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Tang Ruoxin learns original works, we must
if we want to become more powerful in our lives We must learn an important mental technique, and understand how the environment changes with our heart.
The essence of changing the environment is to say goodbye to a single point of view to see the problem, but to understand the problem with more diversified perspectives, so that we can see the truth of the matter more clearly, and open our own lives with the help of the conversion of perspectives. , Iterate your own life.
Turning the environment with one's heart is never a simple slogan. It is constructed from the inner life and finds a breakthrough for self-growth. We will naturally become stronger.
First, from focusing on the outside world to focusing on yourself
The growth of life is actually a process of continuous transformation and self-growth. You may want to know that in this world, the external environment is beyond our control. Whether it is the external weather, how others treat us, and what the future will be, we cannot decide.
If a person focuses too much on the circle of attention, he will find that many things are not as good as we want. If we want to control but can’t do anything, we can only let ourselves be controlled by external conditions. If this continues, we will naturally not take the initiative Take the initiative to take the necessary measures to promote positive changes. At this time, often we are left with complaints, anger, or even giving up.
But once we focus on ourselves,The situation will be completely different at this time, because we can see our own thinking patterns, behavior patterns, and even language patterns, and see the impact of these patterns on us.
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Secondly, the key to changing the environment is to break through the blind spot of cognition. middle. When you see that there is still a lot of room for self to grow, we will actually find that if I change, the world will also change.
Just as a reader asked me what to do if my work is not going well, the first time I give him is to ask him, if the work is not going well, it means that he needs to be improved. When he realizes his own problems, He will not be overly anxious and confused, but put more energy on self-control.
Learn to seek inwardly, which in essence also enhances the subjectivity of your own life. When you realize that there is much room for change and flexibility in your own self, your energy will also increase, which will naturally lead your life towards Development in a better direction.
There is a model in psychology called the Johari window. In the Johari window model, we can see that everyone actually has their own cognitive blind spot. This cognitive blind spot is often not us. I saw myself.
In this unknowing self,It may be our thinking model , or our deeper beliefs and values are hindering our growth and development, but we don't know it.
The key to learning how to turn around is to find the cognitive blind spots for self-growth and continue to make breakthroughs. When you can break through the blind spots, your corresponding obstacles will be cleared.
For example, there was a time when I was very afraid of speaking in public. Later, I deeply realized that this fear was because I was worried that I would lose face, but I knew that as a teacher, I had to overcome the shortcomings of being afraid of speaking in person. .
So I consciously trained myself to do live broadcasts. In fact, I recorded videos to help myself overcome internal obstacles. When I found that there were no obstacles, my expressive skills became stronger. I feel The future of oneself is also broader.
In fact, the growth of life is a process of removing interference. The essence of seeking inward is to remove the interference from the outside world. The more you can remove the interference from the outside world and focus on self-growth, you will see a A richer self.
The process of inner strength is essentially the process of changing our own understanding of things. In psychology, there is a Festinger principle that emphasizes that everything that happens is actually neutral, and what affects our personal mood is Our understanding of things, your understanding of things changes, naturally you will change accordingly.
For example, in the face of setbacks, if we think we are stupid, then we will give up our efforts. If we face setbacks and realize that self-training is not enough, then we will actively train ourselves,So as to turn setbacks into a driving force for self-growth.
The essence of changing circumstances is to change the way we deal with things, and to resolve our inner beliefs and obstacles. The more we know how to start from the fundamentals, we will encounter a better self.
Third, if you change, the world changes.
If we want to make our heart stronger, please remember that if you change, the world will change Now, this is the greatest strength that Xinxue brings to us.
You have changed. In a certain way, always focus more on the place where you can rise and change. When you are willing to continue to change yourself and make yourself more and more gentle, you too Will bring great spiritual power support around.
If you change, the world will change. From a certain point of view, it also tells you not to seek out too much. If you continue to seek out, it will deprive you of your inner growth motivation and even your inner life. Original passion.
Only by looking for the answer from within can we find a real answer. When things happen, we can differentiate ourselves from within, think and build systematically, and continue to upgrade ourselves in order to see a bigger landscape.
Turning the environment with one's heart essentially tells us that by focusing more on self-growth and upgrading of self-cognition, you will find that your pattern will become bigger and bigger. Scenery.
Therefore, the essence of learning how to turn around is to look at ourselves from a higher level system and break through ourselves. Only then will we embrace the bigger self,See the bigger world.
Today’s topic: Do you think people with strong hearts know how to change their circumstances? Welcome to discuss and exchange.
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