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picture: network (if there is any infringement _span3sp, please contact p0span _span3sp is not the most interested in the world, please delete it) Flowing water is merciless, but one person is still in love, but the other person is in love with others.
You may have found out, but you have to pretend not to know, just to be able to save the other party more time.
But even so, you have to understand that when a person is no longer in love, it is a matter of time to leave.
Let go one day earlier, let go earlier.
But if you are always lucky, always thinking that as long as you love more and treat the other person better, the other person will like yourself again, then you will only make yourself more injured.
A previous netizen shared her story with me. She said that she has been with her boyfriend for more than three years, and originally planned to get married in the fourth year.
It's been four years, but her boyfriend has changed his heart, and he likes a new colleague from the company, and this colleague is also interesting to her boyfriend.
I didn’t know what to do at first, and I was ready to cry and make a lot of noise, but when I think about it, cry and make a noise, my boyfriend must be separated from myself, and be honest with each other. I promised to get married next year. I can't just leave it like that.
Finally, I thought about it and chose to pretend not to see it.
I thought that my boyfriend would not break up with me and would go on with myself, but I didn’t want to, and didn’t insist on it for three months.The boyfriend broke up.
At that moment, I realized that when a person doesn't love you, it doesn't make much sense for you to pretend not to know, and it will end in the end.
Sometimes, we pretend not to know, but we are deceiving ourselves. We think that we don’t know the other party and we won’t mention it. After all, the other party did something sorry for ourselves first, but slowly you will find that it’s not you. If you don't mention it, it's okay. If you don't mention it, the other party will still break up if they want to break up.
The more reluctant you are and the less you don't want to let go, the greater the damage you will suffer in the end. Instead of doing this, it is better to stop the loss in time.
The relationship between people is actually very subtle. Maybe you will have big illusions at the beginning, and even think that there are many possibilities for two people, but when one day, when one person is not in love, your All fantasies and possibilities are coming to an end.
Because when a person doesn’t love, he will only make one decision, which is to separate from you.
But if you know that the other person is no longer in love, and you pretend not to know, it is just a continuation of your own dream. One day, you will wake up. The day you wake up, maybe you will Regret, maybe you will be uncomfortable, maybe you will be miserable, no matter what emotion it is, you must understand that one day, you will wake up.
But if your contribution is within the range that you can bear, then it doesn’t matter if you pay a day later. I’m afraid that you’ll pay a lot, but there will be no results. In the end, you will not be able to bear it. So, when you If you love someone, if you fall in love with someone else, there is only one best thing you can do, which is to stop the loss in time.
At this point you can do this:
1. Choose to let it go!
When a person does not love you, you have to learn to let go.
You have to understand that if you don't let go, the other person still doesn't love. Only if you let go, will you make yourself better. Maybe you will fantasize about not letting go or the other person will change their minds.
But you have to understand,People who don't love you, you are not hot.
It is like a saying: You can never wake up a person who pretends to sleep, and you can never warm up an unloving heart.
So, don’t have illusions. What you have to do at this time is to let go bravely. Only when you let go, you will embrace the new life, your life will have more possibilities, and you will meet To the one who truly loves you.
2. Try to convince yourself
In fact, when a person doesn’t love, the hardest thing for us is not to let go, but not to accept. We can’t accept the other’s non-love, we can’t accept the one who loved so much. Why don't our people stop loving all of a sudden?
We might even wonder if we have done something wrong, if we are not doing well enough, if we are not doing the right way, or if we are not good enough for the other party.
In fact, they are not. Don’t doubt yourself. When a person doesn’t love you, you don’t need to say anything or do anything. The other person just doesn’t love you anymore.
And at this time you have to learn to work hard to convince yourself, tell yourself: the world of feelings is not fair, the other party no longer loves, and what you do is meaningless.
Annie baby said in "The Lucid": "Be brave to give up something for the life you want to live. There is no justice in this world, and you will never get both. Count.”
So, when you realize that the other party is not in love, you have to be brave to let go, so that not only will the harm you receive will be reduced, but the other party will also have a good influence on you.
3. Learn to love yourself
We have to tell ourselves that if a person does not love you, you must love yourself more.Can't do things that don't love yourself.
Once you stop loving yourself, who else will love?
Life is just a few dozen years short, only if you love yourself, someone will love you in the future, and you will not let this life down.
When you don't love yourself for someone you don't love, you will find that the other party is not important at all, and you will only regret for not cherishing yourself.
Therefore, in the face of a person who does not love, you must not only learn to let go, but also learn to persuade yourself to let yourself give up on such a person, and finally love yourself so that we will live up to this life.
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.About the author:
Sunny breeze, look at the world rationally, and look at love warmly. May my words move you and bring you warmth.
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