Newlyweds have to fight with each other, because young people have not learned to tolerate each other. The sunset is red, and it is indispensable to talk to each other of helplessness, because it feels a bit too late to know how to get along with husband and wife. Everyone who comes here knows that middle age is the best time to realize life and feel marriage. But the reality is that most middle-aged couples, although they have reached middle age, their relationship seems to have come to an end, and they have no interest in the other half.
Middle-aged, have survived many things, and even lived through the life of the old and the young, but the two people can no longer be interested in getting along with each other. When they were young, the vision of the middle-aged life was gone. .
From the perspective of psychologists, people's interests are always there. If you are not interested in something, you must have your own attention elsewhere.
Therefore, there is a reason that middle-aged couples have no interest in their other half. Among them, men and women have common reasons and different difficulties. The root causes are these, let's analyze them one by one. The lack of freshness of
01), the most common reason is that middle-aged couples are too dependent on each other, and long-term dependence is more slack.
On weekdays, two people are more ignorant of each other's feelings because of their dependence, and the phrase "old husband and old wife" blocked out the passion that should have been.
Even, many men think that their wives will go to the end with them anyway, as long as they don’t have excessive behaviors, and live peacefully like this, there is nothing wrong with them. A female reader of
consulted me: I don’t know when it became a luxury for me and my husband to hold hands, let alone hugs and kisses. I don’t know what’s going on.
never found any signs of change in his heart, and his three meals a day were the same.
02), I asked friends around me, most of them are in this situation, is it true that middle-aged couples live like this? I don't want to do this, what should I do?
In fact, everyone does not know that the pursuit of ritual and romance is something worth promoting for love at any age. What is the sense of ritual?
To give a simple example, candlelight dinner is a kind of romance, a small cake for birthday. The purpose of
is to make life colorful and let the monotonous life no longer be boring.
Later, my advice to this consultant included traveling together, changing to a strange environment, and looking for freshness.
Another reason for the influence of mood swings is
. It is estimated that when it comes to the hearts of many men, it is also the most appropriate evaluation to describe what they call the "resent woman".
Housewives who have been tortured by firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea have long lost their passion for life, they always talk about the parents and the parents, or the comparison between relatives and friends.
In addition, women are most willing to complain about daily expenses or financial problems for both husband and wife.
More and more realistic women will even feel that as long as men get back the money they make every month, it doesn't matter what they do outside.
In this way, middle-aged men are increasingly unable to feel the slightest sense of existence in their wives.
Many husbands always complain that the once gentle wife, now, facing the gifts or surprises her husband gave to them, they always use money to weigh, and even complain about the husband’s misuse of money.
For the sake of money, real problems have already made housewives become more and more money-seeking and realistic. It is no wonder that disappointed husbands are less and less interested in middle-aged wives.
Therefore, it is very important to learn to control and release one's emotions correctly. The most commonly used methods of calming down are deep breathing and self-suggestion.
Let's focus on self-suggestion. When we feel that we have emotional fluctuations, or the other party implements emotional fluctuations on ourselves, then what we need to self-suggest is to immediately stop the current communication, etc., and continue after the emotions calm down.
Life problems between husband and wife
Actually, middle-aged couples have one of the most important and unspeakable problems when one party loses interest in the other half, which is the disharmony of life between husband and wife.
Middle-aged women, mostly Facing the troubles of menopause, during the day, the irritable mood is manifested in the handling of family chores.Husbands who are close to their wives are likely to receive cold words from their wives.
looks like women who have other men outside. In fact, women who are troubled by menopause are the saddest. They can't do without their husbands in their hearts, but they are always more irritable to them because of their health.
all say that middle-aged men should be more tolerant of their wives. In fact, anyone can do it for a while, and long-term maintenance is a challenge for too many husbands.
The emotional problems of middle-aged people are mostly in the state of "no slap". Often, the more the spouse wants to maintain the relationship, the more they care about it, the chaos, and then various problems arise.
In short, let alone that the husband and wife have no feelings for a long time, and they have lived for many years and have experienced ups and downs. The person who knows their heart best is the other person. Even if there is no interest, there are still responsibilities for each other in life.
Remember not to shut out the other party, and be a person who truly understands each other. Marriage is not easy when you reach middle age, and you should do it and cherish it.
