The reader wrote to me: Women are emotional animals. They don’t even know when they will get angry. Every time they get angry, they always hope that their husband can make themselves happy. In fact, most men do the same.

The reader wrote to me and said:

Women are emotional animals. They don’t even know when they will get angry. And every time they get angry, they always hope that their husband can make themselves happy. In fact, most men do the same. However, have women ever thought about the question: men are also emotional species. When their dissatisfaction accumulates to a certain level, they also need to vent in time, otherwise what awaits him will be the depression behind the depression.

Ask: When a man is under pressure from family and work, have he ever seen a man get angry with his wife? It’s not that they are rough-down, it’s just that they are unwilling to bring negative emotions home. In this case, how should men vent their emotions? Most men choose to find friends to get drunk; or be dazed in the car. So, when a man drinks a lot of times, please don’t ridicule him after he gets drunk: Why don’t you die outside? Don’t come back next time you get drunk; you can’t live this life, so you’d better go with your brothers. After a man gets home drunk, the attitude that a woman should have is: preparing a glass of warm water on the bedside table and helping him lie down is the correct way to open it.

It is really not easy for men. Not only do they have to face criticism from their boss at work, but they also have to accept their wives’ nagging when they get home. If you still love your husband, please learn to feel sorry for and understand him, instead of using your willful and selfish double standards to make your husband feel no warmth in this home.

My husband and I were in love freely and got married. When we first got married, I also relied on my husband's condolence to me and showed a state in front of him that I only know how to ask for but not how to give. In the sixth year of our marriage, my husband was drunk and faced my retort. He finally couldn't hold back. He cried like a child in front of me and filed for divorce to me. At that time, I thought my husband was someone outside of marriage. Later, I talked with my husband in a heart-to-heart talk and then understood the grievances in my husband's heart. After that, I tried to make myself sensible, and understood my husband more, and found that men were actually very satisfied. As long as you understand him, trust him, and care about him, he would be willing to give you 100% love.

Muzili Emotional analysis:

Love, the biggest highlight: mutual. However, some women rely on being a woman to do whatever they want in marriage. Have you ever thought: When a man gives you love and care, he also wants to get relative feedback from you. The collapse of an adult will explode in an instant: or because of an inconspicuous little thing. But you need to understand: the reason why your lover suddenly gets angry at you is because you have accumulated too much aggrievance before. Is the wine really that delicious? Not that, it’s just the dizzy feeling after getting drunk, which makes men enjoy it. Men are also flesh and blood, and they also have times when they are in a low mood. They cannot clamor in front of their lovers at this time. They can only rely on the dizziness after being drunk to numb themselves of fatigue, pain, and emotions.

When "emotion" erupts, it is actually very useful for men to offset it in the form of drunkenness. The reason why some men look for wine parties every now and then or organize wine parties is because what they drink is wine, but the experience they get is the release of emotions. As a woman, you should look at men drinking rationally. Of course, everything should have a degree: if a man stays drunk every day when he gets home, it is a bit unreasonable. If you want a man to keep drinking, either after he returns home, please less nag and accept his complaints about his work, or you will take on the burden of life and make men less stress at the level of making money. When you can't bear the burden of making money to support your family and can't control your nagging, don't blame men for being drunk occasionally.

There is also a phenomenon in life: in the face of his wife's perverted and domineering words, a man has an extramarital affair without the idea of ​​divorce. Perhaps the actions of men eating in the bowl and watching the pot are indeed unacceptable to women, but have you ever thought that men just want to find someone who understands themselves as spiritual comfort, and only get involved in extramarital affairs when they are helpless.At this time, the reason why a man does not divorce is not that he still has a attachment to his feelings with you, but that he feels that: 1) he does not want his children to grow up in a divorced family; 2) he has paid too much in this relationship and cannot bear to let his efforts be wasted; 3) Divorce and reorganizing a family is a money-burning business, and they are unwilling to be unable to get along with money.

Men’s attitude towards marriage is often: if you can tolerate it, you can tolerate it. If you really can’t tolerate it, you can only choose to divorce. Therefore, women should not be too unreasonable in their marriage life. At least they should give men the minimum respect and care, rather than cursing at the men while asking for it. You should know that men are just flesh and blood, not cold ATMs, nor are they your free long-term worker. For this reason, I would like to ask some women: How many days can you support when a man treats you the way you treat him? Many times, the promise that men show in front of you is not because men are afraid of you, but just think that their marriage life will continue and don’t want to easily break up with you. To this end, in marriage, you should know how to feel sorry for and care for men, rather than endlessly picking and cursing men with just talking.

What kind of women are prone to disgust men during the process of managing a marriage?

1) I have no ability and I also make various tricks on men. A saying that women often say, I do this for your own good. The key is that when you communicate with men, you always use some words related to sarcasm and negation. Do you think men will be happy when they hear it? Sometimes you have to learn to speak well, which may have unexpected results. You can give men praise and affirmation infrequently, at least you should be more calm, right?

2) All that has always been presented in love is selfishness and double standards. A couple needs to form a situation where men and women work together without being tired. If you only consider your own feelings in a relationship, you will not feel sorry for the man’s feelings at all. The key is that after a man rejects some of your requests, you will be particularly unhappy. Don’t you think that eating looks that doesn’t feel sorry for men is really ugly?

3) It’s lazy and is unwilling to contribute when you are unwilling to pay. Some women, after getting married, live as their ancestors. When their children do not need your care at all, they still insist on being full-time housewives. The key is that they cannot take good care of their children and are not responsible for their daily life. They know that they are lazy all day long. I want to ask, do men really lack ancestors?

4) Like to complain, and when encountering small things, you like to make yourself sad. Some people, living with you, will feel very tired, the kind of indescribable tiredness. Because every time you communicate with him, you will suddenly feel particularly bad because of the content of your conversation with him, because in his perception, he can always see the darker side of things. After living with such a person for a long time, you will find that you will lose the desire to communicate with him, and you will even feel that living with him is particularly tiring.

Postscript:

I don’t know why, in this era, I will always meet some girls who regard themselves as their ancestors. The key is that their qualifications are also average. What I want to say is that feelings are mutual. Since two people have formed a family, why can’t they be able to have a little care for men from the perspective of men. What’s even more exaggerated is that the two of them are obviously already husband and wife, but they still plot against men: they don’t blink when spending men’s money, and they hurt more than cutting their own money.

In the field of love, shouldn’t people be mutual? If there is only one person's efforts in a relationship, perhaps during the period when he was obsessed with you, he is willing to show his willingness. The key is that the relationship cannot escape the fate of opening high and ending low and closing . When the relationship between two people enters a dull period, you still maintain a squeezed demand for him. Do you think he will not be tired of this relationship?

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