Friends, good evening.
The reasons for the normal breakup between lovers I have observed are basically due to the principled issues, or the differences and contradictions that the two people cannot coordinate, so they cannot continue this relationship.
completely broke up due to small errors and contradictions, which is relatively small-probability event. But once the other party makes those unpleasant little mistakes, the degree to which the other party is troubled and tortured may not be less than breaking up directly.
If it is a principled mistake, such as cheating and betrayal, people with clear minds should quickly step down and choose to separate.
And those small mistakes in intimate relationships may be erased from the edge of the principle, or there is still a certain distance from the bottom line, but it will make people disgusted. When you think about it in the future, you will be repeatedly entangled and resentful.
For example, before seeing a sister who had nothing to do with her boyfriend to swap Douyin on his phone, but in the boyfriend's Douyin push, six out of ten are sexy beauties dancing hot dance.
"Like to see beauties" said in the small story, it is considered a normal situation for straight men, and it is just a few glances and has no substantial behavior.
After thinking about it, this sister felt that because of this, she reexamined the relationship. It seemed that she was too tiny, but she felt very awkward.
also saw a girl's boyfriend on Weibo . He was closer to the new female subordinate. The girl reminded her boyfriend, and her boyfriend said that everyone was just a normal relationship with colleagues and told her not to think about it.
One day she saw a WeChat message sent to her boyfriend and said, "If I say I like you, would you choose to be with me?" The boyfriend replied, "I have a girlfriend", and changed the topic.
Although her boyfriend seemed to have clearly refused, she found that they still had lunch together without avoiding suspicion, and her boyfriend often interacted with her in his circle of friends.
's boyfriend seemed to have done nothing wrong, after all, he did not act too much and even directly refused her confession. However, afterwards, he did not take the initiative to distance himself from his subordinates' previous relationship. All kinds of behaviors made her feel disgusted. It seems difficult to forgive such big and small mistakes, but I can't make up my mind to separate like this. After all, according to the current situation, if you really need to screen according to strict standards, you may not be able to form any relationship.
, you must not mind at all, and it is not easy to erase the discomfort it brings.
Even if you have already reconciled, these moments suddenly popped up in your mind during happy moments will still make people fall into negative emotions. Perhaps it will take more energy to repair this relationship.
For small mistakes in this kind of intimate relationship, in the eyes of some people, everyone may have moments of distractedness, and they may not be able to guarantee that they will not make mistakes in their relationship at all. Perhaps they can be happier if they are confused appropriately.
In my opinion, the original non-forgiveness still depends on the severity of the incident. Of course, everyone's measurement standards may be different.
should stop the loss in time when it comes to your bottom line, and break when it is broken. If it is not a matter of principle and cannot be emotionally accepted, you can choose to guide the other party to change.
However, if you decide to give a chance, try to avoid thinking about it and keep turning over old accounts, which will only make both of you very unhappy.
Time may slowly desensitize you, but if you still can't overcome it, it will still make you feel nauseous or painful, and create a gap between you, so there is no need to continue this relationship.
Finally, it needs to be clear that the other party does something unhappy with you. After you express your thoughts, he acts very dissatisfied, does not think that he has problems, and even turns the blame, and then you should run away at the speed of light.
For example, he often likes the beauties who take selfies on WeChat Moments. When you ask, he doesn't care about it, "This is nothing" or "You care too much." Or if he is playing dating software, you find out, but he will talk to you, "I'm cheating? I'm doing nothing, just take a look." Then there is no need to spend time and effort to argue with him.
If the girlfriend is unhappy, he still chooses to do it knowingly and try to rationalize his own untenable behavior by breaking your cognition. Then such a person does not have to talk nonsense to him. Attitude is very important.
is more useful than communication, it is to directly filter out people who do not need to waste time communicating.
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