Regarding the dinner, many people have this mentality: I just eat and drink anyway. As for what I have, I don't want to worry about it or worry about it.
I can’t say that you are wrong with this kind of thinking, but please remember, "Going out, you can’t help yourself." There are many things that you can’t do as you want, otherwise there will be so many in the world. Scheming and routine? For example, these three kinds of people suddenly invite you to a dinner, the fool ran to eat and drink, and the smart one tactfully refused.
1. The leader is not directly affiliated.
Every professional is eager for a promotion and salary increase, but before a promotion and salary increase, you must also have a good relationship with the leader, because the "lifeline" of the leader's development is completely in his hands.
If there is a leader in the company invited you to dinner, you will definitely be very happy, because it shows that the leader intends to make good friends with you. But please also pay attention. If the other party is not your direct leader, I suggest you better not go, otherwise you are probably "digging holes" for yourself and jumping inside foolishly.
In fact, smart people can see through it. Leaders who are not directly affiliated with you suddenly invite you to dinner. It's definitely not just sitting together for dinner on the surface. It must be "undercurrent".
Please think about it carefully. It is very difficult to survive in the workplace. You are not a person with a reputation. Why are you not directly affiliated with a leader who will actively invite you?
The ultimate goal of this kind of leader inviting you to dinner is to get benefits from you and to make a fool of yourself, because he and your direct leader are in a competitive relationship, so make an "open mouth" from you , Grab the handle of your leadership.
Under normal circumstances, as long as you participate in the dinner, then you will probably suffer, because you can't play with him when you play routines. If you can be a leader, the routine is definitely deeper than your ordinary employee.
2. People who owe money and do not pay it back.
Repayment of debts is a matter of course. Some people have asked you to borrow money but have not returned it. You take the initiative to contact them. The other party either finds various reasons to perfuse you, or simply ignores you and treats you as air.
If such a person who owes money and does not pay you back suddenly invites you to dinner, don't think that he will pay you back after "conscientiously discovering" it, unless he states in advance that he will pay you back at the dinner when he invites you.
This kind of people who owe money has no credibility at all. The purpose of asking you to eat is often to continue to borrow money from you, and maybe the meal he invited you will cost you all the money Borrowed from other people.
So, like this kind of dinner, you can directly "open the skylight and talk to the other party", and you want me to eat. Yes, but you can pay back the money first, otherwise we will not have a happy meal.
As long as the other party has no other plans, then he will definitely return the money to you happily. If the other party hesitates and asks you to come, then this meal is mostly a "Hongmen Banquet", and you will definitely not please you. It may even be foolish to borrow more money to the other party.
3. Retired leaders.
If you mix well in the company and have a certain status in the team, then the retired leader suddenly invites you to dinner, and I suggest you not to go, especially the kind that used to have a very ordinary relationship with you and did not take care of you Leadership.
This kind of retired leader invites you to dinner. To put it bluntly, he wants you to do things for him, or to help his acquaintances "go the back door", or he has other plans.
Although it is said that "a lean camel is bigger than a horse", the workplace is a very realistic place. There is a price to pay when talking about human relations. How could it be possible to do thankless things for you just because of a meal?
So,For dinners where retired leaders invite you to participate, unless there are special circumstances, it is best not to go.
Summary
The above three kinds of people suddenly invite you to a meal. The fool ran to eat and drink, and the wise one declined. Are you smart?
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