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While eating today, my mother suddenly said: "I won't help you with your children in the future." I thought to myself: What's wrong? Why did you mention this problem suddenly? It turned out that my mother chatted with Grandma Xing downstairs today and talked about helping with children. Grandma Xing is 53 this year and she has only one son in the family. She has worked her whole life, and now she finally hopes that her son will get married and have children. Grandma Xing looked at the white and fat grandson, not to mention being overjoyed. So, when her son said that she would let herself come over to help bring the children, Grandma Xing was also very happy in her heart. But I didn't expect that it was this kid who brought up too many problems.
Two days ago, Grandma Xing took her grandson to the vegetable market to buy food, but she didn't expect that there were too many people in the vegetable market, and the child disappeared when she was naughty. This made her anxious and looked everywhere. Later, when she finally found it, she found that the child seemed to have fallen down and had some bruises on her arm. Grandma Xing hurriedly took the child to the hospital, and then notified her son and daughter-in-law.
When the son and daughter-in-law arrived, they complained about Grandma Xing after seeing the child without asking anything: "What are you doing with your child to buy vegetables? He is so young, you don't say to leave the child at home." He said to the side, “It’s too dangerous for you to let him run in the vegetable market by himself. This is not lost. What if the child is lost?”
. Because many children in the news recently like to go out through their windows, Grandma Xing is also afraid of children. In case something happens where you can’t see it, just think about taking your child with you, which is safer. She herself did not expect this to happen. But the son and daughter-in-law didn't ask anything, they came up and began to criticize, making Grandma Xing feel wronged and heartbroken.
Grandma Xing thought the more she felt wronged in her heart. When someone asked: "Do you regret helping your son with the child?", the grandma replied: "I regret it a bit, but if you don't help with the baby, the child will mention it to you in the future. I feel resentful, but I am willing to help my son "
" grandma's words make people feel uncomfortable to hear, really feel sorry for her, I believe this is also the heart of thousands of elderly people. Indeed, with the increasing pressure of modern young people, many families need both spouses to work and earn money. This is doomed, many families are elderly people with children. After all, there is a difference between old people and young people bringing children. If you live with an old person, you will inevitably have this or that kind of contradiction. But now many young parents, seldom can understand the hardship of the elderly. Some even criticize the elderly for their mistakes in bringing children.
For the elderly, bringing children is actually a work beyond their own energy. Because I not only have to take care of the children, but also do housework and take care of the family. Under this kind of high-density "work", many elderly people lose their free time and are under tremendous psychological pressure for fear that they can't take care of their children.
Now, the proportion of elderly depression is increasing year by year. Nearly 30% of the elderly are just because they take care of their children. There is no way to guarantee the quality of their sleep. They also have a heavy responsibility. Sometimes they are prone to anxiety and insomnia. Especially for the elderly from the countryside to the city, they bid farewell to their familiar environment and came to an unfamiliar environment. I don't know many people, and I don't speak Mandarin. It is difficult to communicate, so I become more and more lonely.
Some people think that asking the elderly to help with their babies is a "new type of unfilial piety." However, in view of the current situation, it is unrealistic not to let the elderly help with the baby. Therefore, we must be grateful and considerate for the elderly to help with their children. Be considerate of the difficulty of the elderly, do not start to criticize anything you encounter, and compare your heart to heart. At the same time, we should also communicate more with the elderly so that the elderly can take care of their babies scientifically.
I am a helper, a senior nursery teacher, private message "parenting", to help you answer your troubles on the road with your baby~
