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Also people are in their old age, but different people live completely different two lives.
In fact, many times, it is not money that widens the gap between people, but a person's life wisdom. A smart and wise enough can handle it easily no matter how complex interpersonal relationships you are in, and can also respect him and treat him willingly.
But some people are just the opposite. They are too selfish and have low emotional intelligence. Not only can they not convince people, they also keep causing trouble for others, and in the end, they are annoying.
In fact, it is very necessary to have a certain wisdom in life when people are old.
No matter whether you live with your children in the future, you cannot do some things. This is really smart and really high emotional intelligence, worthy of everyone's collection.
1: Don’t deliberately provoke conflicts between children, and handle parent-child relationships carefully
Some elderly people always act particularly careless after their old age. They always consider problems too one-sidedly and will not consider the consequences at all.
For example, if you deliberately say how good another child is to him in front of one child, what is the point of doing this? It’s just a different way to say that this child is unfilial, how could he not think too much?
Xiaofang's mother is like this. She always talks in front of Xiaofang every few days, how much money her sister gives her every month, how good she is to her, how much things she buys for her, etc.
Every time Xiaofang finished listening, she felt very uncomfortable. Isn’t my mother explicitly saying that she was unfilial? But I also have a lot of money to support my mother every year. Last time my mother was sick, I still kept keeping her alone...
Over time, her relationship with her sister was not good. She always subconsciously competed with her and suspected that she deliberately said bad things about her in front of her mother.
In fact, there are many ways to be filial, not just to give money.
As a parent, you really don’t need to deliberately provoke conflicts between your children. You can just know whoever is filial to you and who is kind to you. You can tell everyone you really are not smart.
2: Don’t cause trouble for your children, make unreasonable requests or do something extraordinary
Some elderly people will become more willful than ever when they get old. They always make unreasonable demands, force their children to satisfy them, or do something extraordinary. This not only makes them lose their health in the future, but also causes trouble to the whole family and makes people laugh at them for nothing.
There is such a case around me.
There is an old man in our community who insisted on marrying an aunt who danced square dance with him. However, the other party asked for a house, but he foolishly agreed and forced his children to buy it.
Not to mention whether the children have money to buy it, even if they have it, how could they agree? This aunt obviously used him and had no feelings for him, but he was obsessed with it and would not marry her. The story of
spread for a while, and he became a joke in the entire community.
In fact, it is difficult for such elderly people to live with their children or not. They do not know how to think about their children at all, but just think about themselves selfishly. If this continues, it will only deceive others and yourself.
3: Don’t disclose family privacy in front of outsiders or blindly compare children
Some people become old and their vanity has become stronger. They tell everyone about their family privacy, or compare children with others.
For example, how much is your pension, how much does your children give to yourself every month, such as how much money you have saved so far, and even say what conflicts have occurred between family members, etc...
It is undoubtedly a fool to tell others about the privacy related to money. You think others really envy you, but in fact they look down on you behind your back and think your approach is too stupid.
, family scandals should not be made public. Telling conflicts between family members will only be laughed at.
This approach is very low in EQ, which is harmful to the entire family but not beneficial.
people are old, and they cannot do some things whether they live alone or live with their children.
Don’t think that your children have the obligation to be filial to you. If you support your old age, you can do whatever you want. You should know that no relationship can withstand endless consumption. Sometimes the more willful you are, the more disheartening you are. It is reasonable that they hate you over time.
For the rest of your life, please be a wise old man, don’t cause trouble for your children, and don’t let yourself be annoyed. Only in this way can you have a happy old age.
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