Aunt Hu, 62, thought that she would have a wife by her side and she would have a better life in the future, but after two times, Aunt Hu felt that she would live alone more comfortably.

Introduction

Some people say that the elderly rely on their children in their later years. If they have a son or daughter, life will be easier. In fact, this statement is not correct. The quality of life in our later years actually does not have that much to do with our children. When our children grow up, they also have their own family to take care of. It is impossible to put too much energy and time on their parents.

What the elderly can rely on is themselves and their spouse. The couple takes care of each other, and their lives can be enjoyable, and they will not be lonely in their later years. Some elderly people will also have the idea of finding new and old couples after their husbands die, especially some female elderly people. They really hope that they have a wife that can make them rely on.

62-year-old Aunt Hu thought that she would have a wife by her side and she would have a better life in the future, but after two times, Aunt Hu felt more comfortable living alone. Next, let’s listen to Aunt Hu’s story together.

self-reporter: Aunt Hu

My surname is Hu, and I am 62 years old this year. My husband passed away more than ten years ago. He was brave enough to save a junior high school student who jumped into the river. In the end, the child was rescued, but my husband would never come back. Actually, I really hated him at that time. I hated him for not considering me at all. In order to save a stranger, I was left alone.

Although I still have a son, my son was already in college at that time and didn’t have much time to accompany me. I only came back one or two times in a semester. Later, after graduating from college, my son worked in another city and the partner he was in the other side. Later, the two of them settled down there, and I became even more lonely since then.

My daughter-in-law is a good-natured person. Every time I go to their house, my daughter-in-law treats me warmly and often buys things to send me. However, I didn't think about going there to retire. I knew that young people would not like to live with the elderly. In the past, I lived with my parents-in-law when I first got married. At that time, I really wanted to have a home of my own, and the couple could live a life of their own.

So I don’t want to be that kind of unpleasant person to influence the lives of their couple. I used to be unwilling to look for it again because although I was a little lonely, I was already used to this kind of life.

Later, my mentality changed because of the influence of the people around me. I have a few friends who have a good time playing games. Some of them are widowed and some divorced, but they are all looking for them later. I feel that they are very happy and don’t bother with their children when they are sick. They have their spouse to take care of them.

I think this kind of life is also good, so I want to find another one for myself.

My first partner was Lao Zhao, and we met through someone’s introduction. I feel that Lao Zhao is a down-to-earth person and a person who can live, so the two of us got together. But in the end I realized that I was thinking too simple. In fact, Lao Zhao is not a person worth entrusting his life.

He is indeed a good person to live, but to put it bluntly, he is stingy. I live with Lao Zhao, and I never thought about letting him support me. So I also have living expenses. The two of us spend about 2,500 yuan a month. I paid half of the living expenses myself, and the remaining half is paid by Lao Zhao, which is actually equivalent to the AA system.

At the beginning, Lao Zhao would do housework together. I think it's fair, so I started living like this. But this state did not last for a long time. Later, Lao Zhao always shied for various reasons and was unwilling to share the housework with me.

At first I didn't care so much, but Lao Zhao was more and more arrogant. He always instructed me to do this and that, and asked me to help take care of my grandson. In front of me, I always look arrogant, as if I have taken advantage of him, but in fact I have not taken advantage of him. I do most of the work at home, and I pay for the living expenses. Lao Zhao has never bought anything for me. It can be said that I suffer a loss.I really can't stand a man like

. After we had a quarrel several times, I made up my mind to leave Lao Zhao, otherwise I would definitely be unhappy every day if I continue to live. I am really afraid that I will get sick if I get angry.

Two years later, I met a new wife, Lao Qian. We met while dancing ballroom dance . Actually, I don’t know much about ballroom dance. At that time, my friend told me that ballroom dance was more interesting, so I went to try it out and met Lao Qian because of this. Later, after we dated, I didn’t go again.

Lao Qian is more popular among friends of the same age, mainly because he speaks very well and is very pleasing. I was quite cold to him at the beginning, but under Lao Qian's attack, my heart slowly fell. The love life of those few months was really quite happy.

I thought I finally met the right person this time, but after becoming a couple, I didn’t feel much comfortable. Lao Qian is a bit macho. He likes to take care of me very much. He has to ask about my clothes or make friends.

does not allow me to wear skirts or make-up. Usually, I want to go out with my friends, but I have to go home with Lao Qian's consent. Even if I go out for a party, I cannot go home for more than two hours, otherwise Lao Qian will keep calling me. This kind of life is really suffocating, and it feels like there is no private space at all.

What makes me angry the most is that Lao Qian is very double-standard. He has many requirements for me, but he is very tolerant of himself. He still often dances ballroom dance. The key is that he has contact with female dancers. What he does is really easy to misunderstand. I have met you several times, but he just doesn't admit it and says it's a normal relationship.

. I don’t even allow my friends of the opposite sex. I really only allow the state officials to set fires and the people to light the lights. After such days, my love for him was slowly exhausted. The ending was no surprise, and we parted ways.

There is basically no perfect life for a couple. Most couples have conflicts of one kind or another, and they just live together. The same is true for my sisters. Although they seem happy on the surface, they occasionally cry and tell me that it is not easy to get along with me.

Both relationships ended in failure, which also made me realize that I am really not suitable to live with others. Maybe there are many good men in life, but living together is inevitable with friction and it is not so easy to get along.

I will not be affected by others in the future, and I will live alone for the rest of my life.

I have lived a relatively frugal life over the years and have saved some money, which is also a guarantee for my old age. In addition, I have a pension of more than 2,000 yuan a month, which can also ensure my daily life.

I have a house to live in and spend money. My son and daughter-in-law are also filial to me. I don’t know how comfortable it is to live alone. There is no need to find a wife to make myself so tired.

Now I also know how to spend my old age. I have cultivated a lot of hobbies for myself, such as growing flowers and vegetables, dancing square dance, playing basketball, running, and having a lot of things to do every day, and I am very busy and have a lot of life in my old age. Now I no longer feel lonely as I used to be. I am really satisfied with my current life.

Many people find their spouses just to be less lonely, but in fact, finding their spouses will cause a lot of troubles. They can’t be as comfortable as they were when they were single. Only by a person can live a happy life, but only by being single can you live a more comfortable and comfortable life.