In the eyes of most people, getting married and having children is a major event in life, and you cannot be careless. Being cautious in marriage is not a bad thing, it is just that sometimes it is not worth the loss. The protagonist we are going to talk about today is a 77-year-o

Getting married and having children is a major event in life in the eyes of most people, and you cannot be careless. Being cautious in marriage is not a bad thing, it is just that sometimes it is not worth the loss. The protagonist we are going to talk about today is a 77-year-old professor who went on blind dates 34 times but failed to find a partner he liked. After hearing his mate selection criteria, everyone said: It is better to be a bachelor's standard for such a standard. What is the standard of

? What kind of elderly people will be said by the people in the introduction office?

The standard for choosing a spouse is better than to be too little

This 77-year-old professor's surname is Lin, and he is a "famous" person in the marriage agency circle. And the reason why he is famous is because of his strange standards for choosing a partner. In fact, from the perspective of conditions alone, this Professor Lin is really good. When she was young, she was tall and handsome, with fair skin, and had a good family condition. She also had her own house in Hangzhou. This condition meets the criteria for choosing a spouse for many girls.

Seeing this, many people may think that the reason why Professor Lin was still on a blind date at the age of 77 was because he was widowed and did not want to be lonely in his later years, so he went out to go on a blind date. In fact, this is not the case. Professor Lin never got married until he was 77 years old because he didn't like those girls, and few of them could meet his requirements for choosing a spouse.

Professor Lin is a top student at Beijing Normal University . After graduation, he was admitted to Nankai University graduate. You know, it is not an exaggeration to say that he was the "pride of heaven" to be able to attend such a good school in the 1970s. Professor Lin naturally has the capital to be proud, and naturally he has certain requirements for choosing a partner. In fact, everyone can understand this situation, but it is hard to find it until the age of 77 that people can't help but make people wonder. Hasn't there been anyone who has seen each other for so many years?

According to Professor Lin himself, the girl he wants is to go to the hall and go to the kitchen. Not only should you have beautiful appearance, but you should also have the ability, and you must also resonate with your soul. Although Professor Lin has many suitors around him, he is not very satisfied with those girls. When he got married, his family began to introduce him to blind dates.

He went on blind dates more than 30 times during his postgraduate studies alone. However, these more than 30 blind dates had no results and they ended up not having a happy ending. However, Professor Lin is unwilling to settle down. In fact, Professor Lin has not had emotional experience, and has had several relationships, but he has not come to the end for various reasons. Professor Lin said that his first love is a sweet-looking girl with excellent academic performance. In this regard, it is considered to meet Professor Lin’s requirements. The two of them also have common topics in literature, which is very speculative.

But when talking about marriage, Professor Lin still rejected her. Because Professor Lin felt that the girl’s family conditions were not good enough and she was not worthy of her. Moreover, he believed that although his first love girlfriend looked sweet, she was inevitably vulgar and eventually separated.

Later, Professor Lin met another girl. This girl has a very wealthy family and has a very outstanding appearance and temperament. It is no exaggeration to say that he is a rich and beautiful woman. Every time Professor Lin goes out with this girlfriend, he is envied and is even more respectful in front of his friends. However, this girl did not meet Professor Lin's requirements. He felt that this girl was too smart and had to calculate everything she did, which made him feel very tired. My friends have become accustomed to Professor Lin's picky behavior. They said: Maybe he is too outstanding, so he thinks no one deserves him.

Because Professor Lin’s external conditions are excellent, the girls who pursue him never stop. There was even a foreign girl who pursued Professor Lin and took care of him to deliver breakfast to him. But Professor Lin felt that the two were too far apart and there was no need to be together, and there would be some trouble, so he refused. In this way, Professor Lin missed the best age to get married.

Finally when he was 39 years old, Professor Lin met a girl who met all his conditions. But in the end, Professor Lin still chose to break up with her, because he felt that the other party's skin was a little dark. Time waits for no one, Professor Lin will be 40 in a flash. My friends all have families and children, but he is the only one who is alone. Professor Lin decided to follow his friend's advice and enter the newspaper to ask for marriage.

However, because of Professor Lin’s high requirements, basically no one can fully meet them, so Professor Lin’s marriage has not been moved. In this way, Professor Lin went from being in his prime to over 50 years old. During this period, he has been asking for marriage, but has never lowered the standards. He believes that getting married cannot afford to settle down. If he really can't find it, he will go to a nursing home to live.

But life is difficult for a person, especially when you are old and there is no one around you, and danger may occur. After Professor Lin retired, he stayed at home alone most of the time. And his home was empty and had nothing, and it was actually an unfinished house. The reason why there is no decoration is because Professor Lin feels that there is no one else at home, and it would be great if there is a place to put books. Therefore, neither it is an air conditioner nor a refrigerator, Professor Lin does not have it at home.

And the summer in Hangzhou was particularly hot that year, and the neighbors wanted to send some dumplings to Professor Lin. But unexpectedly, Professor Lin never opened the door. The neighbor was a little anxious and worried that something might happen to him, an old man, would kick in the door. After entering, I found that Professor Lin was lying on the ground and lost consciousness. After being sent to the hospital, Professor Lin woke up after emergency rescue. It turned out that Professor Lin had heat stroke because his home was too hot.

Tell me why you don’t decorate your home, don’t buy air conditioners, refrigerators and TVs. Professor Lin said: He doesn't like repairs, and he feels that the repaired things have defects, so he throws away all the furniture and doesn't buy them anymore. Obviously, Professor Lin not only pursues perfection in his emotions, but also in his life. Professor Lin, who was unattended to take care of himself, deeply felt the feeling of loneliness. After all, there are some things that one person really can’t do.

In this way, at the age of 77, he started blind dates again. People advised him to lower the standards, but he was unwilling. His criterion for choosing a spouse is still "a middle-aged white-collar worker with gentle, delicate and talented personality." Professor Lin may be able to find this condition when he was young, but he is now 77 years old. Which middle-aged white-collar worker would choose to marry an old man? Even an aunt in her forties and fifties would not be willing to marry him.

At first, Professor Lin went to meet and date, but later he was unwilling to go. He said that the other party always asked about his savings and houses, so he was unwilling to talk about it again. Many people advised him not to be so picky at such an old age, but Professor Lin was unwilling. Matching Agency will inevitably ask about the financial situation when introducing Professor Lin, but Professor Lin feels that these things are too vulgar and is unwilling to settle for it. In the end, he stopped going to the marriage agency.

Some people say that Professor Lin’s mistake in this life is that he is too picky and has no confidence in the world. After all, living a life is just about food, food, oil and salt, and it is really rare to want that kind of love to enjoy. Of course, some people think that there is nothing wrong with Professor Lin sticking to his own standards. After all, many people lower the standards when getting married and choose the wrong person, which ultimately delays their lives.

In fact, most of the current marriage and love markets consider the other party’s conditions, not the other party’s person. Whether it is a boy or a girl, they will ask for the other party’s family conditions and income level. Of course, it is understandable to do this, after all, people are selfish. But the consequence of this trend becoming popular is that everyone is becoming more and more materialistic, and real love is becoming less and less.

Professor Lin’s story is indeed sad, but it also gives people a reminder. What does a good marriage look like? Is it really wrong to stick to the standards? Or maybe there is no correct answer in life, and the best one is suitable for you.