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Text: Shili
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"What is the biggest investment for women?" Two days ago, I saw such a question in the background.
Some people say: "The biggest investment of a woman is to marry. A woman is better off than a woman who is born well. As long as she can choose a rich man, she will be able to have food and clothing in her life and be rich and noble."
also people say: "The biggest investment of a woman is to choose a man. Marriage is the second opportunity for a woman to change her destiny. If she chooses the right choice, she will have no worries about food and clothing in her life. If she chooses the wrong choice, she will be difficult to turn over in her life."
Although many people agree with these views, the author has different opinions.
In my opinion, the biggest investment of a woman is not "choose a man", but the four words "invest yourself".
Why should women invest in themselves?
Buffett once said: "The most clever investment is to invest in yourself."
Instead of placing all your hopes on others and relying on others without a sense of security, women should work hard and hold everything in their own hands.
Only when women are excellent enough can they have the right to choose and make decisions, so they will not rely on others and live a life based on their expressions.
For excellent women, they often have the initiative in love.
They can not only choose better partners, but also be responsible for their marriage.
They have independent thoughts and independent personalities, and can also live out their truest selves.
Seeing this, some people may say, "As long as a woman looks good, everything is not difficult."
But in fact, if a woman does not know how to invest in herself and give herself the advantages of personality and ability, even if a woman looks good, it will be difficult for her to marry an excellent man.
Because for excellent men, they are not short of beautiful suitors around them. Beautifulness may be just the basis for their choice of spouses.
What they value most is not the woman’s appearance, but the woman’s unique and excellent inner self.
If a woman only has appearance, it will be difficult to get the preference of a man, and will only be regarded as a useless vase by a man, so it is naturally difficult to be happy.
If a woman does not know how to invest in herself, she will become better.
Even if she is lucky and marry a good man, she cannot stick to this relationship and cannot keep this man.
Because as the gap between the two parties becomes bigger and bigger, the relationship between them will become further and further.
The better a man, the more motivated and harder he is, the greater the risk of leaving.
For a woman, only if she is not afraid of the other person leaving, the other person will not leave.
Because the more a woman is afraid of a man leaving, the more insecure and inferior he feels in her heart, and naturally she has no charm, and the other person will naturally want to leave you.
If a woman thinks that it is natural for men to make money and women are responsible for being as beautiful as a flower, then a woman entering a marriage is equivalent to entering a grave, because she has nothing to do and has no choice.
Only by investing in yourself can women enrich themselves and create happiness for themselves. There is no need to place their happiness on a man who has no blood relationship with you and can leave at any time!
There is a very classic line in "My First Half of Life": No one can become the safe haven for you in this life. Only you are your last shelter. No matter how dilapidated or simple it is better than living under someone else's roof.
So how should women invest in themselves?
Read and invest in your own inner self.
Although reading cannot change your life immediately, it will definitely be beneficial to your life if you continue to do so.
Lin Yutang said: "A wise man reads a lot of books and also experiences life."
Women's reading can not only improve their own abilities, but also give women more choices.
Smart people have read many books, and for ordinary people, reading is the easiest way to invest in themselves and the best way.
For ordinary people, reading is the lowest investment cost and the highest probability of return.
The ancients said: Read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles.
Reading can not only increase your wisdom, but also broaden your horizons and cognition, making you full of unique self-character.
Yang Jiang once said this: Reading is not for getting a diploma or getting rich, but to become a warm, interesting and able to think.
"Reading seems to be an ordinary process, but in fact it is a process of combining the personal soul and great wisdom. "
As long as you can persist, the benefits of reading will bring you surprises sooner or later.
Exercise and invest in your own body.
any competition requires a healthy body.
When a woman is healthy, with the blessing of her spirit, her external appearance will naturally not be bad.
Invest in yourself and be willing to spend money on her health and external appearance.
In fact, men are essentially a very superficial creature. In many cases, they will look good. Recruiting people.
Some women are usually frugal, especially after getting married, they are reluctant to spend money on themselves. They work hard to save money for their family, but in the end they are disliked by their husbands, and some are even cheated and divorced. Such women are really miserable.
The core problem of theirs lies in their reluctance to invest in themselves.
For women, if you are reluctant to spend this money, then someone will always spend this money for you.
Invest in your own career.
Who said: "Women are not as good as men? ”
In this society with equal educational resources for men and women, women are not inferior to men. Women are not inferior to men. What men can do is not inferior to women.
A woman’s career can give women greater confidence and confidence, and can keep girls financially independent and have more life security.
And a woman who is not economically independent, even if a man loves her, she may lack a sense of security.
Because what others give and what you have must be different.
money can only be held in your own hands , only then will you have enough confidence to face all the difficulties and setbacks in life.
Whether it is love, friendship, or family affection may not be reliable, but only your own career, no matter what happens to you, at least you will not be trapped by money and dare not do what you want to do most.
Although money is not omnipotent, it is absolutely impossible to lose money.
especially for women, women who have money and women who have no money are often in two states.
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Today’s topic: "Do you think it is right? ”
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