According to the recently released "China Marriage and Family Report 2022 Edition", the number of registered marriages in the northwest region dropped to 7.5 million in 2021.
Compared with 2013, the number of married people in China has dropped by about 30%. The ratio of
to marriage is the divorce data of our country. Since 2020, the number of divorces in China has increased year by year. Although the overall trend of divorce has not risen as violently as before due to the “ divorce cooling-off period ” in recent times, it is still increasing.
It seems that the "divorce fever" is still accompanied by the generations born in the 1990s and 2000s.
We can’t help but think, do people nowadays really treat marriage as a joke? Flash marriage is not that rare, and various reasons for divorce have become the norm.
However, most failed marriages are said to be not sudden, just like the sun sets. It is a slow process that ends with divorce until there is no way out.
Psychological research shows that the fate of each couple has ended and there are "signs". Just look at these three details.
1. There will be endless quarrels due to material conditions.
When Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang got married in the TV series " My First Half of Life ", Luo Ziqun's mother strongly opposed it because she felt that Bai Guang was not capable and could not give the happiness her daughter wanted.
At that time, Luo Ziqun thought that love could override material things, so he married Bai Guang without hesitation.
After getting married, Bai Guang did not go out to work, but stayed at home and played games all day. Luo Ziqun supported the whole family alone.
Not only that, the child's milk powder money was short of money, Luo Ziqun was exhausted and became increasingly disappointed with his marriage. The two began to quarrel frequently.
Luo Ziqun accused Bai Guang of being irresponsible. Bai Guang also belittled Luo Ziqun in various ways, mocking her for her lack of appearance and ability. Without herself, no other person would accept her.
Finally, their marriage ended unsatisfactorily in such a quarrel. It is reasonable for poor couples to be sad about everything.
Economically determines the superstructure. When the material conditions are met, there will not be too many disputes in marriage life, because quarrels caused by money are the most powerless. A deep sense of suffocation is enough to crush the marriage.
When couples always quarrel frequently over material problems, it means that their marriage has come to an end.
Because what makes marriage collapse is often not sudden changes, but trivial matters in life. This is a marriage disaster.
2. Suddenly I feel that marriage has become boring, and it’s a pity to abandon it.
When did you start to feel that marriage is boring?
may not be able to dig out the other party’s freshness for a long time;
may not be able to find any common topics to talk about for a long time.
Time can dilute many things, including the heart that promised to spend a lifetime with the other party.
People say marriage is a dish. This dish is constantly heated, and the taste will become lighter over time, but we still have to eat this dish.
At this time, we are bored inside. We hate the life that can see the end at a glance, like a pool of stagnant water, without any passion.
So, we vent our resentment towards our lover and feel that all the misfortunes are brought by each other.
Seven Years Itch is something that every marriage has to experience. Some people choose to start a business to increase freshness, while others are indifferent and let their marriage develop in the worst direction.
So, marriage gradually came to an end in this way of silence.
3. You will lose your loyalty to your feelings, be fond of the new and get tired of the old, and change your mind.
"Come on, Mom", Su Qing and her husband opened a law firm with their mother. The two of them have their own division of labor, and there are no major material difficulties, and the children are also obedient and sensible.
Su Qing is busy with work, so he naturally ignores his family, which gives her husband the opportunity to be unfaithful.
The husband hooked up with an intern in a law firm who had just arrived. The long-lost freshness made him forget that he was a married husband and the father of the child.
He was so proud that he was addicted to extramarital affairs, and became indifferent to his wife.
As smart as Su Qing, as a lawyer praised by industry insiders, how could she not notice her husband's abnormality?
She began to investigate all the suspicious people in the law firm and finally determined the target. The moment he learned the truth, Su Qing was not surprised to solve the case, but only felt distressed.
She can't accept that her husband would do such disgusting things. She feels tired and can't stand such a marriage. So, she filed for divorce.
In fact, the essence of marriage is loyalty. Without loyalty, marriage is water without source and tree without roots. Have you noticed it in front of the screen of
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