Foreword
I don’t know if you have noticed such a phenomenon, that is, a person who has worked very hard, but can’t save much money on him. Every day he yells about how poor he is, but how much money is spent Where did it go, even after thinking about it, I can't figure out why. There are many phenomena. Whether it is a migrant worker or a white-collar worker in a company, I am afraid that they have all experienced this kind of experience.
Most people attribute the reason to their low wages. Over time, they will feel that they will not get the same return for their efforts. Therefore, they will feel disgusted with their work, and will even develop a feeling of hatred for the rich. When I see that other people are making more money, I feel that the source of their money is unknown, or that they are not capable, because the people around him are powerful and lead him to make money. But I have to admit that in today's society, networking is a kind of capital, with multiple friends and multiple paths, and wide contacts, which is equivalent to more resources, and more resources mean more ways to make money.
For example, some people don’t want to work so hard and want to go back to their hometown to start their own business. However, they have no capital and no skills. At this time, they can only ask for help from the people around them. When people learn technology, two people work together to get things done. On the contrary, if this person has no connections and wants to do things alone, it is really difficult. But where do the contacts come from? This requires frequent social interactions.
Some people are not convinced. Why don't they socialize and socialize? Isn't it just eating and eating with others? Drinking and drinking, I usually have nothing to go out and play together, come and go, and get acquainted with people, but the network will not be there, but the premise is that the communication also has to spend money, the rich people have money to socialize, he is a part-timer and earns The money is not enough, how can the family spend the remaining money to make friends. There are indeed many people who have walked into this dead end. They feel that those who make money in business have money to expand their contacts. They have no money, and naturally they cannot make friends who are helpful to them.
In fact, there are a lot of friends around me, but some people don’t make friends and use some money where they shouldn’t be used. For example, some people want to expand their contacts, so they don’t dare to be stingy or refuse to spend money. In fact, contacts are also divided into good and bad, only those high-quality contacts.It is possible to pull you when you need help, so that you can find various ways to make money through them.
Inferior contacts are what we usually call friends with wine and meat. When you associate with them, you should be stingy when you should be stingy, and reject when you should refuse. Blind and generous will only make your popularity worse and worse. In the end, the contacts were not obtained, and money was lost. So on what things should we not be generous? Remember these three things.
1. Eat and drink rushing to spend money
Some people make a lot of money by looking at them, and there are a lot of friends around them. As a result, they need to use people and money at a critical moment and find that they have no money, friends. I also hide myself far away. At this time, I will definitely feel very uncomfortable. I will also hate my former friends. When I play together, I say that they are good brothers. As a result, now that my good brothers are in trouble, they can’t follow each other. Recognizing, why is it like this?
In the final analysis, these friends are all friends of wine and meat. Whether you are eating or drinking or going out to play, you are rushing to pay, and no matter how much you lose, you never blush. If you think of friends, you shouldn’t care about this. , You treat them as friends sincerely, thinking that you will get the same rewards if you give them, but in fact it is not the case. When you spend money, the happier and more generous you are. Some people don’t think you are doing this because you treat them as friends. Instead, they think that you are being taken advantage of. As long as you go out to play, you will definitely be called. Can't think of you.
And what should a real friend be like, today you invite me, I will definitely come back next time, you help me, I keep it in my heart, you are in trouble, I will definitely not sit back and watch When you go out to play, you will also consider your financial situation, and even advise you to spend less and plan for your future. There is a term called reciprocity, which is the most basic criterion for communication between friends. Only the relationship of equal mutual communication can be a true friend and can last longer.
2. Never refuse to borrow money
The second is that people usually borrow money very smartly, others borrow as much as you have, and never refuse. It is reasonable to say that when someone encounters difficulties, you need to borrow money. It is right to give him, after all, it is right for a friend to have a hard time reaching out.Why does this cause your own popularity to deteriorate? Because when you lend money to others, you never ask them the reason, as long as the other party says that they are in trouble, you must borrow them, and you never urge them to pay back the money you borrow.
After a long time, others know that it is easy to borrow money here, and there is no need to worry about repaying it, so when you have no money to spend it, you will borrow it from you. Have you ever thought about prioritizing borrowing money? If it is really urgent, it should be. If the other party is greedy for enjoyment and runs out of the money earned, then he will still use the money you lent him to eat, drink and play. You lend your savings to the other party, and wait until one day when you need money urgently. If you go to the other party to pay it back, the other party may not be able to get it out. In the end, it is yourself who suffers. If you rush it, you may even say "such a small amount of money, three reminders and four reminders, what a friend."
You can see that you have done a good deed, and you have offended people. So when you borrow money, you can’t save the poor. Some people have money that can’t be borrowed, so they resolutely refuse. If the other party complains, it’s a big deal Contact, because the other party didn’t treat you as a friend, so naturally you don’t have to think too much of him. When it comes to money, even people with blood relations can get into trouble if they don’t handle it well. Why meet in a stranger? People who spend money and effort on their bodies, in the end they don’t think about your good, and become enemies.
3. Be responsive
Finally, don't be responsive to other people's requests. You can do a little favor, but if something is beyond your ability and the other party still asks you for help, you have to consider it carefully. Do you really work hard to do it for others, or do you say that there is no way to help, if it is the latter case, then simply refuse, if you agree but you can’t do it, this It's more unfavorable than just rejecting, and it will make people feel that you have no credibility.
I believe that many people have encountered this situation. Others have something to help. You see that your friend’s identity is not good and you refuse. As a result, you are busy with things, and the matter is still not solved for others. This friend is drifting away, and his heart is full of grievances. In fact, in the final analysis, everyone is ordinary people who come out to work. No one is better than anyone, and no one earns more. Since everyone is of the same level, then they can do what they can in helping. Don’t blame me if you can’t help you.
Whether it is business or daily life, friends are very important, but how to choose friends is more important. Good friends can help you succeed and make your life better. On the contrary, bad friends give you all the time Digging a hole may even drag you into the abyss together, what do you think?
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