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Interpersonal communication has always been a topic that people talk about. Everyone wants to be accepted and liked by others, but the fact is always against what people want.
In psychological research, the relationship between people is often determined by the few seconds they first know each other, whether they like it or hate it has long been traced in the process of meeting for the first time.
In fact, everyone's interactions with others are like looking in a mirror. The person you like must have certain aspects similar to yourself, or the other person has certain qualities that you like but lack.
However, for things like feelings, it only makes sense to go both ways, whether it is friendship or love.
I have seen too many people who started to slander them because they didn't like it, and tried their best to poke other people's spines in their backs.
In fact, this approach is not rational, and it seems that it is very unstructured.
No one can force the other party to like you. If someone doesn't like you, the best way is to take it lightly, don't argue with him, and you can work harder to move forward until you leave the other party far behind. Never meet again on the same road.
As Mo Yan once said: "If you don't like it, you don't like it, there is no reason. It's like a gust of wind, all you have to do is pat the dust on your body, turn around and walk away quietly. Then, take this dislike to yourself. People just forget about it."
likes this kind of subjective things, most of the time they can't get to the bottom of the reason, maybe it's just because your aura doesn't match, or if you don't talk speculatively, you have entered the other party's dating blacklist.
Don't argue with the other party, you have to prove that you are not wrong, that he has no vision, etc. You just need to turn around smartly and leave those who don't like you behind.
once had a popular youth drama called " to our simple little beauty ", playing the heroine Shen Yue , which also entered the public's field of vision. But as soon as she debuted, she was called "an amateur who broke into the entertainment industry".
Because of Shen Yue's short stature and uneven body, she has no advantages in facial features and face shape. Her play is just an emoji, without any aesthetic feeling, and it was once impossible for people to enter the play. After all, she played all campus youth Shitty idol drama.
Facing the public's attack on her image, Shen Yue's approach can be said to have won the favor of countless passers-by.
She didn't sell badly like other scolded celebrities, or tear up comments with netizens and fight for her own reasons, she just lived her little life happily, without any anxiety about her figure, ate the food she liked, and liked it Where to take good-looking photos, even if it is said that retouching is serious, she will ignore it.
In the interview, Shen Yue said: "I think people are happy for decades. Don't care about people who don't like you. You should see more people who love you and care about you, and listen to their voices more."
After that, Shen Yue was photographed falling in love with the male No. 3 who used to play together. She also made no secret of it, sitting on the back seat of her boyfriend's motorcycle , wantonly enjoying her own youth.
Her open-mindedness is far beyond her age. She will not go to the top of some negative comments, but she will be very indifferent to bad comments.
After that, she started to lose weight hard for the image in the new play, and she looked two sizes smaller in front of the camera than before.Now that the new drama is airing, those who have complained about her can no longer catch her emoticons, so they can only give up.
As a public figure, Shen Yue responded like a textbook to those bad comments that hated her.
Her approach is exactly the same as what Mo Yan said, and it also lets us know that the best way to show people who don't like themselves is to ignore them. If you are still a little competitive, then take the opportunity to try to make yourself better. It was a silent counterattack.
Yu Guangzhong , as a scholar, is also known by young and old because he wrote " nostalgia ". It is said that there are gains and losses.
In a program, he was publicly called a liar, and he also slandered Yu Guangzhong for being mentally abnormal, and fabricated a lot of lies to serve as evidence. For a time, the discussion on Yu Guangzhong began to boil.
is the old Mr. Yu Guangzhong. After all, he is a man of great wisdom. He has not publicly stated or defended these criticisms. He keeps scolding me, which shows that his world cannot live without me, and I ignore him, which shows that I can live without him in my world."
When these words came out, people suddenly realized that the wisdom of scholars is hidden in In life.
Therefore, when you are criticized by people who don't like you, it's useless to make excuses, and you will waste your time with these unworthy people. In the long entanglement, you also unknowingly become a person of the same level as the other party.
In fact, many of the world-famous masterpieces contain women who are full of wisdom in life, such as " Jane Love ", the heroine Jane was staying at her aunt's house at the time, and she was often bullied by her cousins hated by people.
Jane's temperament is very tough, but she has never fought against those people. Because she knows that the most important thing is not to protest, but to speed up to make herself stronger and to quickly leave the current environment.
So, Jane desperately makes herself independent and can live a good life alone. In the end, Jane became the independent woman she wanted to be, and someone her cousins couldn't touch.
May you have the courage to be hated, don't force anyone and results, just do what you should do, and then walk firmly towards your goals.
Many people's lives are always hampered by interpersonal relationships, and they are troubled. When your world is wide enough, you will find that the previous sorrows are completely worthless.
People's life is so short, you should spend more time with your loved ones and those who love you, and spend your time on really interesting things.
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