According to a statistics, the population of elderly people over 60 years old in China has exceeded 400 million. How to arrange the issue of pension has become something that each of us needs to pay attention to.
According to traditional ideas, some elderly people decide to rely on their children, thinking that if they raise their children, their children also have the obligation to support themselves.
There are also some elderly people who decide to go to nursing homes. They don’t want to add burden to their children. Although they spend some money, they want to have peace of mind.
Someone wants to support her in a family, just find a like-minded partner, and the two of them take care of each other and spend the rest of their lives together.
67-year-old Mr. Liu has a different idea from others. He told us that it is better to find a female nanny than to find a wife in . It is better to find a female nanny than to spend too much money and have less trouble.
Next, let’s listen to Mr. Liu’s experience.
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Uncle Liu has two sons, both of whom have already started a family.
After he and his wife retired, they also wanted to go to their son's house to retire, but soon found the problem.
When the eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, her wife went to take care of her. She was worried that it was inconvenient for Mr. Liu to eat alone at home, so she called him to go with her.
The eldest son bought a house and they gave a down payment of 200,000 yuan. Uncle Liu was confident and felt that they could not say anything when they stayed at his son's house for a while.
But when I arrived at my son's house, I realized that it was not the case at all. My son's house was two bedrooms and one living room. After the daughter-in-law gave birth, she had a lighter sleep, so she asked her son to go to the second bedroom to live.
They only prepared their mother-in-law's bed, which was to pull the sofa away and could sleep as a bed. Unexpectedly, my father-in-law also came, so he could only buy a bunk bed temporarily and put it on the balcony so that his father-in-law could sleep there at night.
When eating, my daughter-in-law likes light flavors, but she pays great attention to the dishes. She doesn't like to stew several kinds of dishes together. When she encounters something she doesn't like, she goes back to her room to order takeaway, which makes her mother-in-law very stressed, for fear that she can't cook the good meal, which makes her daughter-in-law angry. .
When the child was three months old, the daughter-in-law proposed to go to work and threw the child to them for care. The two could only divide the work. One person bought vegetables and the other was holding the child. She was so busy that her back hurt. When the child cried, the daughter-in-law's face turned bad.
finally brought the child to kindergarten, and the old couple hurried back to their hometown. They were in a relaxed mood. Although it was convenient to buy things in big cities, there was no relaxation in the environment of the county town.
After gaining experience, when the young daughter-in-law gave birth, they took the initiative to give 10,000 yuan, asking the young daughter-in-law to go to the confinement center, and after the full month, they gave 2,000 yuan a month, asking the mother-in-law to help take care of the children, and both parties were very happy.
Uncle Liu figured out a truth through this matter, The parents' home is always the home of their children, but the home of their children will not be the home of their parents. Children can be confident when they go back to their hometown. However, parents go to their son's home, but they are a lot of restraint. This is not a question of filial piety or not, but psychological effect.
As for how to care for the elderly, Mr. Liu initially considered going to a nursing home.
For this reason, he went to several nursing homes in the county to inspect, hoping to find a place with affordable prices and good service.
The first nursing home I went to was 3,000 yuan a month, a double room, three meals a day, fruits and snacks, and the conditions seemed to be pretty good, but before leaving, he saw a nurse yelling at the old man, who had lost his memory and always wanted to run out. The nurse might be annoyed and had a bad attitude, which made Mr. Liu give up his thoughts. He didn't dare to think about what kind of treatment he would get if he was confused one day.
There is an acquaintance in the second nursing home. An old colleague lives in it. After the two met, the old colleague told him , don’t come if you can. It seems that you have food to eat on time every day, but it’s too depressing, without any freedom, and life is programmed. In nursing homes, you can often see the elderly getting sick or passing away. If your life is full of these negative news, it’s difficult to get better.
Moreover, children rarely come to visit you. They think you can feel at ease if you have someone to take care of you, but they don’t understand your desire for home. They are really uncomfortable.
After hearing what his old colleague said, Uncle Liu no longer wanted to go to a nursing home. He decided to take care of each other with his wife, at least have psychological support.
Who knew that my wife fell ill and was diagnosed with cancer until she passed away. Her wife's reluctant eyes always appeared in his mind. He knew that he was destined to face loneliness in his later years.
After my wife left, Uncle Liu often went for a walk in the park. He raised a bird and could chat with others by taking advantage of the opportunity to walk the birds. When he saw someone playing chess, he would also have a game.
For a long time, many elderly people in the park knew him. When they learned that he was alone, someone wanted to introduce him to a partner and arranged for two people to go on a blind date.
When Uncle Liu met the other party, he had no good feelings. Before he finished speaking, the woman started to ask for living expenses. What's even more outrageous is that she also wanted a bride price. He found it ridiculous and really treated himself as a yellow-flowered daughter, and did not look in the mirror to see his face.
He rejected the proposal of remarriage and no longer went on blind dates, but he had more thoughts about retirement. He had a bad stomach and often felt uncomfortable because of eating bad stomachs. He was getting older. How should he take care of himself?
One day in the park, I met a woman asking for directions and wanted to know how to get to the housekeeping agency.
Uncle Liu pointed out the way for the other party and asked curiously: "Are you still looking for a job at such an old age?"
The woman smiled embarrassedly and explained: "The two sons are married, and none of them want me to come in. Her husband owes more than 100,000 yuan in debt when he sees a doctor, but his son refuses to admit it. I can only find a job. If someone leaves a debt, he has to be trustworthy."
"What job do you want to find?"
"I don't have education and don't have much skills, so I can only find a job as a nanny. It's best that the owner can keep food and accommodation, so that he can save some money."
chatted for a while, and Mr. Liu suddenly realized that he was missing a nanny. He suggested that the other party work at his home and provide free food and accommodation, and a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan.
The woman agreed very readily. Since she had a nanny, Mr. Liu’s quality of life has improved a lot. The food at home is nutritious and is very affordable. The woman is diligent and cleanses her hygiene when she has nothing to do. She also planted some vegetables on the balcony to achieve freedom of vegetables.
Uncle Liu summarized the benefits of hiring a nanny.
First, there are few things to do. The other party is here to work and will not participate in your housework. It is relatively simple to get along with each other. The other party respects you and will not have any conflicts.
second, it is more affordable than going to a nursing home. The price of can only go to an ordinary nursing home, but there are people taking care of you at home, so you live too freely. If you want to eat, the other party can serve you on the table. There is no such treatment in a nursing home.
Third, life is not lonely . When you are alone at home, you are most afraid of loneliness. No one is talking in the room, and you can hear the sound when you lose a needle. After the nanny comes, you will have someone to chat and the other party can accompany you for a walk in the park. Both parties are in a good mood.
is written later:
Uncle Liu’s experience is also worthy. If pension is destined to cost money, then spending money to make yourself happy is also a relatively valuable thing.
Just ask the nanny to see the other party clearly. You need to find someone with good character. It would be bad if you meet a woman like Cai Genhua.
No matter what, everyone needs to be responsible for themselves and planning their old age in advance is also a kind of wisdom.
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