Have you ever heard people complaining: We just like to quarrel frequently and have no common language at all. I am really tired when I am with him.
I believe there are indeed many complaints around you. If you observe carefully, you will find that most of these partners are very nervous because of disagreement of values.
If the two people in love want to get into marriage and want to last for a long time, their values are really important. Having common words can correctly find the so-called way of dealing with various problems, which directly affects whether your marriage can move towards a better end.
In fact, some people in reality are born to be together because of their differences in their values. Therefore, when they are together, the other party will not tolerate, tolerate, and generously make up for your shortcomings.
And marriage for a woman is not just about marrying a man, but about marrying a man’s entire family. If a member of a man’s family is in line with the woman’s values, then a woman will have a better life in this family. On the contrary, she will be really sad.
Duan Guixiang's parents are junior high school teachers, and all Duan Guixiang has been particularly strict in tutoring since she was a child. During her school days, Duan Guixiang's parents gave her the right to not allow her to fall in love at school. Duan Guixiang also listened to her parents very much and had never had a boyfriend during her school days.
Duan Guixiang and Wei Rongxin only met at a friend’s birthday party after working for three years. At this time, Duan Guixiang was already 26 years old. And Wei Rongxin was 27 years old at this time.
Wei Rongxin has never been in love. After seeing Duan Guixiang for the first time, Wei Rongxin became obsessed with Duan Guixiang. After that, Wei Rongxin embarked on Duan Guixiang. Wei Rongxin took three months to fall in love with Duan Guixiang.
Duan Guixiang brought Wei Rongxin home. After Wei Rongxin talked with Duan Guixiang's parents, Duan Guixiang's mother pulled her daughter aside and said:
"Guixiang, you are looking for a boyfriend. To be honest, my mother is not satisfied. My mother talked to him. From the process of talking to him, my mother saw that Wei Rongxin's family conditions are better than ours, and his parents have always wanted to find a very rich girl to be their daughter-in-law. To be honest, his parents definitely don’t like the conditions of our family, so you should split up with him in the end. "
"Mom, I marry Rongxin, not his parents. Besides, I also like Rongxin very much, I will not separate from him."
The daughter couldn’t listen to the objection of her parents, and in desperation, she had to agree to this marriage.
Because Wei Rongxin's family has better conditions and has a car and a house in the county town, he married Duan Guixiang. Wei Rongxin's family has already prepared for the wedding house.
Every time Duan Guixiang appears next to Wei Rongxin’s parents, Wei Rongxin is around Duan Guixiang, so Wei Rongxin’s parents are not very dissatisfied with Duan Guixiang.
Duan Guixiang and Wei Rongxin got married successfully. Duan Guixiang thought that her in-laws would treat her the same as before. However, when they really got married, Duan Guixiang could truly realize how much her in-laws despise her.
On weekends, Duan Guixiang and her husband Wei Rongxin went to the mall to buy wine for their father-in-law, and then bought a set of clothes for their mother-in-law, and then followed her husband to their in-laws' house.
When Duan Guixiang came to her in-laws' house, she thought that her in-laws would treat them very enthusiastically. However, when Duan Guixiang brought the gift in and put it on the tea set, her mother-in-law said:
"Rong Xin, how many times have you told you to go back to your home and not buy things, but you still don't listen. Look at you, isn't this a waste of money."
Mother-in-law said while throwing the gift on the sofa. As for Duan Guixiang, mother-in-law never looked at it at all...
"Rong Xin, are you tired from working every day? But don’t work too hard. You are already so outstanding, so don’t work hard anymore. "The mother-in-law said to her son with concern. She didn't take her daughter-in-law seriously at all.
Duan Guixiang As her husband Wei Rongxin arrived at her in-laws' house, her in-laws didn't look at Duan Guixiang all day, including even on the dining table, she didn't ask Duan Guixiang... Duan Guixiang felt really uncomfortable.
A year later, Duan Guixiang gave birth to a daughter in the hospital. When Duan Guixiang gave birth, her parents-in-law came to the hospital. However, when Duan Guixiang gave birth to a daughter, her mother-in-law's face changed suddenly. In front of Wei Rongxin, she said:
"Why is it just a girl movie? Son, mom has told you a long time ago that Duan Guixiang is not worthy of our family at all. Their conditions are really incomparable to our family. Now that they can't even give birth to a son, they are even less worthy of our family. "
The father-in-law also spoke, "Oh, that's what it is. This is the case. I gave birth to a girl. Didn't this cut off the incense of our old Wei family? "
Both parents said non-stop on Wei Rongxin's side, one sentence left and one sentence right, which made Wei Rongxin's head wide. He was very afraid that Duan Guixiang would hear it. However, his parents spoke so loudly, it was difficult for Duan Guixiang to not hear it.
Duan Guixiang told her parents-in-law's words, but after hearing clearly, Duan Guixiang's tears kept flowing out...
Therefore, Duan Guixiang did not dare to expect her mother-in-law to serve her. After knowing that Duan Guixiang gave birth to a daughter, she was unwilling to serve her daughter-in-law at all. So her parents-in-law went back that night.
Duan Guixiang during the confinement period, because her mother had not retired, she hired an confinement nanny to serve her confinement period...
Time flies so fast, in a blink of an eye, Duan Guixiang was out of confinement. Duan Guixiang, who had been out of confinement, discussed with Wei Rongxin, planning to hold a full moon wine for her child . After choosing the place to hold the wine, I started to invite relatives and friends from both parties...
On the day of the full moon banquet of the child, all the relatives and friends arrived. Duan Guixiang's parents have been very happy since the full moon banquet of the grandson, and their mother has always held their grandson, which also made Duan Guixiang feel warm in her heart.
In contrast, the parents-in-law and the grandson have been shaking their faces since they arrived at the full moon banquet of the grandson, and they looked arrogant...
Duan Guixiang is real I was speechless by my in-laws' attitude, but this was at the full moon banquet for my daughter, so Duan Guixiang endured this attitude...
Relatives and friends came to give the baby red envelopes one after another. Duan Guixiang's parents, both of them took out a thick red envelope from their pockets, and put it in Duan Guixiang's hands and said:
"Guixiang, my father got 10,000, and my mother got 10,000. These are the wishes of my parents, hoping that my granddaughter can grow up healthily. During your confinement period, your mother was unable to serve you during confinement period. My mother felt really uncomfortable, so you must accept this red envelope. "
Mother's words really touched Duan Guixiang. Duan Guixiang accepted the red envelopes from both of her parents...
The mother-in-law, who had always been tense, also pulled her father-in-law over and came over with her. The mother-in-law also gave her a red envelope.
"Guixiang, let us see your mother-in-law's red envelope. "A colleague from the company said.
"Yes, Guixiang, let's take apart and show us all, how much did your mother-in-law give it? "A colleague from another company said.
Duan Guixiang opened the red envelope of her parents-in-law in the eyes of her colleagues...
When Duan Guixiang opened the red envelope of her parents-in-law, she found that there were 200 yuan in it. This made the two colleagues who were just talking directly said:
"Guixiang, are you wrong? Grandpa and grandma give 20,000, and grandpa and grandma give 200, are there such grandparents?"
After the banquet, relatives and friends left one after another. Wei Rongxin bought the order and was about to pull Duan Guixiang back, he saw Duan Guixiang walking towards In-laws:
"This is the red envelope you gave to your granddaughter's full moon wine today. I'll give it to you again. You look down on me and you won't do it, right? You can do it for 200 yuan to eat your granddaughter's full moon wine. You think my family's conditions are not as good as yours. I feel that I am not worthy of your son. I also said that I gave birth to a girl movie. You are really bullying. From now on, you can count on your son to support you. If you have anything to do, don't count on me." After Duan Guixiang finished speaking, she threw the red envelope given by her parents-in-law to her mother-in-law, and then ignored Wei Rongxin, picked up the child and left the hotel angrily.
Wei Rongxin originally didn't know that his parents were in his wife's mind. He didn't know that his mother was so big today, or that she looked down on her daughter so much, and only gave her 200 red envelopes for her daughter. To be honest, Wei Rongxin was really shocked by what her parents did today...
It was also from this day that Duan Guixiang was no longer willing to step into the house where her parents lived. Whenever there was another festival, she only saw Wei Rongxin taking her children to visit her parents, but Duan Guixiang never went to her in-laws' house again.
Once saw a sentence in a book: "Marriage is the union of two families. Some contradictions are not only caused by living together, but if you don't live together, there will be no contradictions. The most important point between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to correct their role positioning."
The reason why the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be avoided is that they like to compete for favor. The mother-in-law competes for favor with his daughter-in-law, which is a problem that many mother-in-law will make. Once the mother-in-law competes for favor with his daughter-in-law, the family can be said to be in peace.
A smart mother-in-law will not care too much about her daughter-in-law's affairs, will not talk about her daughter-in-law's gossip, let them solve the matter between her son and daughter-in-law, and will not interfere with her. They will not blame her daughter-in-law for being dissatisfied with her.
So: I have been looking at my mother-in-law for ten years and my daughter-in-law for ten years. I hope that my mother-in-law who has also been someone else's wife can treat her own daughter-in-law correctly.
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