I could not waste my time anymore, so I began to regain my writing and regain my love.
Every morning at 6:30, I get up and write articles. No one disturbed the morning time, I was immersed in my own world, fulfilled and happy.
Now, I just want to be myself, not follow others.
So, girls should still have their own hobbies and let themselves understand: I also have a very unique side.
08. Work hard to make money, save money
Girls must have their own deposits.
deposit is really the confidence to survive in society.
If you don’t have money, you always feel insecure, dare not buy what you want, and dare not go where you want to go. Living a life that is constrained by money can easily lead to inferiority.
I have been saving money since I was in college and now I have my own small vault.
actually is not difficult to save money. Keep your book every day and select useless expenses and reduce such expenses.
It is best to divide the money into two parts according to the expenses of last month after you get your salary or living expenses: part of it is used to spend and part of it is used to save.
If there is no unexpected situation, you are not allowed to spend the money you save.
or above is the method I have sorted out to get rid of weak personality. I hope it will be useful to you.
Girl, you have to be a person with a soft appearance and a strong heart~
Author profile: Zhang Nianze, a rural girl in 1998, is studying for a master's degree at Nanjing University, focusing on sharing learning and growth information, hoping to support herself by writing.
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