novel "Spring Banquet" says: "Even if it is an firefly who likes the moon, it will want to give it all its light. It has nothing to do with how powerful the person you like, it is a beating heart."
The burden of marriage is not heavy or light. Marriage is a process of ferrying boats together, not a rowing alone.
Some of men have some alcoholic friends before marriage, but if these bad friends who are not good for life are involved in marriage, they may lose a happy family and welcome the tragic ending of divorce alone, and the family is broken and the family is destroyed. Sometimes breaking off friendship is not ruthless, but great wisdom.
The wedding of a friend Xiao Zhang and his lover ended last year. Several friends who appeared at the wedding had disappeared from his address book. He told us that those friends tried to use him as a mobile ATM. After being rejected, they made a shocking statement and threatened to find someone to teach them a lesson.
, who was angry and afraid, decisively deleted the contact information of these people and no longer contacted them.
Xiao Zhang was born in a remote mountainous area like them, but he did not give up on himself, studied and worked hard, and had already bought a house in the provincial capital. Out of humanitarianism, he often helped the villagers before marriage, but they not only were they unhappy but also despised him for giving him less.
Fortunately, Xiao Zhang is not indecisive in nature. After marriage, he not only ignores their help signals, but instead throws them out of the circle of life. This avoids many undesolute disasters and the marriage life can continue smoothly.
Sanmao said: It’s great to have one or two, there is really no need to have too many. The joy of friends lies in the trust that is down-to-earth.
Friends are about essence, not about quantity. As you get older, the more you can feel this truth.
Intellectual men will break off contact with three types of people after marriage. This is not ruthlessness, but coincidentally it is a manifestation of affection.
1. Married men take the initiative to break off contact with false and false friends. It is not ruthless, but wisdom
Everyone is not perfect and has shortcomings. However, false and false people should not be tolerated by the world. These selfish and arrogant people are better to move forward alone and not to date too many friends who have given sincerity, so as not to hurt others' sincere heart.
It is normal for men to make friends, but if they meet people with different opinions, it is best to hide from them far away and don’t let them see your pure eyes, otherwise they will think of many ways to fool you.
If unfortunately, it is related to false bad friends, then you must break it up after marriage at the latest and give up the friendship that will endanger your happiness and the people around you in time.
2. Married men take the initiative to break off contact with friends with bad intentions. It is not ruthless, but wisdom
Men who treat friends as soulmates are stupid. They have not yet figured out the difference between shopping malls and life. The interests are irresponsible, only money and power.
People with interest can work together to create brilliance in their careers, but don’t let them enter their own life circle easily, otherwise a wolf will enter the sheep pen, and the result will definitely be very tragic.
There are no eternal friends and enemies in the mall. When it is profitable, the two are friends, and when it is unprofitable, the two can be strangers or enemies. This depends on reality.
In short, if a man wants to have a peaceful place after marriage, it is best to take the initiative to eliminate the kind-hearted friends who are not upright. Morality is a very important topic for people to talk about. People who are profit-oriented often have no good ending. Don’t let them implicate you.
3. Married men take the initiative to break off contact with strangers who have disagreements. It is not ruthless, but wisdom
People who have not received marriage baptism are very immature. They think that expanding their network is equivalent to making more friends, but this is not the case.
The connections and circle of friends are interspersed but not exactly the same. It is difficult for people with disagreeable views to provide help to you at the most critical moments, and you are not willing to take the initiative to bow your head and ask for help. Such a friend should be cleaned out of his circle of friends and he will find friends with similar outlook on life. From then on, you don’t have to be upset about him, and you can put your whole heart into your marriage and family.
People with great wisdom always seem to be "ruthless". They are decisive but not ruthless, and they are completely but not completely cut off their life path. People with independent opinions are the most affectionate and kind people in the world. People around you will not lose important life opportunities because of their delays and hesitation, and there is no need to worry about them day and night. It is good for everyone to break off contact with strangers who have disagreements in their values as soon as possible.
Conclusion:
Marriage is the result of love and a new starting point in life. We will not criticize the wrong things done before marriage. We just hope that every man has a fair call in his heart, and can weigh the priorities of things at a major turning point in his life.
identify good people and bad people, and kick people who are hindered from marriage out of their life circle in time. Staying away from bad people not only cherish their lives, but also protect the legitimate rights and interests of their families.
Xiao Zhang understands this truth deeply. It is hard to imagine what kind of ending Xiao Zhang will end if he doesn't leave with those unethical friends. Perhaps he will become the same person as them. He has various acute illnesses at a young age, but there is not even a person to take care of him.
In short, only when a married man breaks off contact with the above three types of people can he fly higher and farther. This is not ruthless.
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