"Bear, I think the future is so confused..."
Two days ago, a girl left a message in the background of Xiong. She said that since the third year of the epidemic, she has fallen into endless anxiety.
This epidemic that I don’t know when it will end;
This era of rapid change;
companies that have been laying off employees;
’s salary that has not risen but decreased...
all make her feel unstable and powerless.
"Now I have to sleep at two or three o'clock in the morning every night. I think about everything, the more frustrated I feel, the heavier I feel, because I can't do anything."
"Bear, life is so tiring..."
Bear thought, what this girl described is actually a common problem that all of us and bears must face in this era.
This is an era of rapid change.
And every change falls on our small ordinary people, and becomes one specific but powerless worries after another -
I don’t know when I will lose my job, I don’t know when I will be blocked at home one day, I don’t know if the plan I set this month will be successfully implemented next month...
We all face this similar dilemma. In the torrent of the times, we seem to be unable to grasp our own destiny.
But, can we really not do anything? Can we really be carried forward by the times?
Xiong recently read a book, the 92-year-old historical scholar Mr. Xu Zhuoyun 's new book, "Going Inside, Setting Up Yourself".
The title of the book is the answer Mr. Xu Zhuoyun wants to tell us:
Don’t know where to go? Then "go in".
don’t know how to deal with the changing era? Then "set yourself" first.
Xu Zhuoyun, born in 1930, retired professor of lectures at the University of Pittsburgh, USA, and an academician of the " Central Research Institute " in Taiwan, China. In 2004, he won the Special Contribution Award of the Asian Society and won the 4th "Global Chinese Studies Ceremony" Lifetime Achievement Award.
Mr. Xu Zhuoyun's life has not been easy.
was born with incomplete and weighed only two pounds and seven taels at birth. Because of the muscle dysplasia, he could not move and could not sit on a chair until he was seven years old.
Later, he experienced war and escape. When he was eight or nine years old, he already knew what bombing and exile meant.
The sadness and horror left in childhood are too dense and still have not dissipated after decades.
And that period of "I don't know where the next stop is, and I don't know what the next step is" also made Mr. Xu Zhuoyun see the suffering of each individual and cherish the value of each person even more.
He began to walk in, thinking about what he saw, heard, and thought, and then guide himself to adjust and pursue his heart.
Later, he said: "I also felt that life was meaningless. If I didn't go in, I wouldn't have lived to this day."
Now, 92-year-old Mr. Xu Zhuoyun is still fighting his body, and is also persistently looking for solutions in a turbulent world.
He said: "The global problem in the world is that people cannot find the purpose or the meaning of life, so they are at a loss."
But he also said: "The young people in today's era have better qualifications than me, more opportunities than me, and better conditions than me, and they should be able to do more and better."
So Xiong thought, it is the most useful to listen to Mr. Xu Zhuoyun's words about the confusion and worries we have experienced in today's era.
In this book "Going Into, Setting Up Yourself", Mr. Xu Zhuoyun wrote a lot of things he wanted to tell contemporary young people.
Xiong has also compiled 7 of them and shared them with everyone.
I hope everyone can walk in, settle down their hearts, and live steadily in this changing world.
The world cannot be calm forever,
can only seek stability and calmness.
As mentioned earlier, the world we live in is changing every moment. Where did the epidemic happen again? Where did the
? Which stock has fluctuated again? Where did the
? What kind of news broke out?...
? We are like grass under the waterfall that was impacted by the waterfall, and were impacted in the face of the torrent of the changes of the times.
In this regard, Mr. Xu reminds us that the world cannot be calm forever. All we can ask for is our own stability and calmness.
However, it is easier said than done.
Mr. Xu also said that training yourself, educating yourself, and stabilizing yourself is a work that a person must do in his life.
He suggested that we should read on the one hand.
"Reading is not for the sake of a degree, reading is for the purpose of gaining a ability to judge the world. After maintaining a considerable level of knowledge training, you can achieve stability and calmness."
On the other hand, you must actively respond to the challenges in your life.
"For example, I have suffered a great trouble recently, that my body ages rapidly... Fortunately, I have my wife, whose love allows me to live the days in front of me."
In short, enrich my heart, and we cannot change everything outside. Only by focusing on our hearts can we find our own place to settle down.
Find your happiness in your daily life.
I wonder what happiness is for everyone?
is enough money and a life without worries about food and clothing?
is still a life of fame and fortune that is respected?
If this is true, then once wealth and fortune are lost one day, will our happiness disappear?
Therefore, Mr. Xu believes that the most direct and realistic happiness does not actually come from wealth and glory;
but comes from ordinary happiness in daily life.
Mr. Xu said that during the Anti-Japanese War, he lived in the countryside. During the busy farming period, he watched the farmers go to the fields to plant rice and pump water. It was very hard and sweating.
It was almost dark at six or seven o'clock, so the farmers went to the field to wash their hands and sat on the fields. The wife brought a pot of tea, a glass of wine, and a stable meal. Then the couple ate together and chatted with each other:
"Are you tired today?"
"It's okay, the water in the ground is very good today, everything is good, there are not many insects."
"How is the third child next door?"
"The third child is cured today."
Mr. Xu believes that this kind of conversation is very happy. After the couple went back together after dinner, the wife took care of housework and the husband sorted out the farm tools, which was also very happy.
"In fact, it is not easy to get such happiness in your life."
The ideal is to do my best,
do what I can do.
In today's era, few people still mention "ideals".
Perhaps because of the blows and setbacks, we began to feel that ideals are actually dreams, "Ideals are for shattering."
But Mr. Xu doesn't think so.
He thinks that regarding personal ideals, we can use them as a life plan, but they should not be too grand. For example, I must make tens of millions of dollars, which is unrealistic.
"Ideal is to do what I can and do what I can."
Mr. Xu also said that everyone's situation is different, and the establishment of ideals will be different, which is normal.
If a person has strong abilities, try to help the country and find ways to promote good changes.
If a person is not capable enough, he should do his best to do what he should do, which is also amazing.
Or, some people can ideally be very simple, just focus on the way of being a human being.
"Everyone says that this person is a good person, we all like him, he does not harm others, he does not harm others, he does not oppress others, this is good enough.
It is good to be able to make your neighbor like you, and bad people don't hate you, which is good. This is also an ideal."
First cultivate yourself and then settle for others.
"How should we settle down in the era of rapid change?" In Mr. Xu's eyes, this is a big topic.
According to the old Chinese saying, "Set up for the world, establish one's life, inherit one's unique knowledge for the past sages, and bring peace to the ages."
Perhaps few people can do this kind of courage, but Mr. Xu believes that we can still understand some of the principles of "Set up for one's life" from this sentence:
How to install one's method? It is to make you feel at ease; it is not to be at peace with the heart of heaven and earth, it is to be at peace with your own heart.
How to rest in your heart? It is necessary to cultivate oneself first to comfort others.
The so-called "cultivation of oneself", Mr. Xu said, it should be like cultivating a tree.
"Cut off the broken branches and leaves on the tree, add water, add fertilizer, and continue to grow and improve. This is to cultivate oneself: correct the wrong things you have done and leave the right experience."
Next, you will have the ability to "put on others" -
Do not cause trouble, harm others, do not be a bad person, do not help others, this is to settle down;
Do a good job in your own work, this is to settle down;
Do a good job in your own business, this is to settle down;
has been floating and ups and downs with the times, and do not resent, and do it when you encounter opportunities. No matter what the result is, it is to settle down.
In short, no matter what the world is, we just need to move forward step by step, and don’t rush to take care of a big garden. Take care of three or five small trees first, which is enough~
Don’t ruin yourself,
Don’t succumb to this world.
The more rapidly changing era, the more likely people will follow the trend.
And Mr. Xu believes that our "self" is the most precious thing.
Especially in your twenties and thirties, you should look for yourself and not let this era "spoil" it.
"First, don't be ruined by desire; second, don't be ruined by self-pity."
First, desire is the most terrifying thing. If we are ruined by the desire for money, the desire for sex, and the desire for control, we will be destroyed and we will no longer be ourselves;
Second, don’t pity yourself, don’t say you are too small. Everyone is small, but it is because of the many small people who get along with each other that they can work together to do a lot of things.
Mr. Xu reminds us to keep a clear mind between this world, and even when facing the huge waves, we must be calm and confident;
must do "half of my self is controlled by me - my mentality, my intentions, my personality and the principles of being a human being."
In short, responding to changes in the same way and maintaining one's integrity is a kind of success.
Everyone has clouds that cannot be caught, and
have dreams that cannot be achieved.
Our lives are destined to be accompanied by many regrets.
As Mr. Xu said, we must know:
"It is impossible for people to achieve all their desires. Everyone has clouds that they cannot catch, and dreams that they cannot do."
And as for the time when they cannot do it, it should How to deal with yourself? Mr. Xu told us:
"The cloud that cannot be caught, let it float away; dreams that cannot be done are better if you have the chance, but if you don't have the chance, you can have other dreams."
Be more open-minded and free, you must have the courage to take over and the courage to let go.
Only in this way can we settle ourselves.
Faced with the difficulties of life,
Be grateful and don’t complain.
In one of the chapters of the book, Mr. Xu told us his story.
"I am one of the twins, or premature baby ,... So I am a highly disabled person, and it is not easy to survive when I was born.
... The doctor told me that I would not take surgery before I was seven or eight years old, and I would find a way to take surgery after I was seven or eight years old. After I was seven or eight years old, the Anti-Japanese War broke out in full swing, and it was too late to escape. Will I still take surgery?
So I have been dragging it down since then, and I only had five blows when I was twenty-eight years old. The two feet were corrected, but they were just corrected to walk.
…. Nine years ago, I used two more knifes to reorganize spinal bones .
Up to now, my spinal bones are disobedient again, and this time the result was almost paralysis - I can't stand."
Mr. Xu said that he had lived in disability all his life, saying that he was unlucky, but saying that he was lucky is also lucky.
What made Mr. Xu feel lucky?
is the hospital when he was born, using the most advanced knowledge and medical skills at that time to make him alive;
is his parents, brothers and classmates who are willing to be his eyes, hands and feet, so that he can grow;
is his wife who has no regrets and has always been by his side, making him happy...
"God has given me so many favors to keep me alive and to overcome the difficulties of life."
"I must try my best to live and give back to the world."
Xiong feels that no matter Mr. Xu has achieved academic achievements that are enough to be called "everyone", his life alone is enough to bring us great spiritual strength.
When encountering difficulties in life, be grateful and don’t complain. Go as far as you can with your own strength, you are responsible for yourself and the world.
At the end of 2020, when the epidemic began, Mr. Xu Zhuoyun delivered a New Year's speech on New Year's Day 2021.
In this speech, he wrote a line of words:
"Let us welcome the future together."
And now, Xiong also wants to give this sentence to everyone.
May we all live in the present, do what we should do now, and use the present to plant a seed for the future.
Then, will the future be better? The bear didn't know, but he believed it would.
Everyone, good night ~
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