Recently, a friend sent a private message to tell about her husband's cheating. She said that she and her husband were classmates from high school to college. They became lovers. Later, they formed a family. Both of them had deep feelings and loved each other. They had a deep rel

Recently, a friend sent a private message to tell about her husband's cheating. She said that she and her husband were classmates from high school to college. They became lovers. Later, they formed a family. Both of them had deep feelings and loved each other. They had a deep relationship. They had a very happy marriage life. However, after marriage, they were unable to have children due to some physical problems, and they needed a long treatment process. However, the husband didn't care about this and still loved and spoiled her as always, and was particularly good to her in all aspects.

But I don’t know whether it was due to physical reasons or psychological factors, but I became sensitive and suspicious, became emotionally fluctuating, and got angry and always made trouble for my husband. But my husband didn’t mind this and repeatedly was tolerant. Perhaps because he couldn’t accept the status quo after a long time, in order to seek comfort, my husband cheated with a divorced female colleague. After the cheating was exposed, the husband was very regretful and sympathized with the lover and completely cut off the relationship. In order to avoid harassment and entanglement of his lover, he even quit his previous job and re-purchased his career. After returning to the family, he didn’t know that it was out of guilt and compensation.

is still to show his attitude and determination to correct his mistakes and prove that he cares about his wife. After returning to the family, he pampered his wife more than before, cared for him, and performed very well in all aspects. Although his wife suffered this blow, her feelings for her husband have not changed. Although she experienced the betrayal of her husband, she still loved each other deeply and was unwilling to give up. But what makes me most painful and troubled now is that the things have passed, and the two live together, and they can never let go of this.

cannot overcome this hurdle at all. He is always troubled by this matter and can never truly forgive her husband. He makes me fall into deep distress and endless torture and find out what to do. After reading her complaint text, I constantly comforted, persuaded and guided her, and tried my best to be indifferent and open-minded about this matter, and hoped that her situation would improve. There are many such phenomena in reality. In fact, in many cases, women encounter their husband's cheating and betrayal.

cannot forget and cannot let go of it in the short term afterwards. It is a normal phenomenon. It is a human nature and can be fully understood. As victims, few people can quickly accept the cruel reality and be calm, but things that they are unwilling to face have already happened. They must face the reality bravely and be trapped in it. It can only be harmful and useless to themselves, and are not good for their future choices and future life. It can be said that after a man cheats on , women want to have good results, so they can do two words, that is, "let go" .

Some people may say that this is purely "should not hurt when you stand and speak". This kind of thing makes it difficult for anyone to let go. It can be said that it is easier said than done. This is true. But we might as well consider it from a different perspective and way of thinking. First of all, things have happened and have become a fait accompli. That is, people often say that the result is a lot of things and it is difficult to get over the water. No matter what you do, you can't change anything. Whether you let go or care about it has no value or meaning, it is useless and futile.

However you get entangled, what is the use? Just like a famous joke once popular, an old man put a bottle of honey on the back of a bicycle fell to the ground and broke the honey. The honey spilled all over the floor. As a result, the old man pushed the cart away without even looking at it. Passersby asked in confusion, "Your honey bottle is broken, why are you like nothing happened?" The old man replied that the bottle has broken and the honey has flowed to the ground. No matter how much I care about it, what can I change? What can I do if I am struggling with it? Although this is a joke, it is very philosophical.

How to deal with this phenomenon with the husband cheating on his wife. The relationship is the same as the same as the same. Why can’t you let it go? Secondly, you must never let go of such unbearable things. It will become a huge mental burden, which will only affect your emotions and mentality, and will disrupt your mind and correct analysis and judgment. This will be extremely unfavorable to your future choices and the solution of problems, and may even seriously affect your future life. Because after a man cheats, no matter what the situation is, he will only face two choices in the end.

One is to be hurt by this. The relationship is broken off with the other party, the relationship is completely broken, and the other party is completely unacceptable, and there is no desire to continue the future marriage life. The couple divorced and broke up and went their own ways. At this time, they became irrelevant people. In this way, there is no problem of letting go or not letting go, and there is no question of letting go or not letting go. The only problem that cannot be let go is another way of choice. Although the couple has suffered heavy damage from cheating, the relationship between the two parties is still there.

neither wants to give up on each other, and both parties do not want to end the marriage because of this. They also believe that starting over and getting back together, so that the two of them can reunite, or that the couple is not of this type, but are restricted and restricted by various conditions. For considerations of all parties and taking into account all aspects, they believe that taking the divorce step is not worth the loss or the big one is lost because of the small. Even if they get together, they must continue to maintain the family, and they do not want to break up with them. No matter what the situation is, they must continue to live together at this time.

In this link and process, the phenomenon of "let go" and "can't let go" about this matter. So we might as well think about it carefully. Since we plan to live on forever and live together for a long time in the future, what is the effect of still focusing on this matter? It will only play a negative and negative role and will not benefit any more. If you are still worried about it, it will only make yourself in a psychological torment for a long time, become your own spiritual shackles, and make yourself suffer.

will not be completely free until you get out of it. In a popular saying, "Punish yourself with other people's mistakes." In addition, because you always mind and care about this matter, it becomes an obstacle to repairing and improving relationships, which will seriously affect the mutual adjustment of couples, and it will be difficult for couples to adapt to future family life. It is difficult for couples to get along harmoniously, and it is difficult for life to live in harmony. Then, because of this mentality of being unable to let go, it is really too expensive to take advantage of your own and even the whole family's future happiness. It is really unwise and undesirable.