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Last night, a friend came to my house late at night and cried to me: "My boyfriend and I have always had a good relationship, but for some reason, he just told me that he was going to break up with me!"
I was shocked when I heard it. I also know my friend’s boyfriend, he is a very good person.
I asked, "He took the initiative to mention it?"
Friend said, "We had a fight the day before yesterday when we had dinner together. I was so angry that I blurted out, and if you think it was not suitable, I would break up, and then he would say it. It's no big deal."
I was silent for a while and said, "This is obviously the first one you took."
My friend was in pain and cried and said, " I don't really want to part, because I have always loved him very much, I just let it go."
After comforting my friend for a while, I couldn't help but sigh deeply.
The so-called good words warm in three winters, and bad words hurt people in six months. Isn’t this the case?
A sympathy and understanding sentence can often give people great comfort, making people feel warm in the cold winter.
An inappropriate words are like a sharp sword that hurts others' fragile hearts. Even in summer, June, I feel a burst of cold.
Knife mouth, tofu heart, is the stupid thing that most women in the world have made.
Whether it is love or friendship, many of them are defeated by the knife mouth and the tofu heart.
I deeply feel the mood of my friends at this moment.
Because I used to be the same stupid thing, I was sad for a long time.
In real life, the most unpaid and tiring person is the so-called person with a sharp mouth and a tofu heart.
In fact, people with a sharp mouth and a tofu heart are just stubborn, but deep down they are gentle, kind, generous and kind.
They just made straightforward and unspoken stupidity, which led to huge misunderstandings, hurting others and themselves.
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People who speak straightforwardly often value feelings and do things neatly, and do not like to turn around.
Occasionally, because I am too straightforward, I will be tolerant only when I meet someone with a broad mind and know that the other person is sensitive.
Song Dandan and Ni Ping are a pair of friends who can make friends.
Whenever Song Dandan is in a bad mood, Ni Ping will always accompany her and comfort her.
is often like this. The closer you are, the higher your expectations for them are. Once there is a barrier between
, the harder it will be to recover.
Once, they had a dinner with a large group of friends. During the meal, Song Dandan showed off with his friends around him, "Ni Ping is my best friend."
As a result, Ni Ping said, "Who are you? How many days have I known you?"
This sentence was originally a joke, but it made Song Dandan very embarrassed, making her unable to let go for a long time.
A person can comfort you when you are at your lowest point, and can also make you cry when you are at your happiest time.
Because of this joke, they no longer contacted each other. It was not until both of them were over 60 years old that they had settled their past grudges.
The termination of most relationships often starts with good face, and all reconciliation as before comes from knowing how to let go and tolerate.
The most disadvantage in all relationships is the knife mouth and the tofu heart.
People like this are kind-hearted and soft-hearted, but they speak straightforwardly.
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There is no doubt that compared to those who speak slickly, sincerity and straightforwardness can give people a sense of scheming, integrity and reliability, and can easily gain favor and trust from others.
can be overly honest and straightforward, but sometimes it will only backfire.
If your straightforwardness makes others uncomfortable, you need to reflect and change.
Then how to change the communication between the knives and the tofu heart? The following 3 tips are shared with those around you who are good at talking and benevolent.
① Self-awakening
Know and understand that you must make changes. When you habitually say words that accuse or hurt others, you can consciously explore your own words to perceive the true emotions in your heart.
② Make an honest reaction
Honestly face your true feelings and honestly admit that you do have some responsibility. Only by showing the other person your true feelings can you truly win respect.
③ Change unreasonable beliefs
After discovering some unreasonable beliefs, you can try to transform it and change the extreme vocabulary in it.
It is said that tofu mouth is kind and gentle, and it makes people feel comfortable when speaking, and knows how to give people self-esteem and face.
But the heart is like a mirror, with backbone, bottom line, and even more dependent on right and wrong, and understand it in your heart.
I hope that after learning these three points above, don’t let your straightness become an obstacle.
can all be transformed into a person with a tofu mouth, a knife heart, a flexible appearance and a tough heart on the inside.
also hopes that you and I can think from the perspective of others and consider each other's feelings.
Use the most appropriate method and gentle attitude to express your feelings to the other party and win each other's affection.
Finally, please like it. For the rest of your life, I sincerely wish that no matter whether it is a knife-mouthed heart or a tofu mouth, a knife-mouthed heart, there are people who understand, someone loves, and someone who loves it.
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Author introduction:
I am Ziqiao, I wake up at five o'clock every day, and I like to do things like "reading and writing", "exercise", "psychology", and "home beautification".
This number published a dry article: "Emotion", "Psychology", "Review and Summary", "Improve Knowledge", "Home Beautification"
Vision: Be your own sun, illuminate others with warm light.
Golden sentences in life: Self-discipline will be hard for a while, laziness will be hard for a lifetime! The more self-discipline you are, the more free you are. If you persist, it will lead to transformation.
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